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The proposal was amazing...it showed how much my man knew me. It was the most romantic and thoughtful proposal and I wouldn't change a thing about it.
As for the ring I had never given it a thought for a moment all the years we were dating (never wanting to get married so never thought about the "ring") so when he got down on one knee and proposed and took the ring box out I had no preconceived notions regarding the ring. It was lovely. But after the initial shock wore off (well not entirely as I think I was shell shocked for at least a full week after the surprise proposal) I realized while it was indeed a lovely ring it wasn't "me" but I really didn't know what that ring that would be "me" looked like at that time.
We went through a few diamonds lol before I found the "one" but truly no disappointment because I found the "one" guy who is my soul mate and that really is a unicorn and finding the "right" ring for me easy compared to finding the unicorn guy if you kwim. And I had fun (and some angst too) searching all those years for the unicorn ring but it was a journey that led me to the one to rule them all.
@kmoro you are not being materialist nor are you being a jerk. It's not all about the ring or proposal. It's about your guy putting you first and wanting you to be happy. That's the real issue. I knew all along that my dh wanted me to be happy and thrilled with the ring and so no matter what he thought my feelings and desires came first re the ring that I would be wearing all the rest of my life.
I also find (perhaps not universally true but just my experience) that if a man is cheap with money and cheap with spending it on his loved ones he is also cheap with his emotions and love and all that it entails. My perspective only. I am lucky because I found a great guy who is generous with his love and everything else. That generosity pours over in all aspects of our life and that all encompassing love is everything to me and I would give away all my bling if need be for my dh. No question.
As for the ring I had never given it a thought for a moment all the years we were dating (never wanting to get married so never thought about the "ring") so when he got down on one knee and proposed and took the ring box out I had no preconceived notions regarding the ring. It was lovely. But after the initial shock wore off (well not entirely as I think I was shell shocked for at least a full week after the surprise proposal) I realized while it was indeed a lovely ring it wasn't "me" but I really didn't know what that ring that would be "me" looked like at that time.
We went through a few diamonds lol before I found the "one" but truly no disappointment because I found the "one" guy who is my soul mate and that really is a unicorn and finding the "right" ring for me easy compared to finding the unicorn guy if you kwim. And I had fun (and some angst too) searching all those years for the unicorn ring but it was a journey that led me to the one to rule them all.
@kmoro you are not being materialist nor are you being a jerk. It's not all about the ring or proposal. It's about your guy putting you first and wanting you to be happy. That's the real issue. I knew all along that my dh wanted me to be happy and thrilled with the ring and so no matter what he thought my feelings and desires came first re the ring that I would be wearing all the rest of my life.
I also find (perhaps not universally true but just my experience) that if a man is cheap with money and cheap with spending it on his loved ones he is also cheap with his emotions and love and all that it entails. My perspective only. I am lucky because I found a great guy who is generous with his love and everything else. That generosity pours over in all aspects of our life and that all encompassing love is everything to me and I would give away all my bling if need be for my dh. No question.
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