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I am currently upgrading my e-ring, and as an australian, this is pretty much an unheard of thing. Surprisingly, I have discovered that I am not sentimental about my e-ring, but I am terribly so about my plain gold wedding band.
For me, the wedding band is the symbol of my marriage, and I would never update it, or change it. Whereas the e-ring is a promise made to marry.

So how about you, are you sentimental about one or the other or neither or both?
 
I'm Australian too, so coming from a similar cultural perspective.

Call it sentimental, but I just don't see how you can 'upgrade' your engagement ring. You may get rid of your engagement ring and buy another ring, but it's just another ring, it's not your engagement ring. Your engagement ring is the ring your husband put on your finger when he asked you to marry him, and your wedding ring is the ring placed on your finger during your marriage ceremony.

It's just not a concept I understand at all.
 
Well first, congrats on your upgrade :)


When Fi and I picked out my original e-ring, it was with the understanding that eventually we would upgrade it. He was completely fine with it. I am now a little attached to that little guy and will keep it. It might change to a pendant though-- not sure. I also inherited my grandmas e-ring which is what I wear for a e-ring now. I will NEVER EVER upgrade it. Ever.

However, if something happened where we needed the money, it would be hard to sell it, but I know my grandma would agree that it would be the right thing to do. I don''t see that happening, but if it ever did- I would do it.

I think upgrading is fine. (Hey people upgrade spouses all of the time!
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) I am marrying a man, not a ring. You can strip us of all of our things, but we''ll still have each other, and still love each other, and that''s what matters most. So, if both parties are ok with an upgrade... WHY NOT?! Have fun with it. :)
 
Date: 11/13/2009 7:38:06 AM
Author: swedish bean
Well first, congrats on your upgrade :)


When Fi and I picked out my original e-ring, it was with the understanding that eventually we would upgrade it. He was completely fine with it. I am now a little attached to that little guy and will keep it. It might change to a pendant though-- not sure. I also inherited my grandmas e-ring which is what I wear for a e-ring now. I will NEVER EVER upgrade it. Ever.

However, if something happened where we needed the money, it would be hard to sell it, but I know my grandma would agree that it would be the right thing to do. I don''t see that happening, but if it ever did- I would do it.

I think upgrading is fine. (Hey people upgrade spouses all of the time!
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) I am marrying a man, not a ring. You can strip us of all of our things, but we''ll still have each other, and still love each other, and that''s what matters most. So, if both parties are ok with an upgrade... WHY NOT?! Have fun with it. :)
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Very well said
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. I am quite attached to both my ering and my promise ring but I see nothing wrong in upgrading if that''s what you and your SO choose to do
 
DH is very sentimental to the point where he just want everything in tact
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but I would like to be able to reuse all the diamonds into something that I would wear more often since my upgrade - but decided just to keep everything as is even if it means I''ll only bring it out once in a year. I do feel more attached to my first wedding band (even though it spins-drives me nuts and is a little wonky in shape...lol - kinda like our marriage, not perfect, and drives me nuts at times) so I totally get what you mean.
 
I wear my engagement diamond around my neck in a pendant that I never take off. I have no attachment to my rings.
 
Date: 11/13/2009 8:07:01 AM
Author: AprilBaby
I wear my engagement diamond around my neck in a pendant that I never take off. I have no attachment to my rings.
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I''m rather sentimental about my diamond, and if we were to ever upgrade I''d probably do the same. I''ve already replaced my setting and my wedding ring, so obviously not attached to those.
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Well I''m in the middle of upgrading both my diamond and my wedding set, but I did NOT trade in the old diamond or set. Too sentimental about them. Especially the band, because the Pastor blessed our bands before we put them on each other''s finger.
 
I am so sentimental about my e-ring that when presented with a possible problem with the setting, I refused to consider a different setting because I''d prefer to keep it as is and not wear it than change it. I''m very emotionally attached to it, moreso than I ever thought I would be (I''m not a sentimental person). It''s the best gift I''ve ever received.

I''m not as attached to my wedding band. While DH did pay for it, I chose it without any input from him and oversaw the whole process, so it felt more like my project. There are a couple of "dud" stones in my half-eternity that annoy me. I looked into getting a full eternity band made using the stones from my wedding band, but I don''t wear my rings enough to justify it.
 
