BriBee
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BriBee
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LOL, you ladies are persistent!
Pandabee...I do love cushions...that's the stone I had the first time around, but this time I'm actually looking at asschers with Jonathan at GOG, maybe I should try to change my name, haha....
As far as the story goes, it's a blessing that things didn't work out. We got engaged in November of 2007, it was a grand thing at a professional basketball game (big screen at half time and all that). I was still in school so we planned a longer engagement, but I did start planning right away and wedding date was set for 8/8/2009. Got all kinds of stuff lined up right away...venue, photographer, DJ, etc (lost some deposit money
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But fast forward to August 2008 and I find out through a series of events that FI has a SERIOUS drug problem. He was abusing prescription painkillers...everything from Vicodin to Norco to Oxycontin. I was so naive at the time, I seriously had NO idea. Things had definitely changed between us, and he just seemed SO flakey, but I had no idea it could be drugs. The majority of our friends and family were shocked when this came out. So he went to rehab and I tried to stick by him. We called off the wedding but not necessarily the engagement. I think in the back of my mind I always knew it wouldn't work after this all came out, but I was trying to stand by him and help him through this time. There was a sense of obligation and guilt, like if I left him he would relapse and it would be my fault. Well, he ended up relapsing BIG TIME in April 2009 and that was it. He was caught stealing money, he lost his job, and I had to cut ties. He moved out of our house and went to rehab again and then to a sober living house. We stayed in touch somewhat for a while, but I was never going to be able to trust him or build a life with him again. The worst part was that we worked for the same company so when he was caught stealing it was just so much drama, both personally and professionally.
I've heard through the grapevine and some mutual friends that he recently got married. I honestly hope he's staying clean and sober and is very happy, I really want the best for him and for him to be healthy (for his sake and the sake of his wife and future family).
It's all a blessing in disguise because I am now with SO and he is absolutely the love of my life. He is completely different from my last two serious relationships and it feels like such a perfect fit. I also feel that going through everything that happened 5 years ago made me older and wiser, and now I have a much better idea of what I want for my life and from a mate. It also helps me to let the little things go because I've seen what real problems look like, so I think it's made me more patient and less nitpicky, which makes everyone happier
Anyways....are you sorry you asked? It's such a long story, haha. It's great to be back on PS and as a LIW
Pandabee...I do love cushions...that's the stone I had the first time around, but this time I'm actually looking at asschers with Jonathan at GOG, maybe I should try to change my name, haha....
As far as the story goes, it's a blessing that things didn't work out. We got engaged in November of 2007, it was a grand thing at a professional basketball game (big screen at half time and all that). I was still in school so we planned a longer engagement, but I did start planning right away and wedding date was set for 8/8/2009. Got all kinds of stuff lined up right away...venue, photographer, DJ, etc (lost some deposit money
)But fast forward to August 2008 and I find out through a series of events that FI has a SERIOUS drug problem. He was abusing prescription painkillers...everything from Vicodin to Norco to Oxycontin. I was so naive at the time, I seriously had NO idea. Things had definitely changed between us, and he just seemed SO flakey, but I had no idea it could be drugs. The majority of our friends and family were shocked when this came out. So he went to rehab and I tried to stick by him. We called off the wedding but not necessarily the engagement. I think in the back of my mind I always knew it wouldn't work after this all came out, but I was trying to stand by him and help him through this time. There was a sense of obligation and guilt, like if I left him he would relapse and it would be my fault. Well, he ended up relapsing BIG TIME in April 2009 and that was it. He was caught stealing money, he lost his job, and I had to cut ties. He moved out of our house and went to rehab again and then to a sober living house. We stayed in touch somewhat for a while, but I was never going to be able to trust him or build a life with him again. The worst part was that we worked for the same company so when he was caught stealing it was just so much drama, both personally and professionally.
I've heard through the grapevine and some mutual friends that he recently got married. I honestly hope he's staying clean and sober and is very happy, I really want the best for him and for him to be healthy (for his sake and the sake of his wife and future family).
It's all a blessing in disguise because I am now with SO and he is absolutely the love of my life. He is completely different from my last two serious relationships and it feels like such a perfect fit. I also feel that going through everything that happened 5 years ago made me older and wiser, and now I have a much better idea of what I want for my life and from a mate. It also helps me to let the little things go because I've seen what real problems look like, so I think it's made me more patient and less nitpicky, which makes everyone happier
Anyways....are you sorry you asked? It's such a long story, haha. It's great to be back on PS and as a LIW
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As a future pharmacist, we learn a lot about how awful and easy it can be to succumb to prescription abuse and I'm sorry that you had to deal with that with your ex. It sounds like he is doing better and I hope it stays that way. I'm glad you finally found someone who is compatible with you and doesn't bring you down!
Past, Present, Future: The Meaning of Three-Stone Engagement Rings
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