LiW BIGGEST piece of POOP EVER!

[Sapphire_Cutie]

This is ME I am talkin about here ladies. Long story short...there was a ring i fellhead over heels for differant then anything we''ve been lookin at or for. SO was away for a while when I had found it. Then he went and looked at it when he came back and said it was really nice and can see why i liked it , it was ME etc etc. It is the ONLY one of this ring so Ive been on edge about it selling if he didnt move fast enough and I was pretty sure he was POSATIVE he was gunna get it since he kept saying it was all about me and what i wanted. That I had to wear it and so on. Well yesterday morning he said to me while layng in bed ''i REALLY hope that the ring makes it there til tomorrow'' (I had already been informed on Fri that someone else had looked at it too) So I was like ''if you know youre gunna call the seller, why dont you do it TODAY? He said i MIGHT...i dunno if i AM gunna buy it. (he had a prior ingagement to go to yesterday) I said during the day Id pass by the shop and let him know if it was still there or not. He said ok. So 1st thing I go to see, and its outta the window where it ALWAYS is. So i pop my head in the store and the owner shakes his head at me and says ''sorry hunny, i told you it would sell, i know how much you wanted it. im sorry'' so i asked him if my BF had called him that morning and he said no. So i left the store and TRIED not to get all choked up cuz I was with a friend and didnt wanna seem like a WEENIE for crying over a ring...but it was the only one that i had looked at that actually gave me that butterfly feeling in my stomach and heart JUST like i get when i look at my SO. which is why to ME it was SO IMPORTAINT. Well I was really upset and txtd SO he said ''WHAT!" then ''sorry'' anyway...ugh i told you guys long story short sorry. Anyway i was upset all day and was mad at him and he knew it cuz I had txtd him so (i was upset cuz for someone who kept saying it was about what I wanted, i didnt see why he wasnt jumping on it concidering the chances of it being sold and that being the ONE i wanted) it just didnt make sense to me and seemed like he was putting it off. The owner told me he hadnt called, and he said he had. I asked him when and he gave me a time which was 45mins EARLIER then i had txt him and said it had been sold and he was shocked. So that made me think he was just saying he called cuz he knew he screwed up and i was upset. When he got home early this morning i was still upset but trying not to say anything. just laying in bed. and he asked me what was wrong was i ok. which made me MAD again cuz i had told him why he was mad, and if he didnt know then he was too buys with his friends to pay attention to me. So at THIS point im PISSE* but NOT about the ring but because I felt like he WASNT listening to me at all today and that hurt my feelings. We faught and I had a panic attack as usual and started crying. He knelt down in front of the bed and said ''Cutie, i dont know whats going on and why your so upset, if its about the ring.....i WAS going to suprise you ...but NOT if its going to make you like THIS....Sweetie I bouught the ring for you this morning'' he hugged me and went to go into another room to leave me be in hopes i could calm myself down....

I AM THE BIGGEST @$$ KNOWN TO MAN LADIES! I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOO upset with myself for acting like that. All that he had told me during the day didnt jive cuz he was TRYING to suprise me and was just BAD at lying... I feel so bad that part of me doesnt even want the ring anymore. OY

 

[LegacyGirl]

Oh that sucks,

I would be so upset if I ruined a surprise like that. I understand you being upset. What''s done is done though... and now you know you''re going to have that pretty ring!!

 

[WTNLVR]

I''m sorry it turned out this way. It sounds like something my husband would have done. I would have felt just like you did. I have had him do things like this in the past so now I just buy something if I see it and have him give it to me for x-mas or whatever. At least he did actually buy the ring of your dreams. Hopefully in a few months you''ll be laughing about it together. Just apologize, explain how much it means to you that he did buy it and that you realize you spoiled his surprise and are sorry for it. It will all be good in the end. But you MUST post pics when you get it on your hand!

 

[Rhea]

I did the same thing and got all upset. DH didn''t cave though and just tried to distract me. Much to his distress the distraction worked and I said "well, I guess I didn''t like that ring as much as I thought I did. I like this one better." I had no clue he bought the ring I wanted and he was stressed because here I was saying I didn''t actually like the one he bought. It''s never a good situation to get hooked on a ring while your partner is trying to surprise you.

I''m sorry that you don''t feel very good now. I''m sure that after a couple of days all this will have blown over.

 

[jkil0313]

I agree the best thing to do is apologize and then allow him the chance to surprise you with it.