I am more sentimental about our wedding rings as well... I didn''t get my "e-ring" until after 15+ years in so it isn''t quite the same for me.
 
Neither. Except for the actual diamond, since that was an heirloom.

I refuse to get attached to either, because I don''t want to be upset if they get lost.

However, I would never change or upgrade my wedding set because I like the idea of having the same rings my entire life.
 
More my wedding band than the ering. I think I''m more attached to the bands since I went through some trouble to get them just right, and they are a matched pair of mokume bands, so if I lost my band, any new one I got wouldn''t be the same since it wouldn''t be the exact partner to his.

You can bet he''s more attached to my ering though, since he picked it out and paid for it himself
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I''m not much for symbols.
What matters is what''s in your heart.
 
I''m not really attached to my original set, and since they fit together, the wedding band can''t be worn on its own anyway. I developed a strange reation to the yellow gold, and have since gotten a new set twice (white gold, then platinum). My DH is a bit more attached to the first set than I am, and they''re small diamonds, so not worth trading in anyway. I wear them once in a while, when I''m in a yellow gold mood. DH doesn''t wear his "real" wedding band either, so I guess we''re even.

He also gave me a sapphire and diamond ring as a wedding present, and when I mentioned I would like to use the stones from it someday along with a bigger diamond and make a new e-ring, he didn''t seem to like the idea of breaking up the sapphire ring. Oh well, I''ve got 12 years until our 20th anniversary to wear him down on that idea
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Rings are jewelry, the love and relationship resides in the wearers.
 
I am not sentimental about objects or things, so neither.

I wear a ring every day that my grandmother wore every day for most of her life. I love that ring, and I love that it was on her finger before it was on mine. However, it is just a ring. The things I am sentimental about are the memories of my grandmother, and I''d have those whether or not I wore that ring.

And I''d still be married to my husband whether or not I had my engagement ring and wedding band. I need neither things nor symbols to know that we are married, and to feel married to him.
 
My husband and I really love my engagement ring, and he'd be sad if I wanted to upgrade and get rid of it all together. If I ever wanted another type of diamond ring, he might be up for it but we wouldn't trade this one to do an upgrade. I'd LOVE to get an eternity (or half eternity) band someday, but that would be a RHR.

My husband seems a little more sentimental about my ring than I am, as he's always commenting on it (almost 1.5 years after we got married).
 
Date: 11/13/2009 5:00:46 AM
Author:D2B
I am currently upgrading my e-ring, and as an australian, this is pretty much an unheard of thing. Surprisingly, I have discovered that I am not sentimental about my e-ring, but I am terribly so about my plain gold wedding band.
For me, the wedding band is the symbol of my marriage, and I would never update it, or change it. Whereas the e-ring is a promise made to marry.

So how about you, are you sentimental about one or the other or neither or both?
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I agree with you completely. I have upgraded my e-ring to a three stone but I love my plain 3mm white gold wedding band!
 
I'm not sentimental about my e-ring at all, nor am I very sentimental about any other material objects except a few paintings and a sculpture I own. These are truly irreplaceable.

Very few things in this world are truly special and unique. I hate to shock PSers, but in my opinion, more often than not, a diamond is a diamond is a diamond... if I lost it, I'd buy another one without shedding a sentimental tear (although I might cry about the money!). There are millions out there and the fact that this particular rock is mine doesn't make it any more or less special than your diamond or a diamond in a vendor's inventory.

I consider my engagement ring totally interchangeable with any other 2.5 carat solitaire of equal specifications and value.

If perhaps I had a truly unique diamond or a truly unique setting of which no other exists, I would feel differently.
 
Australian here too (well, for the past 10 years, anyway)
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. Congrats on your upgrade!!

DH and I didn''t get an e-ring until after we got married, so technically it wasn''t an e-ring. We didn''t have much attachment to it and eventhough it was a little bit difficult to let it go while upgrading, I am so much happier with my current e-ring.

