Wedding Are Bride and Groom Gifts Customay?

[Harriet]

Thanks.

 

[neatfreak]

We didn''t do them. I think they are becoming more in vogue, but I don''t know if they are customary per se.

 

[Skippy123]

Date: 5/4/2008 1:39:01 PM
Author: neatfreak
We didn''t do them. I think they are becoming more in vogue, but I don''t know if they are customary per se.

We didn''t do them either.

 

[CJ2008]

We're not doing them. BUT - I knew FI needed cufflinks to wear the day of the wedding, and I ended up picking up the most beautiful pair of cufflinks I've ever seen. I actually gave them to him already, I couldn't wait. He loved them, and they were under $40. It was a token, something for him to wear that day that came from me.

 

[Clio]

We didn''t do them, but then we''re not really present-y people. We don''t generally do Valentine''s Day or anniversary presents, for example.

 

[zoebartlett]

We''re not going to do them. Our honeymoon is our gift to each other, I suppose, but we''re not doing anything besides that.

 

[Elmorton]

Didn''t do them either.

I already had all my jewelry for the big day (engagement gifts from my parents), DH doesn''t wear a watch, and there really weren''t any other trinkets we''d want from each other. Instead, we purchased special items together on our honeymoon.

 

[Rhea]

We didn''t do them. We exchanged rings, went on a honeymoon, and paid for our two weddings. We figured that was enough to give each other and didn''t see the need to increase our budget for gifts.

 

[Harriet]

Thanks! This helps. I like the idea of honeymoon mementoes.

 

[Ellen]

We didn''t do them either.

 

[sumbride]

We did them! Not at all required, but we wanted to do it. When I put on my pearl bracelet I smile because it''s the only piece of jewelry he''s ever given me that I didn''t pick out. And I love seeing his watch on him. Totally up to you though, of course!

 

[Haven]

I don''t think they''re customary, and I think we''re just going to exchange handwritten notes the day of the wedding, no gifts.

 

[Harriet]

Haven, that''s sweet and thoughtful.

 

[Pandora II]

We are.

I''m giving him a pair of Victorian gold cufflinks and a very heavy Victorian 15ct rose gold double watch chain for his pocket watch (which you wear with morning suit). I did incredibly well on both of these and actually paid a lot less than they would have been worth for the gold alone.

So... there was some money left in the budget, so I''m hunting down a sterling silver hip-flask that I can have engraved with the monogram I designed for our wedding.

FI is giving me a 3.70ct sphene pendant and matching 2tctw earrings which I''m wearing for the wedding.

I don''t think it''s something that''s necessary, but I like buying him presents...

 

[sna77]

We did... FI got me the Rolex I''ve always wanted and... I''m still undecided about what to get her... I know she has a few things in mind that she wants though...

 

[BlueKeet]

We exchanged cards and gifts, but we were so busy we didn't get to it until the following night. The only part I wanted to make sure we did was exchange cards and I didn't have time to write mine until the day after. We were going to have a $20 limit on the gifts, but in the end it was about $50. I surprised him with toasting flutes at the reception and he gave me this gorgeous dragon figurine. I think if you have time it is nice to do, but that doesn't mean you need to spend a fortune on it. I always love the pictures of the bride/groom reading her card or opening her gift from the groom before the ceremony - sentimental moment. I wouldn't skip the love notes.