Can you say "Awkward??"

[Lynnie]

So, to make a long story as short as possible....

My mom has been in a fued with her next door neighbors since she moved in there 8 years ago. They''re the type of people who are like the "kings" of the block - put a lot of $ into their house, have 3 cars, always have the newest and best thing out there. Waterskis, a pool, etc (you get the idea). Now, there is nothing wrong with this - they are successful, and have every right to have what they have. But they tend to um, flaunt it.
This is a very middle class neighborhood. The houses are rowhouses. I imagine the median income is no more than $50000 - the houses go anywhere from $100K-210K.
My mom is now by herself - I moved into an apt 2 years ago and my younger brother moved out 1 year ago. She works 50+ hours a week to keep up with the bills, and if she doesn''t mow the lawn in time, this neighbor will call the "blight" program rather than ask my mom to do it (or be neighborly and offer to do it for her). Now, keep in mind that once the grass hits 4 inches, he calls. The "blight" program even came out once and were like "He called THIS in???". I imagine this guy (and his wife), are embarrassed that mom''s house is not kept up as well as their''s. It''s not delapitated or anything, but sure - it could use some work. For my mom, it''s a time/$ issue. We do help out when we can. There are many more similar instances, like my mom''s cat got on the deck and jumped onto his (rowhouses=connected decks), and the guy FLIPPED - "How would you like it if I let my DOG on your deck???". He''s just a rotten egg, and the wife kinda takes the ride, keeps quiet etc. Get my jyst?

SO - two weeks age I found a lump in my breast. Went to the gyno, told me it was probably just a simple cyst. Best to get an ultrasound to confirm. So yesterday I go to the ultrasound place. And guess who gets to ultrasound my boob? THE WIFE!!!!! Awkward is not the word. Mortification comes to mind. So she goes to say "I know my husband can be difficult". OK lady. I say "Yeah, he accused me one time of throwing a dead squirrel in his trashcan". Don''t know why, but thats what came to mind. She just shook her head. Then the conversation turned professional - "This looks like a cyst to me. The doctor will be in" And she left. I almost died. I was so shocked that I had to show this lady MY BOOB, that I didn''t know what to say! AAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGGGHHHH! Why, oh why is it such a small world sometimes?????
Thanks for letting me share my horror story

 

[Aloros]

Oh my goodness! Poor you, and poor that woman! I''ll bet she was even more mortified than you, feeling that she had to apologize for her husband.

 

[luckystar112]

LOL, laughing at the squirrel comment.

Well, it almost seems like, in so many words, that she was trying to apologize to you for the actions of her husband. The fact that she would bring it up in such an inappropriate setting just goes to show that maybe she wishes she could say something but doesn''t because she doesn''t want to feel the wrath of the beast!

I had a neighbor like that one. Kept his yard up METICULOUSLY. He used to knock on our door and chew us out whenever he felt like it. Mostly about our grass (which gets cut once a week by PROFESSIONALS), but one time he threw a fit because we didn''t pick up one of the newspapers tossed on our front lawn in a "timely" manner.
Nutcase.
He was on oxygen too....I actually think he may be dead now!

Maybe, next time the neighbor feels like he has to get on your mom''s case, your mom should write him a letter letting him know how much she works. Our maybe you and your brother can chip in to have someone mow her grass for her?
We pay someone like $40 every couple of weeks.

 

[Lynnie]

Thanks for the responses. It did kinda seem as if she was apologizing for her crazy hubby, but I''m sure the squirrel comment didn''t help much. I didn''t know what to say, let alone mean to put my foot in my mouth!! Oh, well. We were overall very pleasant to each other (maybe TOO pleasant ie "killing each other with niceness"). I''m just glad I don''t live there anymore... having to see them everyday. I can just imagine last nights dinner conversation "Guess who has a cyst in her breast?". LOL I hope I''m overreacting.
About the lawn - my brother and FI do mow it in the summer for her. But if it''s not that, it''s something else, ya know?
The neighbor on the other side of him can''t stand him either. Everytime I see her she says "I cant wait till my daughter''s out of school so we can move".
I''m glad to hear I''m not the only one with neighbor issues.
Lucky LOL @ oxygen - he may be dead!

 

[somethingshiny]

OH I started thinking...if he''s that picky about his yard, how picky is he on his wife??

I can imagine that would be horrifying for you to expose yourself to her, though.

 

[miraclesrule]

OMG...gives the whole "let''s have a girls get together" a whole new meaning.

 

[Girlrocks]

Well it could be worse...I thought you were going to say that HE was the GYNO!!

 

[Stephanie]

Date: 4/23/2008 7:20:55 AM
Author: Girlrocks
Well it could be worse...I thought you were going to say that HE was the GYNO!!

That''s what I was expecting too!

Hopefully she wouldn''t bring up her work at home.

Glad that it was just a cyst, though.

 

[LegacyGirl]

Ditto

 

[diamondfan]

Oh, gosh. But more importantly you are okay, right?

She might have thought you were going to tell her what a you know what her hubby can be, thought she would preempt you by apologizing first!

 

[Lynnie]

HAHAHA - If he were the gyno, I may have just fainted of shock right there!!!!
Thanks for the concern, ladies -- I am fine. It scared the heck out of me at the time. I was lying in bed trying to go to sleep and I happened to lay my hand across my chest and felt the lump - it''s like the size of a superball. I FREAKED - couldn''t go back to sleep, got on the net right away to find out what I could. Kept saying to myself "Webmd.com says 80% of all breast lumps are benign". I found it on a Saturday night, and couldn''t call my dr. till Monday morning, who couldn''t fit me in till the FOLLOWING Thursday. It was a stressful 2 weeks - wedding planning stress is a walk in the park compared to that kind of stress!! So the gyno says to take Vitamin E and primrose supplements and cut the caffiene (which is next to impossible as I work 12-hour night shifts

) I''m trying, though. The Dr at the ultrasound place said there''s no treatment neccessary unless the lump is painful (it''s not), and that sometimes they just go away on their own. It''s a HUGE relief, though, knowing it''s not seroius.