Same sort of thing happened to me. My fiance took me to the zoo on our anniversary, we go every year. I knew he had bought the ring and thought he didnt'' have it on him because I did a full inspection looking for some sort of box. As we got off the metro and walked towards the Zoo we had a conversation and he said he didn''t have it with him and didn''t plan to give it to me for awhile. I completely believed him and then got angry wondering when the hell he was ever going to give to me. I got over it throughout the day as we had a really great day, but sure enough as we were leaving he proposed (he put the ring in a bag so I wouldn''t be able to tell, what can I say the man knows me) Of course I was estatic and so was he but I felt like a complete a&* for my earlier reaction. Overall, he didn''t care he just thought it was funny because he was able to get it by me and keep a straight face through it all. I actually have pics of him on that day checking his jacket pocket to make sure it was still there, never dawned on me why he was doing it.

Anyway everyone gets over it, Especially since he hasn''t actually proposed he still has the ability to surprise you. My fiance thought by me knowing he bought the ring I wouldnt be surprised (I only saw the diamond not the ring itself), but I think it was more of a surprise knowing he was able to get it passed me. But I have to say that Jewelry store owner sure was a good actor

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

Thank you everyone for your replies and your similar stories. They made me feel a LOT better. Things are ok now. He isnt mad. He just didnt want to see me upset and didnt realize it would effect me the way it did. SO now its just a waiting game...and i will DEF post pics ASAP. Thanks again...you all mede my day better

 

[luckynumber7]

it''s good to hear that things are okay between you guys.

i just hope he doesn''t make you wait too long. good luck and keep us posted.

 

[iheartscience]

The title of this thread is hilarious. For a second I really thought the thread was going to be about actual poop until I read a few more lines of the post.

Well hey-at least you know you''re going to have the ring of your dreams, right? That''s why boys shouldn''t be so hell bent on "surprises"-they usually end up making the girl mad!

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

Date: 4/6/2008 8:06:20 PM
Author: thing2of2
The title of this thread is hilarious. For a second I really thought the thread was going to be about actual poop until I read a few more lines of the post.

Well hey-at least you know you''re going to have the ring of your dreams, right? That''s why boys shouldn''t be so hell bent on ''surprises''-they usually end up making the girl mad!

LMFAO! HA thats SOOOO funny...thanx for the laugh.

 

[E B]

I agree with everyone else- now that you know you'll have your dream ring, just sweetly apologize and in the meantime, kick back and wait!

But seriously, how have we made it this many posts without a description of this fabulous ring?

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

Date: 4/6/2008 9:02:03 PM
Author: EBree
I agree with everyone else- now that you know you''ll have your dream ring, just sweetly apologize and in the meantime, kick back and wait!

But seriously, how have we made it this many posts without a description of this fabulous ring?

EBree: LOL Its is a vintage ering that is an all filligree solitare. Its is the COMPLETE opposite of what I have been looking at for the past few months. I have been looking for a 3 stone diamond and sapphire ring and walking down the street one day this was in a window and caught my eye and I was in love instantly. I REALLY liked a lot of rings that we had looked at...but this was actually the FIRST to give me that butterfly feeling (same as i get when i see SO...so thats how i KNEW It was THE one and i HAD to have it) Sorry I dont have GREAT pics yet...so these will have to do.

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

It is a 1.25ct H SI3 (yes i know technically there is NO SI3, and you can NOT see ANY inclusions that I have noticed with the naked eye. And even if ya could, I honestly dont think Id care cuz im in LOVE lol)

ETA: the tan/brownish spot to the left in the stone isnt there IRL. I took that pic through a glass window. When you loopk at this stone you see all the lil rainbow sparkles in it and its SOOOO pretty. as SOON as i have it in MY posession i will post more pics

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I am glad to hear you will be getting your beauty! I remember your post a few weeks ago about this ring and was wondering what was happening...now I know

I''ve heard many stories about ladies who have gotten upset about a ring absent from a website or jewlers window only to find out their FI bought it and kept it under wraps very well. Heck, I''ve even heard of ladies who are crabby or annoyed the day they are proposed to so it happens and people always seem to get over it.

Any idea on when he''ll officially pop the question?

 

[louisvgirl]

I had a feeling when you said the ring was gone he had bought it for you...glad things are okay with the two of you.

Congrats,

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

Date: 4/7/2008 10:35:00 AM
Author: Keepingthefaith21
I am glad to hear you will be getting your beauty! I remember your post a few weeks ago about this ring and was wondering what was happening...now I know

I''ve heard many stories about ladies who have gotten upset about a ring absent from a website or jewlers window only to find out their FI bought it and kept it under wraps very well. Heck, I''ve even heard of ladies who are crabby or annoyed the day they are proposed to so it happens and people always seem to get over it.

