Home Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers

[Tacori E-ring]

Lisa, it is a HUGE relief for both DH and me! He wishes my mom could stay a month.

 

[mrssalvo]

tacori, that''s great your mom is willing to stay longer. your doc. seriously won''t induce until 41 weeks?? i thought mine was conservative, he was going to do me at 39 weeks though if I didn''t go into labor before. will push big time for an induction this time as well b/c with 2 small kids, i''d like to have a solid childcare plan and going into labor in the middle of the night is not one of them...we''ll see....


So, went back to my oldnavy today and stocked up. got a few more pairs of jeans and pants, a bunch of long sleave teeshirts to wear with a puffy vest or under a sweater, the cutest black cardigan twinset thing as well as some cute stuff for my girls. I did peek at the baby stuff but will wait until spring to start buying. hope all of you are doing well.

njc, i hope you check in soon.. can''t wait to hear how it went and how your littl guy is doing..

diver, thinking of you too!!1

 

[divergrrl]

Mercoledi: hey! I''m lookin for you! Posted a thread to you in hangout to find out how your pdx trip went! thanks for the congrats on my daughter!

Oshin: Thank you! Jake likes her, he''s a little apprehensive, but he''s started to help with her bath...LOL. He''ll be a good big brother. As long as I acknowledge him FIRST in the morning, its like money in the bank....he''s better all day. He & I do "dates". This friday I''m taking him to the children''s museum with our friends who have a son his age while daddy stays home with baby. I have one more week until I can lift Jake again (on a 4 week "no lifting anything heavier than Delaney" order from my OB cuz of my tubal) and I''m looking forward to taking care of my son''s needs again. He''s a little sore at me for pawning him off on grandparents (who moved into my house 3 weeks ago, so I have lots of help...thank God!) I try to do as much as I can for him, but he really is a momma''s boy.

I keep lurking for NJC news.....SHE''S KILLIN'' ME TOO! LOL. Gee, its not like she''s busy, or sleep deprived or doing anything. LOL.

Diaper Champ: Well I love mine. Its an older one I got for $5 on Craigslist with Jake (when I donated my diaper genie cuz I hated it), but the fact that it uses any bags was a winner with me. Of course, once they start solids, NOTHING keeps the stink in. We take them straight out to the garbage bin outside at that point. P.U.!

Ellla: How are you feeling? I''m excited to see your twin babies.

Tacori: Barreling down the home stretch girlfriend! I''m so excited for you too. Your baby is head down now right? How wonderful.

Mrs. S: are you out of the m/s yet?

Well, I just filled up my shopping cart at Old Navy with some cheap t''s and some fleece. I need some new long sleeve layers, all my stuff from last year is so SHORT! yuk. I had fun taking all the summer maternity wear out of my closet. yay! Hanging on to my sweats, but i''m in that weird place. 90% of my maternity wear is TOO BIG, and 90% of my non-maternity wear is TOO SMALL. LOL. At least my mat jeans are sorta staying up--I have a cute pair that is a regular waist with belt loops--they were too tight in my 2nd tri, so they are perfect now...I can wear those until this last 5 lbs comes off and I can get into my old jeans. I can get into them now, but its a LEETLE TIGHT. lol. and I have major muffin top issues. LOL.

That''s all, Jake is playing quietly and D is snoozin in her bassinet, so I have a few minutes of peace before she wakes up hungry. My little piglet.

xoxo

 

[chrono]

Then you all won''t like my doctor. The practice I went to does not induce until 42 weeks.

I had my stress test when I was 41 weeks, then delivered 12 days after the EDD. I can''t imagine being 14 days past EDD. I was so ready for the baby. My mom was there to help me and the baby for 1 week, but the baby didn''t want to budge. By the time the baby was born, my mom only had a day or two left before she had to return. I walked and I shoveled snow, but he stubbornly stayed put in my uterus.

 

[ellaila]

Funny how different doctors do things so differently, isn''t it? In my class the other night, one woman (twins) said her doc has told her from the beginning that they will do a c-section at 36-37 weeks. To me (and most things I''ve read/heard), 36 is too early -- 37 is the minimum number of weeks for a baby to be considered "full term." I''m shocked that a doctor would tell this woman they''d deliver at 36 weeks! But I guess each dr. has their own opinion.

