bridesmaid down! bridesmaid down!

[sillyberry]

Well, today one of my bridesmaids dropped out of the wedding.

She called me sobbing and I assumed someone had died, but no. Her very best friend, who was supposed to get married in August, changed her wedding date to mine. And she was already (and for years) planning on being her MOH. She tried to pay the friend to change the date, but for whatever reason it couldn't happen. So she called just in absolute tears. Apparently a coworker -- who happens to be a not-very-nice bride -- told her I would never speak to her again, but I assured her that was NOT the case and of course I still wanted to be her friend and no she was not disinvited from the bachelorette party! I also recommended her friend choose purple as her color since there was already a bridesmaid dress in that shade. Fortunately I had her laughing by the end of the conversation.

She did say if I changed my mind and decided to get mad I could call and yell at her.

I'm really sad, but I understand and it's okay. I just wanted to vent a little. There is a silver lining however! The FI hadn't decided on a fourth groomsman, and didn't have an obvious choice, so while he's sad that I'm sad (and he really likes my friend), he's also quite happy that he doesn't have to come up with another guy.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I am writing this in bold because I really, really mean it...
You are an amazing friend

 

[slg47]

I am writing this in bold because I really, really mean it...
You are an amazing friend

Italia, I agree. SB, really sorry to hear this but I think the way you are dealing with it is perfect. It's really nice that you are being so understanding also, no need to have equal numbers, but it's nice when it works out that way!

 

[mary poppins]

That's disappointing, but you handled it well. Tough position for your friend to be in. Glad it also worked out nicely since your fiance was undecided about an additional groomsman.

 

[PavePrincess]

I am writing this in bold because I really, really mean it...
You are an amazing friend

I completely agree.. Your friends are very lucky to have you as a friend! I'm sorry about the situation.. that really sucks.

 

[sillyberry]

Awww...thanks ladies. That's really really nice of you to say (and in bold!). It means a lot to hear that you think I handled it well. I'm hoping we're getting the bad luck for the wedding out of the way early (fingers crossed!).

One of my favorite things to do is send people emails that just have images in them, so I sent her one that pictured a sheet of notebook paper with "P.S. I Still Love You" on it." She replied that that made her cry again, so I followed it up with one that featured a very hefty pre-teen boy carrying a blue plastic lunchbox and wearing a t-shirt that says "I F*** ON THE FIRST DATE."

 

[mrscushion]

You reacted great and sound like a really nice person!

ETA: Hahaaaaaa! Your e-mails are hilarious.

 

[vc10um]

I'm sorry to hear your friend won't be able to be there for your on your wedding day, but I have to agree with everyone else who said you're handling it amazingly well! (Not that I'm surprised...based on the advice you usually give to other girls in LIW/BWW, I knew you were level-headed and awesome!) You are a wonderful friend for comforting her as well, and I'm sure she appreciates it.

BTW...someone needs to go shank your friend's coworker!

 

[rosetta]

You're a great friend and so is she for getting so upset and worrying so much about losing your friendship.

She obviously values you very much indeed.

 

[ac719]

I agree with the other ladies; your did an amazing job handling the situation and your an awesome friend
Itll be alright! *hugs*

 

[february2003bride]

Sillyberry- you are one classy lady and a great friend!

 

[StonieGrl]

You rock. The very definition of class. What a difficult situation for you and your friend to find yourselves in but you both handled it beautifully. You're a terrific friend and you'll be a terrific spouse too with that level of kindness and consideration.

Hee, great emails too!

 

[Autumnovember]

I am writing this in bold because I really, really mean it...
You are an amazing friend

Big, BIG ditto to this. There were so many ways you could have reacted to that kind of news and you handled it more than perfectly. So many people would not have done the same as you. It seems that you both really value your friendship---thats awesome.

 

[hoofbeats95]

Wow! You are a fanatastic friend!!!!

 

[princesss]

I've just got to ditto the other ladies - you handled this the best way possible. Good for you for being able to support your friend even thought it's disappointing news to you. That's serious class.

 

[sillyberry]

So, I really want to thank everyone. Truly. I hope if in the next 121 days I totally lose my marbles and do something heinously bridezillaish you can pull this thread out as proof that I wasn't always awful and yell at me to snap out of it.

 

[yssie]

I am writing this in bold because I really, really mean it...
You are an amazing friend

Yes, yes you are sillyberry. You handled your (and her!) disappointment with real grace and generosity you've just up your nuttiness quota for the next 121 days quite a bit I think

 

[Jessie702]

Silly, you are not only classy, but a wonderful person. You handled it much better than most brides would, and i have to appluad you.

 

[kittybean]

Aww, you are such a sweet, true friend. Your friend is very lucky to have you!

 

[MissGotRocks]

Kudos to you - well done!

 

[nicoleben]

Very sweet of you.. This is why I hold true to "everything happens for a reason!"