Home At what point should I just send a thank you?

[alli_esq]

The facts are these:*

One of my close childhood friends and I were in each others'' weddings--hers was in August 2009, mine was in November 2009. We did all of the normal stuff for each other--worked on each others'' bridal showers, attended each others'' bachelorette parties, bought the dresses, etc. We both participated in making scrap books for the other too (though she did an AMAZING job on mine, and I felt badly because I have absolutely no crafting skills at all, and the page I did for her wasn''t nearly as nice)...

I gave her a generous gift from her registry which I brought to her wedding, but she said she forgot my gift at home when she came to mine. I have seen her a bunch of times since my wedding, and on almost every occasion, when I''ve been to her house, she says, "don''t let me forget to give you your gift!" or when we''re somewhere else, she says, "oh, I forgot your gift again!" I texted her about something random a few weeks ago and she said, "I have to remember to send you your gift!"

Meanwhile...it''s been 5 months and I feel rotten that I haven''t sent her a thank you card yet! I mean, I want to thank her for all the lovely things she did for me for my wedding, and I TRULY do not care if she gives me a gift or not...but I don''t want her to think I''m trying to remind her to give me a gift by sending a thank you note...and then wouldn''t I have to send another thank you note if she DOES give me a gift at some point?

What to dooooo? Really, this isn''t a big deal, but I''m a little puzzled!










*anyone miss Pushing Daisies?

 

[jcarlylew]

"thank you for everything that you have done to help my wedding process go ...." and go on to tell her how what she did to help you, made it special for your wedding.

i would start along those lines. I think that would be just fine

 

[wannaBMrsH]

I would send the thank you note for everything she''s done.

I didn''t register for gifts and I sent all my thank you notes right after the wedding. We are still receiving presents and we just send another thank you note as they arrive.

I think people understand.

 

[emeraldlover1]

I had a few friends (two bridesmaids) that didn''t give us a gift. They are on hard times and I really appreciated eveything that they did for me so I sent them thank you''s as soon as I got them thanking them for everything they did for me.

 

[alli_esq]

Oh, I''m not concerned about what to say, and if I had thought that she wasn''t going to give a gift (we had quite a few people in our wedding, including DH''s best man, who didn''t give us gifts, and we certainly didn''t care one way or the other), I would have sent the note with everyone else''s.

Thanks for the advice!

 

[PumpkinPie]

I agree - just send it now thanking her for everything she did for you - then worry about a second note if a gift arrives