Diver, I can''t believe you''ve lost all that weight already! Go you!! I don''t remember -- are you BFing Delaney? I know there with issues with Jake, so I didn''t know if you were going to try again with D or not put yourself through it again, since I know it was pretty painful (on different levels) for you. (I could probably go back and find this info in another post, but I''m sleep-deprived and cranky today and feel like being lazy.)

Tacori, I''m betting 39 weeks for you

That''s great that your mom can stay with you for longer

I did something bad to my knee last night, and YOUCH am I in pain!! I didn''t actually DO anything to it -- it just started to hurt last night out of nowhere, and it kills me basically anytime I bend it. So things like, you know, standing up or sitting down, going up and down stairs, getting out of bed five times during the night and then having to sit on the toilet and get up and get back into bed ... they''re all horribly painful. Between that and my constant back pain, I have to say that I''m pretty damn uncomfortable at this stage of the game. BUT I still want another 9 weeks at least of them being in there, so I must suck it up. (Though that doesn''t mean I can''t whine from time to time, right?)

ohhh njcccccc, we can''t wait to meet your little baaaabyyyy!!!

 

[lili]

Oh Ella, hope your knees recover soon.
Is there anything that you can do to relieve the pain? Like putting heat packs or something?

 

[Tacori E-ring]

MrsS, maybe it is different since this is my first baby. We didn''t have a *serious* talk about it just a general, when do you induce?Sometime in the 41st week, okay...If it comes down to it I might be more pushy but a lot can happen in 2.5 weeks (hopefully). I do want to do what is healthest for baby and me. Obviously baby needs to bake a little longer. I thought he would do an internal but maybe it is pointless at this stage. I am guessing next week (3 they will.

Diver, baby is head down. Gotta love the cervix pressure! Ouch! That is awesome the weight seemed to fly off. I hope I have the same experience

Chrono, you poor thing! 12 days over. Arggg...I would be so upset. Physically I am so drained and feel icky. I took the longest nap today. My belly is HUGE. I mean beyond big. He said sometime in the 41st week so I am hoping that means 40 weeks and x days

Might be a mute point. Only time will tell.

Ella, I think 37 weeks is when the lungs are mature (usually) so I don''t blame your doc for wanting to wait until then. Are you trying for a VB or a C-sec? That might have something to do with it too...As much as I want to meet my baby and get rid of these preggo symptoms I don''t want to force him/her out before it is ready. Not yet anyways

Hope your knee feels better!

GapMaternity has some nursing stuff on sale. I ordered 2 nursing nightgowns that will be good for the hospital and they were only $12.99 a piece!!! My MIL sent me a few but they are the kind with the slit up and down and I feel like they might be a tad revealing if I move a certain way

These have an extra piece that flips up. Seems "safer" to me. Also I got a night time nursing bra. I need to actually go pick out some regular ones but just in case I don''t have time I figured something was better than nothing. Any suggestions on nursing bras? I feel like I need more support than the ones I saw at Target.

 

[nytemist]

OK, I just sent this article to friends of mine with kids, figured I would post it here too.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21247580/wid/11915773?GT1=10514

 

[njc]

Hi ladies!!!

Yall made me cry with all the well wishes an then made me laugh whining about where I have been. NJC time has definately disappeared for the time being.

Jonathan William was born Wednesday, October 3rd at 2:26pm! I had a crazy fast labor, which was nice, but shocked everyone, even the doctor and nurses! I barely made it to my appt and was sent straight to the hospital once I was checked (5 with a bulging bag). I was in the room and hooked up by noon and less than 2.5 hours later had my baby boy in my arms! They had JUST finished asking me 1001 questions when they said it was time to push! I''m still in shock over everything... it was amazing. We are both doing great overall though we both have had a few crying fits!

We are all learning how everything works. BFing is going well... I highly recommend using all the resources available to you! I really wish I had known I could go down to the lactation center while I was sitting in my room board out of my mind. I went yesterday though and it has made a world of difference. Jon had his first check up Monday with the ped and everything is great.

I''m sorry I dont have any pics to post right now... they are all on DHs comp (thats a whole other story) and I''m on the laptop while Jon naps. I will try and post them and a little more detail of everything (if yall are interested) in the next couple of days!

My one biggest disappointment... DH.

He took the week off to help/adjust/bond, or so I thought... he has been playing a f#&*$&$ video game on his computer while I am stuck on baby duty and he wonders why I am balling my eyes out. I want to tell him, and I know I need to, but its just going to make him mad and I cant handle both of my boys angry at me.

