Can''t breathe

[Gypsy]

I''m sorry, I have to get this out. Just ignore the post.

I''m so stressed I can''t breathe. My chest hurts. I feel like my boss is trying to kill me. God I need out. I want out, so very badly. Please Lord help me.

 

[allycat0303]

awww Gypsy. Think happy thoughts (Ie said boss disappearing off the face of the earth) Hang in there. Don''t let such a worthless person give you a panic attack! Hugs!

 

[Independent Gal]

Awww, sweety.

Here is something I sometimes do if I get really stressed at work. Pay attention to your body. You are probably all tensed up. Try to sit up straight and then consciously relax all the muscles in your body. You''ll feel a little better instantly.

 

[neatfreak]

You can come take a vacation in Wisconsin.

Nothing but farmer's markets and beer on the terrace (linky). Very low stress. Doesn't that sound like FUN???

And you are welcome anytime. We have a spare bedroom!

 

[Skippy123]

Here is a (((((hug)))))), so sorry

. Deep cleansing breaths honey.

eta: I am worried about you too!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Layla, you are scaring me. Please talk to someone (or us) about your feelings. We are here for you honey!

 

[bee*]

Oh my gosh Gypsy, you have to get out of that job, or get your boss out of her job. If you can, go out and take a walk, even fly into the toilets. Just get away from her for a few mins.

 

[Kaleigh]

Oh Gypsy,

We are here for you. Perhaps you should go home early. I am worried about you too.

 

[Gypsy]

I''m scaring me too. Just physically ill about this. Thank you all for your support. Gonna do some serious job hunting tonight again. ((HUGS)) and thank you for the concern. Can''t leave early, wish I could. I came in late with a migrane and she''s been making me pay for it, and threatening me about it all day.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Hope you find a new job soon! No one should make you feel less of a person. Just remember it isn''t YOU, she obviously has issues.

 

[icekid]

Giiiiiiiirl... this isn''t healthy!! You need to put serious effort into a new position. No job is worth killing yourself slowly, which is exactly what this kind of stress is doing to you. Life is way too short. Sending you thoughts that you''ll have an end in sight shortly...

 

[Sabine]

Awe, Gypsy, I hope you are home, getting a massage from FI, and taking a nice relaxing bubble bath by now! If not, please try to ignore that nasty boss of yours as much as possible!

 

[isaku5]

Oh so sorry to read this, Gypsy

. As others have said, deep cleansing breaths for now, but your work environment is toxic as is your boss

. If there''s no way to get rid of her (legally), you have to get out of there asap. I know, easier said than done, but every day you''re there with her is hurting you more than you realize. If your migraines are more frequent now than in the past, she''s damaging your health as well as your emotional well-being.

Are you eligible for (stress) leave? If so, please take my advice and get out of there today!

As much as I hate to see her "win", it''s a very shallow victory and not worth sacrificing your health for.

I''ve been in a horrible situation similar to the one you describe, and through sheer force of will stayed an entire year (of hell). Of course, by that time I was so ill, I had to admit defeat. Not pleasant and definitely going against the grain for me. To this day, I''m sorry I didn''t listen to my body and my GP and get out sooner. Pride can be destructive, and I don''t want to see it destroying you too.

((((((BIG HUGS))))) for now!!! We all love love you, and have your best interests at heart.

 

[jas]

Hugs to you. If I had a voodoo doll of her, I''d stick it with pins all over.

Relish that job search tonight. I stayed in a bad job situation three years longer than I should have. Life on this side of it is wonderful...come on and join us.


Grr...I hate poopy bosses.

 

[isaku5]

Date: 4/21/2008 5:24:50 PM
Author:Gypsy
I''m sorry, I have to get this out. Just ignore the post.

I''m so stressed I can''t breathe. My chest hurts. I feel like my boss is trying to kill me. God I need out. I want out, so very badly. Please Lord help me.

This is the post that says it all. I''m not overly religious, but during my commute to work every day, without a word of a lie, those are the very words I used! Then I remembered another passage, ''The Lord helps those who help themselves" and that was all I needed to make a move....out the door. Thank you for disability insurance as I wasn''t fit to work anywhere at that point.

