- Sep 7, 2006
Well, ladies, I just got back from a 4 day trip to Raleigh, NC, and I''ve got to say it''s such a beautiful place! The weather is great, the people are really nice, and the community is really growing. At first, I didn''t like it very much, but then a colleague of my bf took us all around and it turned out that we had been driving around the ghetto parts!So, after seeing the nicer parts of the area, I do really like it. But... I''m just not so sure about my relationship now. The last few weeks/months have been really stressful. He''s been traveling a lot for work, and when we have been together there''s been a lot of bickering over little things that aren''t really important at all. That''s wierd for us because we''ve only had about 3 fights in the almost 8 years that we''ve known each other. It seems like all of these life decisions (talking about marriage, talking about moving, etc) are forcing us to really decide if we''ll be compatible for the long term - at least, they''re causing me to think about these things, which I think is good. So, I''m still not making any decisions - just observing, and thinking and doing a lot of self-reflection. I think there''s a good chance we may break up within the next few months, but we''ll see. With that being said, I spent the four days in NC thinking, where would I rather be if I was single again, Pittsburgh or Raleigh? And, let me tell you ladies, Raleigh is the definitive winner!!! There were tons of attractive men, and I actually had 3 men pick up my left hand and look for a ring when we were discussing the fact that we were considering moving to NC. So, I think the men in NC might be more pre-disposed to the idea of marriage. Anyway, long story short, I''m pretty certain that we''re moving to North Carolina in either Feb or Mar depending on when his townhouse here sells. I''m not sure if we''ll stay together, but I''d rather be single in Raleigh than single in Pittsburgh. So, that''s the update...