Asking Her Father Help

[Thinking_about_it]

(I originally posted this on the wrong forum...I''m not a Lady in Waiting!)

Well I finally bought a ring and it is being made by WF as I write this! Hope to get it in a week or so and propose soon thereafter.

I know I have to ask her father (and would even if it wasn''t hinted that I should). Problem is, he lives an hour or so away so I can''t just "pop over."

I was thinking of just calling him on his cell as my FI''s stepmom would spill the beans. Question is, what should I suggest that wouldn''t seem out of the ordinary? I''m thinking taking a day off and playing golf would be a good bet but FI is a teacher so would try to tag along as she doesn''t have work. How do I get him alone?? Would a lunch meeting work? I''m not even sure if his office gives lunch hours as they have an on-site cafeteria.

Help!

 

[Irishgrrrl]

I think it''s so sweet that you''re asking her Dad!

Since he does live a good distance away, is it absolutely necessary that you do the asking in person? I know that would be ideal, but since there''s distance and some logistical issues involved, it may not be very practical. When DH and I got engaged, he asked my Dad over the phone, only because my Dad lives about 15 hours away so asking him in person really wasn''t an option! I think my Dad was still very appreciative that DH made the gesture, regardless of the fact that it was done by phone.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

 

[glitterata]

If it were me, I would call him on his cell and say, "I have something important I want to talk to you about, just the two of us. Is there some time we can get together? For now I''m keeping it a secret from [her name], so we should figure out how to meet without her knowing."

He''ll probably figure out what''s up, but that''s okay, right? The tradition is to surprise the bride, not the bride''s father.

 

[girlie-girl]

I agree with glitterata. Arrange on the phone to meet up in person, keeping the secret. An hour isn''t *that* far to drive for a conversation as special/important as this one.

Good luck.

 

[Thinking_about_it]

Thanks for the feedback. I agree an hour isn''t far to drive and was planning on doing that anyway!

Just wanted to stress that I couldn''t pop in an had to plan a little more.

I''m going to wait until I have the ring in hand...which I am dying over not having yet! All I want to do is talk to someone I know about it but aside from her father I want my GF to be the first to know about it.

 

[Thinking_about_it]

Also wanted to add that I really hope the ring will work out well. I know she wants a three stone from one or two hints a while back but other than that I have made all the decisions.


Can you tell I''m nervous and anxious???

 

[spike13]

this is super sweet.

I think the previous poster''s advice is spot on. This also gives him a heads up so he''s not blindsided and caught too off guard -- just make sure to say it''s a good thing so he doesn''t worry!

Good luck! You sound like a sweet guy, I''m sure she''ll be thrilled!

 

[jasontb]

Just tell her you are going to do something she doesn''t enjoy. Prostate exam, hardware store, men''s club, work.

 

[girlie-girl]

I love that you''re so anxious and excited. I''m excited for you! We always get to experience how the woman feels during this time, but not enough guys are around to share their side!

I wanted to also say that I admire you for being traditional and somewhat old fashioned in this sense. Too many in today''s society forget it''s the little things like this that make all the difference.

Remember to be sure and show us pictures of the ring when you receive it from WF.

 

[DiamondGirly]

Golf, baseball, etc

do something manly and then give it the ol'' "so your daughter..."

 

[Thinking_about_it]

I''d love to show the ring but kind of think I want her to be the first one to see it...other than me and the folks at WF!!

I will tell you that it''s the WF "Trois Brillant" setting with ACA all round.

I will def. fill you in on the details in a week or so after everything (hopefully) goes as planned...

 

[denverboy]

i''ll have to do the same thing over the phone in a few months. i was wondering what exact wording i was gonna use b/c everything sounded kinda dumb haha
but anyway, good luck and let me know what wording you choose =P