Are you sentimental about e-ring, w-band or neither?

[rainwood]

I''m very sentimental about the man who came with them, but not the rings themselves. We''ve been married a long time and I''ve had a variety of rings over the years - not necessarily upgrades, just different ones, and I switch them up a lot.

 

[FrekeChild]

Well I''m not married yet, but I can''t wait to get that wedding band. It is the plainest of the plain, being 2mm comfort fit, domed, white gold, but what it symbolizes is so much more.

And my ering of course is irreplaceable, being that I searched for the stone for 3 months and it''s not a cookie cutter diamond. Or a preordered setting.

But if worse came to worse, and I HAD to part with them, it would hurt, but I would do it. I don''t think that will happen because they aren''t worth to sell, but never say never...

 

[davidbest]

I think the wedding band is a big thing. As for the e-ring - no! The wedding band is the symbol of the 2 people''s love for each other and that the love is unique. So I guess changing your wedding band then would change this whole idea...

But that''s just my opinion. What do you think?

 

[elrohwen]

I think I''m a bit more attached to my wedding band, and would never change it. I''d like to get rings to stack with it, maybe, but the w-band will stay the same.

I don''t think I''d be totally against re-setting my e-ring, but I would never get rid of the stone. It''s from DH''s family (I think his great-grandfather??) and we''re at least the 4th generation to own it. I love it and could never get rid of it! However, DH is attached to the setting - not because he picked it out (I did) but because it''s what he proposed to me with. His opinion could change in 10 or 15 years though.

 

[movie zombie]

definitely sentimental.

mz

 

[gemgirl]

I couldn''t possibly be sentimental about my e-ring because it wasn''t a diamond in that mounting when we got engaged. The diamond came years later. I''m not attached to that mounting at all anymore because the setter burned the inside of the gold when I had the head changed from round head (CZ) to pear head (diamond). So for me, he ruined that ring and I can''t wait to get it reset because I''ve been wearing it that way for ten long years.

I am sentimental about the plain gold bands we exchanged our vows with and for that reason, they''re safely locked away. We don''t wear those. We each have other wedding bands to chose from.

 

[Imdanny]

Date: 11/13/2009 11:41:45 AM
Author: kenny
I''m not much for symbols.

What matters is what''s in your heart.

I''ve thought since I was a child that rings are very romantic, like the ring in the Lord of the Rings- somehow there should be a "magic" ring.

I agree with Kenny, though.

I think if there is a ring and a sentiment and they match, I mean if someone is comfortable with his/ her engagement/ wedding ring, for life, I say that''s great. Having said that, I would always have to come down on the side of saying that rings are, at the end of the day, material possessions.

 

[Rhea]

I would keep both, but I rarely wear either. I love my wedding band more and would devastated if I lost or damaged it. It''s a vintage 1920s filigree floral eternity band. It took me almost a year to find the perfect one. They either weren''t the right size or the right pattern.

I have several rings and switch between them. I''m not particularly sentimental about my engagement ring, I don''t think. It''s nice, but not something I really love. I think my wedding band isn''t really a sentimental wedding ring thing. I love that ring, is all. I don''t really attach it to being married. I searched, I paid for it, and I even (gasp!) wore it before the wedding, which was 9 months after I bought it.

 

[Circe]

Date: 11/26/2009 12:06:30 PM
Author: gemgirl
I couldn''t possibly be sentimental about my e-ring because it wasn''t a diamond in that mounting when we got engaged. The diamond came years later. I''m not attached to that mounting at all anymore because the setter burned the inside of the gold when I had the head changed from round head (CZ) to pear head (diamond). So for me, he ruined that ring and I can''t wait to get it reset because I''ve been wearing it that way for ten long years.


I am sentimental about the plain gold bands we exchanged our vows with and for that reason, they''re safely locked away. We don''t wear those. We each have other wedding bands to chose from.

Oh, Gemgirl, how unfortunate! When you say he burned the gold, I''m not sure what you mean - it''s definitely something that can''t be polished out? I hate the idea that such a symbolic item was ruined for you. Since the damage is permanent, I look forward to seeing your reset on here someday ....

 

[Circe]

I am massively sentimental about both the e-ring and the wedding ring: the e-ring because of everything surrounding it (me proposing to him, but his still wanting me to have a ring ... my dad taking us around to look for the stone ... spotting the perfect setting by luck ... the whole shebang), and the wedding ring because we had them custom designed after hours and hours of intensive conversation about what we wanted, and what it stood for, and whether it should match or not, and, and, and ....

My mom doesn''t have her original wedding band: after she had me, it didn''t fit, so first dad bought her alternatives, and then, eventually, for a big anniversary, he had it remade into a beautiful thick rose gold band. Mom wears it interchangeably with all the others. Dad, on the other hand, has worn the same band, day-in and day-out for 38 years. It''s a really thin band now: he says when he first got it, it was twice as thick.

I''m sort of looking forward to my band eventually reflecting everything my husband and I have been through, just like my dad''s reflects my parents'' marriage ....

 

[Circe]

Gah, double-post. I'm THAT sentimental ....

 

[Liane]

I am a massively sentimental sap about my jewelry, and I don''t even have the wedding band yet -- in fact I have not even seen it in person, as it was just finished this morning and is on its way to me now. But once I have it, I will never part with it. The same is true of my engagement ring''s diamond, which is unique because of its cut and its tinybird inclusion. There''s no other diamond in the world that has that inclusion, and I sometimes get sniffly just looking at it (which is extra hilarious given what a massive rhino-hided witch-with-b I am in all other aspects of my life).

The e-ring itself I am not so in love with, and the day may come when I reset the diamond into a custom setting instead of sticking with the premade original. But the diamond is utterly precious to me.

 

[PinkTower]

I''m not sentimental at all. We were robbed of our rings at a hair salon shortly after we were married. I think we were fortunate to live to tell about it. Material things are just....material things.

 

[vespergirl]

I''m most sentimental about my wedding band. I started wearing it on my RH when I go out, because I have a new anniversary band I wear with my ering on my LH (the 3 stacked together are too much on my hand) but I really like the fact that I showcase my wedding band on its own on my RH.

Most of the time, when I''m just at home, and I don''t wear my ering & anni band (I''m a SAHM) I wear my wedding band on my LH by itself.