Anybody watching ''more to love'' on fox?

[whitby_2773]

so luke, who is 6'3" and in his late 20's and weighs over 300 lbs, is looking for love amongst 20 significantly overweight ladies (lowest weight 170lbs, highest 279lbs heights cover everything from 5'2" to 6'2").

all these women have beautiful faces and luke is specifically looking for a plus size kind of lady. it's a sort of 'bachelor - plus size edition'.

so - anybody else watching and what are your thoughts?

 

[iheartscience]

The previews made me cringe, but so do the previews for the Bachelor. I can''t stand that kind of show...it''s so awkward and more than a little gross that the Bachelor or Bachelorette is constantly sucking face with 20 different people. Ick.

 

[decodelighted]

I think its a little sad that at 330 he still outweighs all of the female "contestants" by 50 lbs. Gotta keep those patriarchal stereotypes in tact!

Its been getting mixed reviews from critics. But I did laugh at one who called it "The Fatchelor".

 

[waxing lyrical]

I DVR'd it. I caught the last 10 minutes from it and now I'm watching it. I don't care for the title of the show. Blech.

 

[anyname]

i caught the last 15 mins of it. I feel kinda bad for these poor girls, they''re all saying they''ve never had relationships or have never been asked out, and i can''t imagine this show help their self-esteem at all.

 

[Catmom]

I have to admit that I watched it. He really skeeved me out kissing everyone that he could already. yuk!

 

[Haven]

I''m watching it right now, and all I have to say is that he seems pretty slimy asking for all those besos!

 

[whitby_2773]

ditto this, michelle and haven - gees!

i said to tim at the end...

"which just goes to prove - tall, short, fat, thin, rich, poor - THEY''RE ALL THE SAME!" (i don''t think tim knew quite where to go with that one!!)

you can like larger women and still be sleazy.

 

[Haven]

I just finished watching the show.

It was hard to watch because it seems like many of these women are trapped by really negative self-images, and that affects the way they view themselves and interact with other people. There was a lot of crying, it really made me sad.

(I remember feeling something like this in college when I suddenly developed moderately bad acne for the first time in my life. It changed the way people reacted to me, and I felt trapped behind a face that didn''t really represent who I was.)

 

[gwendolyn]

No thank you.

Haven''t seen the show, certainly don''t plan on seeing the show, but as an overweight woman myself, it''s too depressing to see how low these women think they have to go in order to get any sort of attention. And after all the lame (sorry, am not a fan of any of them) reality match-up shows, none of which (to my knowledge) ever amounted to an honest-to-goodness relationship, let alone real love, I have to wonder why they signed up for the show in the first place. Too sad, all around.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Having struggled with my weight and dating for a long time, I would hate to be known as "that girl who went on the fat batchelor."

 

[atroop711]

I want to see it but missed the first episode...when does it show?

 

[atroop711]

I've been overweight all of my life and always have dated...there are men out there that love a pleasantly plump momma

. What I did say to my husband when we saw the commercial is why does the chubby chaser have to be chubby himself? I mean there are fit men who love women with meat on the bones. I just didn't like the message that the big gal is hooked up with the big guy. So many ppl think us overweight ladies can't get men as it is...but this message just irked me (nothing against the big men). Just annoying because it's OK in society for an overweight guy to date and marry the skinny gals...but when we see the chubby gal with the six pack guy...ppl make a face. Personally I've never dated an overweight man...come to think of it...I was never asked out by one

Oh wait there was this guy Dan (he was overweight) that I had a crush on...he didn't date fat girls

his loss

 

[MonkeyPie]

As a chubby woman myself, the ads for it sort of offended me - not to mention that the guy looks like my previous boss who was a TOTAL skeaze and cheated on his wife repeatedly with women that had low self esteem like the ones on the show. It made me want to puke.

Until I met my husband I had never TRULY dated. I had a few dates, a few online flings, but he was my first real boyfriend. Needless to say, he''s very special.

 

[Catmom]

And what was the deal with posting everyone''s weight? Why on a supposed dating show was that relavant? IMO, just more exploitation of those poor women.

 

[beau13]

Date: 7/28/2009 10:07:23 PM
Author: thing2of2
The previews made me cringe, but so do the previews for the Bachelor. I can't stand that kind of show...it's so awkward and more than a little gross that the Bachelor or Bachelorette is constantly sucking face with 20 different people. Ick.

Me too! It just seems ..I dunno..unappealing to me! It's as bad as the new show "Dating in the Dark"..and just proves that most men are attracted to physical appearance, and the size of a women weighs heavily on their decision to move forward and date a person. They openly admit, that even though they are attracted to one's personality in the dark, once the lights are turned on, if the woman is too "thick" (his words, not mine), it would likely be a deal breaker. My two boys watched some of this with me, and when I tried to explain to them that personality, an inner qualities is more important than outer appearance, they laughed. My 14 yr old said "mom..really..you have to be pysically attracted to them, and no matter how sweet or smart the girl is, if she's heavy, you lost me already!" I told him, she could always lose the weight, and still be that beautiful person inside. He said "I guess....". Unfortunately, it starts at an early age!

