violet02
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My BM''s sent out the shower invitations mid-August to about 40 women. I''d say maybe half of these women live out of state, a lot of them are family.
The invitation said RSVP by 9/4, which is today, via phone.
Most of the people out of state did not RSVP... I assume it''s because they live far away and it''s fairly obvious they won''t be coming. Although my FI''s aunts and his cousin were kind enough to call and say they couldn''t make it. I knew my grandma probably wouldn''t call because she told me that she obviously couldn''t make it... I was suprised my step-mother who kind of pushed me to have a shower to begin with didn''t even call at all. My FI''s mom didn''t call but she sent a gift so that''s fine of course.
What''s the etiquette for that though. Should you always RSVP even if you live far away? Is it impolite not to?
Also next question... is it more impolite to not RSVP if you live right in the same city? BUT do people take showers more lightly and are RSVP''s not really required for them? I have no idea how this is supposed to work.
The invitation said RSVP by 9/4, which is today, via phone.
Most of the people out of state did not RSVP... I assume it''s because they live far away and it''s fairly obvious they won''t be coming. Although my FI''s aunts and his cousin were kind enough to call and say they couldn''t make it. I knew my grandma probably wouldn''t call because she told me that she obviously couldn''t make it... I was suprised my step-mother who kind of pushed me to have a shower to begin with didn''t even call at all. My FI''s mom didn''t call but she sent a gift so that''s fine of course.
What''s the etiquette for that though. Should you always RSVP even if you live far away? Is it impolite not to?
Also next question... is it more impolite to not RSVP if you live right in the same city? BUT do people take showers more lightly and are RSVP''s not really required for them? I have no idea how this is supposed to work.