Cupcake*Muffin
Shiny_Rock
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Today was really just the tipping point for me. First I find out the extra source of income that I had for the wedding fell through. With saving for the wedding and property taxes I literally have 0 money to live on per month. Any time I spend money it gives me anxiety. I don''t know how long I can make it...I''m living paycheck to paycheck right now and the wedding is still a bit over 6.5 months. Both my FI and I are paying for everything ourselves and we are strapped trying to do it all. We''ve cut everything we can cut. FI is also strapped, he is going to grad school and he pays for alot of our living expenses like groceries because I do not have any spending money.
Then I find out our wedding bands that we wanted is around $7500, our credit with the jeweler after selling my ring on consignment is $2200. LAter on in the day, I get an email from my MOH saying that she does not want to have my bachelorette/shower on Memorial weekend even though I explained to her I can''t take any extra days off with the wedding week (destination wedding so taking the week off) and the honeymoon next year. I also have friends coming from out of town that weekend and explained that I didn''t want people to have to take extra days off when they are already taking days off for the actual wedding. She said that she wanted to spend Memorial Day weekend with her boyfriend and his family and asked that I pick another weekend. I don''t want to have to ask people to make an extra trip up to Chicago. I feel like not having either at this point.
Basically, I am strapped and exhausted. I feel I''ve been pretty easy going since it''s a beach wedding but the MOH thing really hurt my feelings. I am also struggling with saving for the wedding to the point were I feel panic that we won''t be able to save enough and I won''t be able to live if we keep saving. My FI and FILs have been really amazing with helping withe planning and FILs have contributed monetarily as well. But at the end of the day, it''s alot of money for people that have student loans and credit card debit. We want to get out of debit so we can have a family. We do not want to add to the debit with the wedding. We have been paying everything in cash.
I just feel overwhelmed. I haven''t drank in over two months, tonight I''m having two drinks. I don''t know how to make it all better. I''m looking for a second job -- but nothing so far. Just feeling a bit lost and sad. Can''t stop crying. Anyways, just wanted to put this out there so maybe someone can relate or relate any words of wisdom. Thanks.
Then I find out our wedding bands that we wanted is around $7500, our credit with the jeweler after selling my ring on consignment is $2200. LAter on in the day, I get an email from my MOH saying that she does not want to have my bachelorette/shower on Memorial weekend even though I explained to her I can''t take any extra days off with the wedding week (destination wedding so taking the week off) and the honeymoon next year. I also have friends coming from out of town that weekend and explained that I didn''t want people to have to take extra days off when they are already taking days off for the actual wedding. She said that she wanted to spend Memorial Day weekend with her boyfriend and his family and asked that I pick another weekend. I don''t want to have to ask people to make an extra trip up to Chicago. I feel like not having either at this point.
Basically, I am strapped and exhausted. I feel I''ve been pretty easy going since it''s a beach wedding but the MOH thing really hurt my feelings. I am also struggling with saving for the wedding to the point were I feel panic that we won''t be able to save enough and I won''t be able to live if we keep saving. My FI and FILs have been really amazing with helping withe planning and FILs have contributed monetarily as well. But at the end of the day, it''s alot of money for people that have student loans and credit card debit. We want to get out of debit so we can have a family. We do not want to add to the debit with the wedding. We have been paying everything in cash.
I just feel overwhelmed. I haven''t drank in over two months, tonight I''m having two drinks. I don''t know how to make it all better. I''m looking for a second job -- but nothing so far. Just feeling a bit lost and sad. Can''t stop crying. Anyways, just wanted to put this out there so maybe someone can relate or relate any words of wisdom. Thanks.