 

[makemepretty]

It was heartbreaking. My husband said this is so depressing(the end and who got eliminated). He said they should be on suicide watch because they seemed so sad after it.

The women were beautiful. I liked the blond with the swirly green dress for him and the edgy rocker is really pretty(but I don''t think his type).

I don''t know if Luke is genuine. We''ll see.

It was kinda neat to see how a different heights, weights and body types really could vary. Some did seem larger than their "number". But why did we need the "number" next to their name?

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 7/29/2009 9:41:34 AM
Author: beau13

Date: 7/28/2009 10:07:23 PM

Author: thing2of2

The previews made me cringe, but so do the previews for the Bachelor. I can't stand that kind of show...it's so awkward and more than a little gross that the Bachelor or Bachelorette is constantly sucking face with 20 different people. Ick.

Me too! It just seems ..I dunno..unappealing to me! It's as bad as the new show 'Dating in the Dark'..and just proves that most men are attracted to physical appearance, and the size of a women weighs heavily on their decision to move forward and date a person. They openly admit, that even though they are attracted to one's personality in the dark, once the lights are turned on, if the woman is too 'thick' (his words, not mine), it would likely be a deal breaker. My two boys watched some of this with me, and when I tried to explain to them that personality, an inner qualities is more important than outer appearance, they laughed. My 14 yr old said 'mom..really..you have to be pysically attracted to them, and no matter how sweet or smart the girl is, if she's heavy, you lost me already!' I told him, she could always lose the weight, and still be that beautiful person inside. He said 'I guess....'. Unfortunately, it starts at an early age!

I think that's wonderful that you had that talk with your boys, Beau, even if they didn't take it on board. At 14, I'd have been absolutely floored if they were that open romantically, with their minds full of supermodels and whatnot (my students are all 13 and I *know* that's all they think about!

). But seriously, I think it's great that you've said to them what you think is important in a person because as they mature, they may understand better what you meant and start to see women differently. I know from personal experience that guys in high school and college thought they were all going to marry Cindy Crawford, but once they got out of college, they started to realize that beautiful women come in all shapes and sizes.

 

[zoebartlett]

Date: 7/29/2009 9:24:21 AM
Author: Catmom
And what was the deal with posting everyone''s weight? Why on a supposed dating show was that relavant? IMO, just more exploitation of those poor women.

They DID that?

Why didn''t they do that on the "Bachelor" too? Was it to make a point of saying that even overweight women can find love? Please. This show makes me angry.

Whitby, I was going to start a thread about this too, just to get people''s opinions on the show. I didn''t watch it, nor do I plan to in the future.

Admittedly, I''ve watched the Bachelor and the Bachelorette and I''ve enjoyed them at times. Towards the end of each season, I was even kind of getting into it, hoping he or she would choose a particular person. I can''t bring myself to watch "More to Love" though. It should be treated the same way as the other shows.

 

[anchor31]

I''ve never watched any Bachelor kind of shows, they creep me out, but nothing was on last night so I watched the premiere. It made me very sad how little self-confidence many of those women have. I''ve never been overweight so I don''t know what it''s like, but I wonder if the real reason some of them never dated is because they are overweight, or because they have no self-esteem... I mean, I know some men who like curvy women (including my brother), so is that the real obstacle?

I liked a few of them though. I thought that a couple of them unfortunately didn''t dress to their advantage and that the ones who got all weepy at Luke telling him right off the bat that they''d never dated were probably not headed for success.

In any case, it creeped me out to see all those women getting all starry-eyed at a man they didn''t know just because he said he liked curvy women... And all the kissing... Eeep! I feel asleep towards the end so I don''t know who got sent home, but I don''t think I''ll be watching again.

 

[LaurenThePartier]

I couldn''t do it. I''m Bachelor/Bacheloretted out.

Knowing they also exploited these women by posting their weight is insulting at best. Also hearing that he was already kissing everyone, I''m happy I didn''t watch it. Ugh.

 

[waxing lyrical]

Date: 7/29/2009 8:51:19 AM
Author: atroop711
I''ve been overweight all of my life and always have dated...there are men out there that love a pleasantly plump momma

. What I did say to my husband when we saw the commercial is why does the chubby chaser have to be chubby himself? I mean there are fit men who love women with meat on the bones. I just didn''t like the message that the big gal is hooked up with the big guy. So many ppl think us overweight ladies can''t get men as it is...but this message just irked me (nothing against the big men). Just annoying because it''s OK in society for an overweight guy to date and marry the skinny gals...but when we see the chubby gal with the six pack guy...ppl make a face. Personally I''ve never dated an overweight man...come to think of it...I was never asked out by one

Oh wait there was this guy Dan (he was overweight) that I had a crush on...he didn''t date fat girls

his loss

This, and ditto Monkeypie.

