kimberlina13
Shiny_Rock
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- Sep 16, 2005
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When my fiance and I got engaged, I knew exactly who I wanted my bridesmaids to be. I had plenty of time to think about it, as we had already discussed who would do what in one of our previous "when we get married..." conversations. Anyway, I really had to think about it since he wanted 6 groomsmen, and being the very symmetrical person that I am, wanted to have an even number of girls, but I don''t have a lot of close girlfriends so finding 6 was going to be a toughie. But luckily, I had become really close with the only other young person at my work, the 6th bridesmaid had been dropped on my doorstep.
Well, fast forward a couple of months, ever since I switched departments within the organization, we aren''t as close as we used to be, and I was getting the vibe that she wasn''t into it as much anymore. There were no hard feelings, well not on my part at least, but I kept thinking of ways to give her an easy out. I would have loved her to be in the wedding, but didn''t want to her to commit if she wasn''t going to have fun doing it. So yesterday, she emails me and says that she no longer can be in my wedding due to the fact that her cousin (very close knit family) has asked her to be in her wedding, and she can''t afford to be in both, so she was declining mine. Funny, thing, I wasn''t offended at all. So, I thanked her for letting me know so quickly, and that I was disappointed but understood that family comes first.
So, just goes to show...be careful..the world works itself out in really mysterious ways! Luckily, mind ended up ok.
Well, fast forward a couple of months, ever since I switched departments within the organization, we aren''t as close as we used to be, and I was getting the vibe that she wasn''t into it as much anymore. There were no hard feelings, well not on my part at least, but I kept thinking of ways to give her an easy out. I would have loved her to be in the wedding, but didn''t want to her to commit if she wasn''t going to have fun doing it. So yesterday, she emails me and says that she no longer can be in my wedding due to the fact that her cousin (very close knit family) has asked her to be in her wedding, and she can''t afford to be in both, so she was declining mine. Funny, thing, I wasn''t offended at all. So, I thanked her for letting me know so quickly, and that I was disappointed but understood that family comes first.
So, just goes to show...be careful..the world works itself out in really mysterious ways! Luckily, mind ended up ok.