Our w-ring is another story though. We`re both quite sentimental about it and I still vividly remember how over 5 years ago we were going through B&M stores, looking for our perfect w-rings. It was so exciting! I guess for us this experience was equivalent to other couples looking for an e-ring. And then on a regular basis I would sneak a peek in his hiding place to see it before the wedding (it was our first diamond purchase so I was mesmerized by the sparkles).
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I love both my e-ring and my bands. I love that DH picked out the ring and had it designed for me. I love that my rings were blessed in church on our wedding day. I will never upgrade. I may get a new band when I get older (something that my mom did) but I am so attached to my set. I don''t have anything against upgrades but it''s just not something I want to do.
 
I''m ridiculously attached to both and would be incredibly upset if anything ever happened to either. DH picked out both of my rings completely on his own, and there''s a funny little back story. When he got the rings, he showed them to two of my best friends first. About a week after that, my friend and I were talking about rings and I showed her the one I wanted on JamesAllen.com. She didn''t really say much, but I figured maybe it was because she''s not crazy about square stones, and mine is a square radiant. After DH proposed and he told me that my friend had already seen the ring, I realized that she had been so quiet because the ring I was showing her that I wanted was the EXACT same ring DH had already shown her in person. For me, my rings aren''t only symbolic of the proposal and the wedding but also of how incredibly well my husband knows me.
 
Mine is a matched set, yet...if I had to lose one I would want to lose my e-ring. Even though it''s more expensive (since it has the stone) but otherwise looks exactly the same...there''s something about the fact that this was the one that was blessed during the ceremony and that signifies my marriage that makes it ultra special for me.
 
Yes, I''m sentimental about my rings. . .in fact, I''m sentimental about everything I have. Old jeans, soft fav. t-shirts., misc. knick knacks.
 
Very much so, to both.

I''m even more attached to the first band I bought, which I intended to use as my wedding band for months and again off and on once I started considering something different. I finally had it sized to wear on my right hand and have not removed it once in the 6 months since picking it up at the jeweler.
 
Well, I''m not a new bride (by ANY means!!
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) and I got married with my mom''s tri-color braided gold band, and I will always keep it, although honestly, I never wear it, and haven''t for YEARS.

My diamond was an anniversary present a few years ago, and I have upgraded the stone once and changed settings several times. So I guess that answers the question.

My personal opinion is... they are only rings. I LOVE them, of course, but I don''t feel like changing them is in any way sacrilegious or disrespectful to the committment of our marriage. Just my humble 2 cents!
 
I am sentimental about my engagement ring. I had my diamond mounted onto my wedding band, so they are one in the same. I currently wear my late MIL''s diamond in a new setting and a thin band on my wedding finger, and I am thinking about resetting my diamond into a pendant, but I could never get rid of it completely!
 
I am sentimentally attached to my rings, both e-ring and w-band because we chose them together and a LOT of effort went into my e-ring. I don''t wear my original w-band very often as it''s a half eternity micropave and I''m just too much of a thrasher. I got a plain gold w-band that is better for my every day wear. I''ll always keep the w-band but to be honest, I''d upgrade my e-ring in a milisecond if I could get a James Meyer with a fab round or cushion. I''m attached to it, but not that attached.
 
I''d cry if I lost my ring, but I''d cheer up right quick if it, and the setting, could be replaced with another of the same specs through insurance at no extra expense.

It''s much more important to me to have *something* on that finger than what it is - I''m perfectly happy with my cheapy lil silver 3mm, though I prefer my sparkly because it''s sparkly :-)
 
I don''t think that I will ever upgrade. I want bigger and better of course, but I am not willing to give up the original to get it.

My very first wedding band was a silver one from Wal-Mart that was about $20 because we didn''t have the real/official ones yet. It sits in my jewlery box and I doubt I will ever wear it again, but I refuse to get rid of it. It has great sentimental value to me. Everytime I see it in there it makes me smile a little bit.
 
My ering yes, it's an upgrade and was a total surprise. I adore it. Wedding band? Not so much so, I switch bands often and love the stacking look. DH only cares about the ering.. I love that he doesn't care what I wear with the ering. My original wedding band is in the saftey deposit box, and is yellow gold.
 
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