I was really put off when I saw the commercials for it weeks back. I definitely don''t like how it''s saying a plus size woman can''t find a hunky guy. The women do range in size, so I guess that''s good. Some really weren''t that big and I was really sad to see so many of them breakdown and talk about their insecurities. I keep thinking it''s so humiliating and it''s all some joke on the fat girls. That''s upsetting. If the average size woman in American is a 12/14 then why name it "More to Love"? It''s attempting to send a positive message while sending a negative one. Why share their weight and size? What''s the purpose of that? Ugh.

When I met DH I was about 200 lbs. On my 5''10" frame I thought I looked pretty damn good. I wore a size 16 and thought I was hot stuff. He was 15 lbs lighter than me. Never had problems with dating or finding a guy. I did, however, have insecurities about my build during my teen years mainly because I was a dancer that didn''t fit the dancer mold. I remember being ostracized about my weight on many occasions by one of my ballet instructors. I may have been tall, but I didn''t have long slender legs. There were a few others that were plus size, but most of my friends and peers were size 0, 2, 4, 6. I felt really left out. Shopping at Lane Bryant at 14 didn''t really give me a confidence boost. Even when I got into full figured modeling it just felt like a step down. My older cousin at the time was tall and thin, a size 4 maybe. I just felt overlooked a lot. Once I graduated and started working and garnering a lot of positive attention from men and women all of that changed.

Now, if only I can be a size 16 again. Eventually I will be.

 

[Haven]

DH was disgusted by this show, he couldn''t even watch it with me.
His first reaction was: Why does it have to be a big guy, too?
His second: They''re seriously putting up their height and weight? I''m outta here.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I hate things like this. I hate it, hate it, hate it. "More To Love"...

. Every time I''ve ever seen the commerical for it, I ask Mark why they named it that. It''s offensive. I understand they are doing it to "level the playing field"...but essentially they are just reinforcing stereotypes.

 

[tlh]

I didn''t watch it. I don''t like the name of the title of the show.
But that said, I didn''t have a clue what Biggest Loser was about, until one day I caught an episode, and really found that it was positive, inspirational, and not exploiting people at all.

 

[Lilac]

I didn''t watch the show (I forgot) but now that I hear about all the kissing and particularly about them posting the girls'' weights (why is that?!?!

) it just seems like the show is degrading and insulting. Now I''m kind of happy I didn''t end up seeing it.

 

[crystalheart1]

I watched the beginning when the women were coming out of the limos.. I felt bad for them.. some of them appeared so uncomfortable and awkward. Even the women who said they were comfortable with their weight seemed to be putting on too much of a " front". The Guy was too much.. he did not seem like he respected women in general. There was too much energy focused on the weight and size of the dates

It was difficult to see the crying and the lack of dating experience for many of them.

Does anyone find it hard to understand why some of these women would go on a show like this when it seemed
like they were so uncomfortable with their weight ?

 

[makemepretty]

I thought they were going with women who were about size 12-14 according to their commercials, since that''s what the majority of real women are. But...are these women really that size? A large is usually size 12-14 and I don''t think that would have fit any of the women on the show.

I won''t be watching any episodes after the one last night but I will watch to see who he ends up with since they show a glimpse of a proposal. I thought it was cruel to give women diamond rings and then take them back to hand out.

 

[Mara]

I haven''t seen this one but I LOVE ''Dance your Ass Off'' on Oxygen. Except yeah some of the topics (Shake and Rattle Your Rolls) for the shows are definitely non PC. But these people BRING IT and they are working really hard and can shake it better than me...so I love it. But it is kind of sad to see their dejection when they do the weigh in, because their weight loss is so slow and in the early ones when they were getting sent home after one or two shows you really wonder if they will continue.

 

[doodle]

Ugh, everything about the concept of this show just irks me. Where is even an attempt at reality in this reality tv show? Plus size ladies reading this, how many of you have ever gotten the opportunity to date someone without having competition or whatever from every single slim girl in the room? It''s like they''re saying a big girl isn''t good enough to compare to the size 2, so by all means, don''t put a plus-sized woman and a thin one in the same arena! I''m 5''2", about 200 pounds, and wear a size 16. Hasn''t stopped me from getting dates, having relationships, or most importantly, RESPECTING MYSELF. Big ass or not, I''m intelligent, entertaining, and WORTHY of being respected and loved. I saw the trailers with all the poor pitiful plus-sized me crap, and it just angered me. BLECH!