Any idea on when he''ll officially pop the question?

KTF: NO IDEA WHEN lol but Im OK with that. Im MORE relaxed now cuz I had been stressing for almost 3 wks about this ring lol. So now its like...ok i can breath. I dont think personally that he can hold on to it for TOO long. And Im not certain if he has it in his posetion yet or not. He had the option of putting a deposite and paying it off in 2 mos OR paying in full...so i have no clue which he did lol. But again...im ok with it and will post pics as SOON as it is given to me lol

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

Date: 4/7/2008 2:10:30 PM
Author: louisvgirl
I had a feeling when you said the ring was gone he had bought it for you...glad things are okay with the two of you.

Congrats,

aww thanks

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

Date: 4/7/2008 5:48:34 PM
Author: Sapphire_Cutie

Date: 4/7/2008 10:35:00 AM
Author: Keepingthefaith21
I am glad to hear you will be getting your beauty! I remember your post a few weeks ago about this ring and was wondering what was happening...now I know

I''ve heard many stories about ladies who have gotten upset about a ring absent from a website or jewlers window only to find out their FI bought it and kept it under wraps very well. Heck, I''ve even heard of ladies who are crabby or annoyed the day they are proposed to so it happens and people always seem to get over it.

Any idea on when he''ll officially pop the question?

KTF: NO IDEA WHEN lol but Im OK with that. Im MORE relaxed now cuz I had been stressing for almost 3 wks about this ring lol. So now its like...ok i can breath. I dont think personally that he can hold on to it for TOO long. And Im not certain if he has it in his posetion yet or not. He had the option of putting a deposite and paying it off in 2 mos OR paying in full...so i have no clue which he did lol. But again...im ok with it and will post pics as SOON as it is given to me lol

Posession* ? lol dunno if he HAS it already oy

 

[lliang_chi]

Cutie, I can''t wait to see the pics once you have the ring in *your* possession! Yay!! Happy ending (although now you have to wait knowing he has It). We''re here for you if the wait becomes frustrating

 

[Dreamgirl]

Sapphire_Cutie- I could feel your pain while reading this because that sounds like something I would end up doing (not to mention something my boyfriend would do too!) Ah the crazy things us women do. But I really do feel for you.

He must love you a lot though to get you the ring you wanted!


Well, at least you know that you've got the ring. So I'd just tell him your a woman and we get crazy sometimes, and that your sorry. Then forget about what you did and be happy because he has the ring you want and hes going to ask you to marry him! How exciting is that?! No worries, this too shall pass.

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

Date: 4/8/2008 11:22:19 AM
Author: lliang_chi
Cutie, I can''t wait to see the pics once you have the ring in *your* possession! Yay!! Happy ending (although now you have to wait knowing he has It). We''re here for you if the wait becomes frustrating

lliang_chi: I PROMISE i will post pics as SOON as i have it and am near the puter lol. And SO far the waiting is a LOT easier now that I know he has it and its not gunna go anywhere. but IF it should get frustrating i will be SURE to talk about it here lol. Thanks for the support

Dreamgirl: Everything went back to normal that next morning, and for that I am GLAD lol. he is a pretty understanding and wonderful guy! He loves me and just wants me to be happy. And this ring is DEFFINATLY a symbol of that. COncidering he didnt HATE it...BUT it wasnt at all his FAVORITE either...BUT he KNEW how much it meant to me. Hes truely the BEST in MY eyes lol

 

[lotsofsparkle]

Sapphire, I would have probably been just as upset if I were in your position. What''s past is past though and in the end it''s a happy ending cause your boyfriend isn''t mad and you''re gonna get your ring that you really love. BTW, that ring is gorgeous and I completely understand why you fell in love with it at first sight!

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

Date: 4/8/2008 6:58:09 PM
Author: lotsofsparkle
Sapphire, I would have probably been just as upset if I were in your position. What''s past is past though and in the end it''s a happy ending cause your boyfriend isn''t mad and you''re gonna get your ring that you really love. BTW, that ring is gorgeous and I completely understand why you fell in love with it at first sight!

Aww thanks! Im glad you like it too lol. i cant wait to have it to take GOOD pics cuz these do nothing for that ring.

 

[HollyS]

Maybe you need to be older to have a little more perspective and more self-control . . . I dunno. But, all the way through your post, I was thinking, "I''ll bet money he bought the ring and wants to surprise her with it." Sho nuff, he did.