 

[snlee]

Oh no! Are you ok? I am worried about you too. Please try to relax. Lots of hugs to you!

 

[SarahLovesJS]

This is not good!!

((HUGS)) Please try to destress!

 

[angel_nieves]

I don’t know what is going on in your life right now, but I wish you the best. Sending you fairy dust your way to help the situation.

 

[allikatac]

Aww (hugs). Don''t let someone like that get to you. I know that is easier said then done. I hope that you find a fantastic new job and you never have to think about the mean boss again!

 

[Gemma12]

Layla, big hugs! I hope the job hunting goes well because this is a terrible situation for you!

 

[anchor31]

I''m so sorry Gypsy! I''ll be praying for you.

 

[Gypsy]

HOME.

I have a meeting with one of our E-VP''s tomorrow. He''s in a different department, and I''m PRAYING he will consider allowing me to transfer into his department. He''s knows I''m unhappy and why. I''m not going to bad mouth her or anything. Just say that I prefer to be in that department b/c of the opportunities that would be available to me there. I would really really love to switch departments. Heck I''d even stay in this department if I could report to someone other than my boss, or her boss (who allows her to act like this, and sees no problem with it).

But I''m not putting my eggs into one basket. I''ve got a few solid job leads one of my co-workers (who hates my boss, and can''t believe her boss allows her to get away with this crap) found for me. They are good jobs, at good companies... so I''m just crossing my fingers that one of them works out.

This, right here, is my boss. And she''s verbally abusive as a result. In a nutshell:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_Personality_Disorder

Self-aggrandizement to the point of exaggeration, deception and outright lying.
Seeking and requiring excessive attention, admiration and rewards from others.
Fantasies of fame, power and success. Belief in their superiority over others.
Exploitation of others without feelings of guilt.
Envious of others. Belief that the perception is reciprocated.
Given to frustration, anger and irrationality when they do not get what they want.

 

[PrettyBlues]

Awww Gypsy, that''s no good. I really hope you find something else soon, you don''t need this stress in your life. Now that you''re home, have a drink and try and relax a bit. Big hugs.

 

[Kaleigh]

Oh she sounds god awful Layla.

My prayers are with you that you get out from under this witch and find something else soon. Or that you get transferred to the other department. I truly believe that life is short, living under these circumstances is not accpetable. I hope you get some rest, and a good night''s sleep. With everything you''ve had to endure lately, your stress meter is on over load. HUGS!!!!
xo,
Lisa

 

[CrownJewel]

Gypsy, I hope you''re feeling better. Sending hugs your way and fingers crossed that the E-VP from the other dept can help you transfer!!

 

[diamondfan]

You can always get a Boss Doll and stick big pins in it...

 

[Octavia]

Yikes, Gypsy. This situation keeps getting worse and worse, I''m so glad that you have found some other job possibilities. My friend worked for a guy who was very much like your boss, and she ended up getting hives a couple times a month and throwing up pretty much daily from the stress. Everyone''s body reacts differently, and it sounds like yours is telling you the same thing hers told her. I hope you can get out from this before it does serious damage. I''m wishing you luck.

 

[Gypsy]

Okay. Applied to some jobs. Feel better. Nervous about tomorrow. But, there ARE jobs out there for me. THERE ARE. I just have to find the right one... and maybe I can get out from under this situtation. Thank you so much everyone. Sorry to worry you so. I AM having physical reactions to her. And it''s very scary. It''s definitely time to do something about it.

The vodoo doll idea has merit. LOL. Keep it in the car... poke it whenever I feel the need. I like it.


THANK YOU ALL.

 

[star sparkle]

I hope something comes through for you, Gypsy! You don''t deserve to feel terrible at work, or anywhere for that matter. I''m sorry you''re going through this.

(hugs)

 

[Kaleigh]

BEST of luck!!! So glad you have other options, that''s awesome. Keep thinking good thoughts.

I would say what I''d like to send to your boss, but that''s not productive at this point.