- Aug 17, 2007
I''ve been worrying about this a lot, too, even though I haven''t sent out invites yet! (Just Save the Dates.) My fiance thinks I''m crazy, but already a friend of mine didn''t get that he didn''t get to bring a guest! My twin sister had to convince him that you don''t get a guest unless you are specifically invited with their name or an "and guest." And he doesn''t even have a girlfriend so I''m not sure who he thought his guest would be!Date: 4/3/2009 5:58:39 PM
Thanks ladies! Most of our friends know they will not be getting an ''and guest'' option. Those that are allowed a guest, I will be calling them between the STD packages going out and when we need to get our address list over to our friend for printing - at that point I will be asking for the names of their dates so none of these g/f and b/f''s feel like I didn''t take the time to find out who they are.
I''m just worried some of my friends won''t understand that an invite in just your name means only you are invited. I have been spreading the word that we are limited so hopefully that helps.
I suppose when it comes up then I will deal with it. No use worrying about it now - I will only drive myself mad!
This is what we did. I would never write "and guest" on a wedding invitation; we sent a separate invite to all significant others if they didn''t live together, and we put their actual names on the outer and inner envelopes if they did. (And writing "and guest" certainly isn''t the old fashioned thing to do!)Date: 4/3/2009 7:20:51 AM
Hmm, these situations can be tricky... and i have been thinking about how i am going to handle this one as well! I think i have decided that I will be putting everyones individual names on the invites and if i am not sure of the name of someones plus one i will find it out beforehand, just so i can avoid having things like ''plus one'' and ''guest'', as this could cause confusion as to why some people have ''and guest'' on their invite and some people don''t.
Also i feel that if you say ''and guest'' that means they can bring anyone with them, but if you name a person then they are limited to bringing that person, and this may help with your numbers situation.
I also don''t like the idea of strangers coming to my wedding and by putting the individual names on the invites i can control that a little!