When he isnt glued to that he is pretty good, but good lord I just want to scream... I think he has played well over 40-50 hours since Monday. Time well spent... glad we skipped a vacation over the summer so he could have the week off.

Oh well... my mom is coming back up to help out on Tuesday, which is also my bday, so I am just trying to stay focused on that.

Gotta run... Jon is a calling!

 

[oshinbreez]

Congratulations.

 

[lili]

Oh wow, NJC. Congratulations!! I can''t believe that you had such a short labor.

Wish I can be as lucky when the comes time.
Glad to hear that Baby Jon is doing great. That''s great that your mom is coming up to help. It''s always nice and reassuring to have mom there.

Anyway, can''t wait to see pix of your precious.

 

[chrono]

Welcome to the world, Jon and glad you came back (even for just a bit), NJC! We''d love pictures when you have time. !st time fathers just don''t know what to do, you need to speak up and be VERY specific. For example:
1. Load the washer and turn it on
2. Pick up the mail and sort
3. Change the baby''s diapers so NJC can catch up on much needed sleep/rest
4. Heat up meal/get water for NJC

Can''t wait to see pics of the new cutie.

 

[Jas12]

Yea! Congrats NJC!!!!! Sounds like your labor was wonderfully short and sweet!

Can''t wait to see the pics

P.S. Have that talk with DH--you may not want him mad at you, but it worse to have you brood over something that IMO is utterly unacceptable--your emotions are working over time as it is, you don''t need that strain, you need help.
Good luck!

 

[TravelingGal]

Congrats njc! I just got back from hawaii this morning and had to check in, and am so glad you did! Can''t wait to hear more about your story...what a superfast labor. Did you go epidural free? How was it? Did that hypnobabies thing work? Inquiring minds wanna know...

So glad you are doing well, and sorry to hear your DH isn''t being the most helpful. I hear you''re not alone though...I think some men don''t know what to do with the little bundle of joy.

 

[Kaleigh]

Congrats njc!!! And welcome baby Jonathon!!! Can''t wait to hear more about your super fast labor! And look forward to seeing some pics of your precious baby boy!!!

 

[Skippy123]

Congrats NJC!!!! How exciting and do talk to your hubby. Men are so silly sometimes. I can''t wait for your pictures! I bet he is a doll!

 

[divergrrl]

NJC: Congratulations! Crazy fast labor! Good for you....I can''t wait to see Jon pics when you get a chance. Chrono gave you some great advice, just give him specific instructions. If I can give you one piece of advice from the trenches, ASK for the help you need. It may feel like you shouldn''t "have" to ask, but unfortunately, no one can read minds. Also, when the new baby comes communication becomes even MORE important in your marriage than ever. Never stop talking about what''s going on as it comes up. My DH pi$$ed me off to no end when Jake came, but he''s been great with Delaney, because we worked through all that the first time around & I try to be very specific as to what i need from him. Hang in there, you''ve also probably got the baby blues right now, sobbing is normal. big hugs to you!!!

Ella: I am not bfing Delaney. I was wracked with guilt for the first 10 days or so, but now I''m blissfully ok with it. I think that''s a reason the weight is falling off so fast (although it appears to have stalled with 5lbs left to go...oh well, that''s manageable--next wednesday I''m off my 4 week "no lifting" mandate & will start doing my daily walks again)....I noticed with Jake, I didn''t lose more than a pound or two when I got home from the hospital (I only lost 10lbs in hte hospital with both kids) until I weaned him. It''s my suspicion that your body hangs on to some of those maternal fat stores to help support/protect your milk supply. I know I''ve read that somewhere.

I need some advice here...you guys might remember me talking about the crap with my mom. Well, she''s very unstable mentally, and I''m done getting hurt by her (and I don''t want to subject my kids to her toxic manipulations/disappearing acts--they don''t deserve it). So she sends me a card a few days before I have Delaney--stating that she left me alone during my pregnancy so she wouldn''t "stress me out". B.S. When she & I are getting along, we talk almost daily and she likes to help out with my son. She also said she realizes I dislike her (nice, putting all the blame on me) and while we disagree (yeah, right...she''s obsessed with my dad & stepmom & I refuse to get in the middle so apparently I''m the bad guy) she''s still here for me (oh whatever).

So that upset me. then after I had Delaney, she left 3 huge packages on my doorstep in the middle of the night on my birthday. D is barely 6 days old and she pulls this stunt. Like I''m not tired, emotional, hormonal, and vulnerable enough as it is.