This is one of many reasons why you LIWs need to be less aggressive and emotional about rings and proposals. Give your guy a chance to do something nice for you, without all the needless drama. How many times does a scenario like this need to be relayed to everyone here before you all take note?

I sincerely hope the two of you can laugh off that "proposal" and not let it be a bad memory of what might have been a lovely moment. It sounds like a beautiful ring, and I''m sure (if you''ll let him

) he will present it at a much more romantic opportunity. So wait patiently like a good girl and don''t ask too many questions, okay?

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

Date: 4/8/2008 7:38:18 PM
Author: HollyS
Maybe you need to be older to have a little more perspective and more self-control . . . I dunno. But, all the way through your post, I was thinking, ''I''ll bet money he bought the ring and wants to surprise her with it.'' Sho nuff, he did.

This is one of many reasons why you LIWs need to be less aggressive and emotional about rings and proposals. Give your guy a chance to do something nice for you, without all the needless drama. How many times does a scenario like this need to be relayed to everyone here before you all take note?

I sincerely hope the two of you can laugh off that ''proposal'' and not let it be a bad memory of what might have been a lovely moment. It sounds like a beautiful ring, and I''m sure (if you''ll let him

) he will present it at a much more romantic opportunity. So wait patiently like a good girl and don''t ask too many questions, okay?

Holly: I appreciate you taking the time out of your day to respond to my post...Just so you are aware I am not a youngin like you MAY think. I am 28. And altho im SURE you didnt MEAN for your response to come across how it has to ME...BUT it comes across as VERY patranising. Just so you are aware. And again it prolly wsnt your intention.

 

[honey22]

Date: 4/8/2008 9:46:35 PM
Author: Sapphire_Cutie

Date: 4/8/2008 7:38:18 PM
Author: HollyS
Maybe you need to be older to have a little more perspective and more self-control . . . I dunno. But, all the way through your post, I was thinking, ''I''ll bet money he bought the ring and wants to surprise her with it.'' Sho nuff, he did.

This is one of many reasons why you LIWs need to be less aggressive and emotional about rings and proposals. Give your guy a chance to do something nice for you, without all the needless drama. How many times does a scenario like this need to be relayed to everyone here before you all take note?

I sincerely hope the two of you can laugh off that ''proposal'' and not let it be a bad memory of what might have been a lovely moment. It sounds like a beautiful ring, and I''m sure (if you''ll let him

) he will present it at a much more romantic opportunity. So wait patiently like a good girl and don''t ask too many questions, okay?

Holly: I appreciate you taking the time out of your day to respond to my post...Just so you are aware I am not a youngin like you MAY think. I am 28. And altho im SURE you didnt MEAN for your response to come across how it has to ME...BUT it comes across as VERY patranising. Just so you are aware. And again it prolly wsnt your intention.

It really annoys me when *older* people think that age equals experience and knowledge. It''s patronising and just a myth. No matter what age you are, you have only lived it once, it doesn''t make you any wiser or more knowledgeable just cos you have been on this earth more days than someone else. I know plenty people that are senior to me and I think that sometimes they can be totally clueless about life, and others I look up to and respect. This is due to who they are and not how old they are.

 

[purrfectpear]

Maybe age doesn''t equate to experience but I "knew" he had purchased it when I was reading your post. I would NOT have pushed the way you did either, much less burst into tears. Either he would surprise me, or I would have been wrong and kept my disappointment to myself.

Reading alot of the posts on here make me feel like some of you (certainly not all of you) make wayyyy too much of a big deal over a ring. Yes, you''re going to be wearing it every day, but still it''s about the relationship NOT the ring. Just something for you younger ladies to keep in mind. It''s NEVER worth risking making your FI feel like poop, and it''s a lot easier to avoid the risk than to apologize after.

 

[CrookedRock]

Date: 4/8/2008 7:38:18 PM
Author: HollyS
Maybe you need to be older to have a little more perspective and more self-control . . . I dunno. But, all the way through your post, I was thinking, ''I''ll bet money he bought the ring and wants to surprise her with it.'' Sho nuff, he did.

This is one of many reasons why you LIWs need to be less aggressive and emotional about rings and proposals. Give your guy a chance to do something nice for you, without all the needless drama. How many times does a scenario like this need to be relayed to everyone here before you all take note?

I sincerely hope the two of you can laugh off that ''proposal'' and not let it be a bad memory of what might have been a lovely moment. It sounds like a beautiful ring, and I''m sure (if you''ll let him

) he will present it at a much more romantic opportunity. So wait patiently like a good girl and don''t ask too many questions, okay?

