gailrmv
Ideal_Rock
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It's interesting to read about other people's fears and experiences about this very issue! For me, it's not the pregnancy part that freaks me about. I'm sure it wouldn't be easy, and I worry especially about morning sickness and losing the weight after, but overall I think it would be pretty cool. No, the big freakout for me is about parenthood - would I have enough time for myself, and enough time for me and DH together without the kid(s)? Will toddlers try my patience to the point that I lose my mind? Will potty training be horrible? Will the teenage years be miserable? These are the things I worry about! I am pretty sure that DH and I want to go for it, not so much because either of us is so thrilled to introduce chaos into our pretty good life, but because we want to have a family and that is how you do it. I AM a person who analyzes and overthinks nearly everything, but strangely, I never had any doubts at all about marrying DH. I met him in college and we married soon after, and (hugely out of character for me) I never had any doubts or regrets, even though I had previously thought I would be a single career woman til my 30s. I wish I had the same clarity on the kid issue, but I'm starting to think of it as an adventure, and I think it is what's right for us in the long term. In the book Eat Pray Love, the author Liz Gilbert said that having a kid is like getting a tattoo on your face - don't do it unless you're sure. Now THAT's the kind of clarity I want!