The packages are still sitting in my dining room, untouched (it''s been almost 3 weeks since they showed up). I get a lot of "private caller" hangups (she''s the only private caller I know because of her job, she has to block her number...haha...she''s a psychiatric R.N...how do ya like them apples?) and I have no idea what to do about them.

this is so like her, she thinks she can buy us stuff and that I''m that shallow that I''ll be won over by a gift and forget all about her emotional manipulations. I really want nothing to do with her. I''m tempted to have DH take the boxes back to her house today, but I''m not sure if that will inflame things more.

What do you guys think I should do?

 

[chrono]

Diver,
Taking them back will definitely inflame this further.

I'm pretty sure of it. I don't have any advice but it certainly sounds like a very delicate situation.

 

[E B]

Yay, NJC! Congratulations on your baby boy. Can't wait to see pictures of him!

Tacori- The home stretch! Yay! Sending you tons of good birth vibes.

As for me, I'm officially off the pill, and it could be as soon as the next cycle that DH and I start to try. We're waiting to see how we feel.

We're also waiting for my gyno appointment, because I'm having everything checked out. I'm going to request a prenatal prescription and hopefully, she'll give me the green light!

Needless to say, I'm going to be keeping up with this thread pretty regularly! Yay!

 

[divergrrl]

Ebree: Good luck!

Chrono: yeah that''s what my dh said, as well as a few of my friends. Hmm.....rock...meet hard place.

Oooh mad baby awakes hungry! Must run to the rescue!!!

 

[lili]

*hugs* to Diver. i really don''t have any advice for a delicate situation like this. i hope you resolve it soon. *hugs*

 

[snlee]

njc, Congratulations on the birth of your son! That's great you had a short labor!

Tacori, almost there! So excited for you! Lots of labor vibes coming your way!

TGal, happy belated anniversary to you! How was your Hawaii honeymoon??

EBree, Congratulations married woman! My husband and I are going to start TTC soon too. So exciting! Good luck!

 

[lili]

Good luck Ebree!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

njc, I am SO happy for you and your DH! I can''t wait to see pictures of precious Jon. I have no real advice on how to deal with your DH. We all KNOW how sensitive mine has been through my pregnancy

Luckily he doesn''t play nor do we have a video game system but I have no idea how helpful he will actually be. But I am always a strong believer in communication so I would tell him how you feel. Yay that your mom can come back! Hope you have a great birthday. Maybe My baby will be born then

Wishful thinking! I am so jealous your L&D sounded awesome! Your body was just made to give birth girl!

Ebree, good luck and thanks for the labor dust. Sending baby dust right back at ya. I take PrimaCare and really like it (I know Chrono takes/took the same prenatal). My doctor really like it and there is a stool softener and trust me, you''ll need it

Oh if you are due for a cleaning I would visit the dentist ASAP. You won''t be able to have x-rays done when preggo plus I read that it could actually help with conception and overall health. Pregnancy takes a toll on the teeth I guess. I am worried I will have all these cavities at my next appointment.

Snlee, thanks for the good vibes. Hopefully it will happen soon. I have 2.5 weeks left but baby seems pretty darn comfortable. Just playing the waiting game and hoping if my water breaks it is NOT in public! Haha! How embarrassing!

Diver, I wish I knew what to say. I probably would keep the gifts. I think that is her way to show you love (not that it is right). I do know people don''t change so if you want her in your life it seems you need to take her on *her* terms. Not fair at all but the good news is you are a good, loving, sensitive mom. So the cycle has ended with her. (((hugs)))

 

[E B]

Thanks for the good luck wishes, everyone! I'll most likely want to go a full, normal cycle or two before starting to try. Is it ridiculous that I've calculated what my hypothetical baby's due date would be if we were successful the first month we try? On second thought, don't answer that!

Diver, I'm so sorry about your mom. I agree with everyone else; I'd keep the gifts. I also agree with what Tacori said about possibly trying to show her love in an awkward way. *HUGS*

 

[mrssalvo]

njc....yay!!!! so glad you checked in and things went well. Please do tell if you had an epidural or went au natural. we love the nitty gritty details in this thread. can''t wait to see a picture of Jon.