Girls... Please do not take this post to heart. It was written in a condescending manner, which is anything but helpful. Holly you have made good points in the past, and this has been discussed before, but sometimes the tone of your posts is not polite. This is one of them.

And in Holly''s defense, she has added some great points to past threads, it just takes a min sometimes.

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

Date: 4/10/2008 9:11:36 AM
Author: honey22

Date: 4/8/2008 9:46:35 PM
Author: Sapphire_Cutie

Date: 4/8/2008 7:38:18 PM
Author: HollyS
Maybe you need to be older to have a little more perspective and more self-control . . . I dunno. But, all the way through your post, I was thinking, ''I''ll bet money he bought the ring and wants to surprise her with it.'' Sho nuff, he did.

This is one of many reasons why you LIWs need to be less aggressive and emotional about rings and proposals. Give your guy a chance to do something nice for you, without all the needless drama. How many times does a scenario like this need to be relayed to everyone here before you all take note?

I sincerely hope the two of you can laugh off that ''proposal'' and not let it be a bad memory of what might have been a lovely moment. It sounds like a beautiful ring, and I''m sure (if you''ll let him

) he will present it at a much more romantic opportunity. So wait patiently like a good girl and don''t ask too many questions, okay?

Holly: I appreciate you taking the time out of your day to respond to my post...Just so you are aware I am not a youngin like you MAY think. I am 28. And altho im SURE you didnt MEAN for your response to come across how it has to ME...BUT it comes across as VERY patranising. Just so you are aware. And again it prolly wsnt your intention.

It really annoys me when *older* people think that age equals experience and knowledge. It''s patronising and just a myth. No matter what age you are, you have only lived it once, it doesn''t make you any wiser or more knowledgeable just cos you have been on this earth more days than someone else. I know plenty people that are senior to me and I think that sometimes they can be totally clueless about life, and others I look up to and respect. This is due to who they are and not how old they are.

Honey22: !st I want to clarify that i WASN''t in ANY way ragging on people younger then myself. I personally know PLENTY of younger people that are indeed more mature then some people whom are older. It had just came across to ME that Holly thought I was a LOT younger then I was. Thats all. I meant NO disrespect to you or anyone else whom isnt my age. That being said:

purrfectpear: 1st I wrote my post etreemley quickly cuz I was in a rush, so I didnt get ALL the details in there the 1st time. MY fault. 2nd I had stated in my original post that by the time we had gotten into the argument i wasnt PISSE* about the ring it was about the fact that I felt like he hadnt been listening to me . Not ONLY about the ring but other stuff which I hadnt gotten a chance to put into my original post. LIke the fact that NUMEROUS times he;ll come home really later then a time he had said and me falling asleep and waking up PAST the time he stated he''d be home and him not be there. Ive mentioned to him that it worries the hell outta me, specially if I cant get in touch with him. And add the fact to that that i speciffically asked him to let the dogs out when he did get home and he said no problem and then didnt. When i mentioned it to him he said ''OH, was i SUPPOSED to?'' so it was a LOT of stuff that rolled into one. Yes I was upset originally bout the ring, and I had mentioned to him that I was upset. UNFORTUNATLY sometimes we tell eachother EVERYTHING... And I ''bursted into tears'' NOT over the ring but because at that point my heart was hearting and I told him THATS why I was crying. I have a minor heart condition and sometimes when Im upset or stressed in general I get pains and palpatations and when they start I cant make them stop. SOmetimes they ae mild and other times severe. THIS time happen to be severe. And I had told him I wasnt crying about the ring and thats not what THIS was about. But he was confused and just wanted me to feel better so he told me.

CrookedRock: I was pretty sure that Holly''s post wasnt MEANT to be condacending. Thats why I stated that im sure she didnt MEAN or intend for it to come across that way...but it had to ME...it was my opinion and was just making her aware that that''s how it did come across to me. I wasnt doubting at all that she wasnt TRYING to helpful, as Im sure she has been to many on this site.

 

[CrookedRock]

Sapphire~ In all honesty this has happened with Holly before and after pointing out to her that she was slightly out of line she came back and made some very helpful points. She was condescending, and has been in the past. And I will say that I took it that way. I was not saying that you were doubting her at all. I just wanted to point out to her that she wasn''t exactly being nice, and with any luck she will rethink what she was saying and word it better.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

boy have i missed a lot not being around ps
hmmm *makes some popcorn and settles down for what may be a long thread*