diver, you''ll have to update pics of delany too. has she grown much? I bet you are so happy to be almost be able to lift Jake again. that would be just torture for me to not be able to lift my girls, although I don''t do it much any more since they are getting big and need to walk. as for you mom, gosh, I''d probably at least look though and gifts and keep them. although things are hot/cold with her i do think she wants to so something to show she cares and if it were me, partly because i''m a peacemaker, i''d just accept them. as for the crazy calls etc. is there a way you could set up a time to plan to meet her once every 2 weeks or something in a neutral zone like mcdonald''s playland for her to see the kids, jake could play and you''d be in public so less of a chance of a scene? i know things are just strange but I guess if it were me, I''d keep giving her a chance just b/c she was my mom..nutcase at all. good luck though, go with your gut, you''ll do the right thing for you!!!

not much news here. next appt. on monday and then only 4 weeks until we find out the sex which I''m sooooo excited about. Oh and I *think* I felt the baby move. everything says it''s possible at 16 weeks, i''m only 14 weeks but they also say if you''ve been preggo before you might feel it sooner b/c you know what it feels like and thinner people also will feel movement sooner. when i felt it the first thing that popped into my head was, OMG I felt the baby move!! but i''m not 100% so i''ll just leave it as maybe it was and maybe not, but b/t me and the baby it was

 

[divergrrl]

Tacori===thatd work w/ a sane person, but my moms terms are unnacceptable.....

As for my mom, its not about forgiving her. She''s mentally ill...bipolar, sociopath, you name it. If I stay in the relationship with her, I am subjected to a whole host of toxic behavior no matter how clearly I define my boundaries with her. She is a world class manipulator, button pusher, and I live in abject fear of what she might do to us. I could seriously see her kidnapping my children. At the very least, I can see her filling their heads with the same poison she dumps on me. I''ve tried being patient, kind, to no avail. I''ve tried tough love, with even worse results. I''ve put my foot down & been very firm about my boundaries, and she just goes BANANAS at that. She can only stay "sane" with us for a few months and then she loses it.

So, I''m better off, WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY better off without her, as are my kids. It hurts, because when she''s nice, she can be really nice, but she has a crazy look in her eyes, and you can sense the turmoil and the storm just beneath her surface, and you can never tell what will set it off. I must say my life is less complicated without her.

my brother does not speak to her either, has not for over 3 years. Same reasons as I have. He just got sick of hte drama & mind f-ing. He says its hard at first, but gets easier, and as my children''s uncle, its his preference that I never expose them to her.

I wish I could just forgive her and heal the relationship, but when you have someone who is sick, but thinks that they aren''t & that everyone is out to get them & that everyone else is the problem & that they are so wronged & misunderstood...well, its impossible. My dad tried 4 years of marital counseling with her before he gave up...he couldn''t fix it back in 1978 to 1982 -- and she''s been through counseling with him & on her own & is still the same, so I figure she''s a lost cause. Also, talk therapy with sociopaths tends to worsen the problem, not fix it..and she became a psych nurse in the last 10 years, so she *thinks* she''s got us all figured out.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 10/11/2007 7:07:42 PM
Author: divergrrl
Tacori===thatd work w/ a sane person, but my moms terms are unnacceptable.....

So, I''m better off, WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY better off without her, as are my kids. It hurts, because when she''s nice, she can be really nice, but she has a crazy look in her eyes, and you can sense the turmoil and the storm just beneath her surface, and you can never tell what will set it off. I must say my life is less complicated without her.

Well, I guess you answered your own question then. No one needs a toxic relationship so I would cut off all ties. Is she local? (sorry if you already mentioned where she lived I can''t remember).


Ebree, the first thing I thought of when I calculated my due date was the birth stone. How sick is that?!?!

MrsS, I can''t wait for your to mind out! I bet it was the baby.

 

[lili]

Date: 10/11/2007 6:53:19 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
Snlee, thanks for the good vibes. Hopefully it will happen soon. I have 2.5 weeks left but baby seems pretty darn comfortable. Just playing the waiting game and hoping if my water breaks it is NOT in public! Haha! How embarrassing!

Wow, you are so close Tacori.
Incidentally, how much water does come out when your water break?
Just wondering if I need to be prepared and wear a security panty when EDD is close?

 

[E B]

Date: 10/11/2007 7:15:05 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring

Ebree, the first thing I thought of when I calculated my due date was the birth stone. How sick is that?!?!

LOL! Well, since you actually had a baby cooking (with an actual due date!), not sick at all! This IS PS.

But if we were to get pregnant not this cycle, but the next, the baby would have a due date very close to if not on my birthday! The funny thing about that, besides the obvious, is that I was due on my mom's birthday. I came a week late, though.