LiW Another thought: How many of you have promise rings?

[nebe]

Do you or did you ever have a promise ring? What was it (gold, silver, diamond, ect)? Do both of you wear one? Who brought up the idea?

 

[TravelingGal]

This isn''t likely to help your current desire for a ring, but definitely the best promise ring I''ve seen on PS can be seen here.

 

[nebe]

Date: 9/5/2007 4:30:12 PM
Author: TravelingGal
This isn''t likely to help your current desire for a ring, but definitely the best promise ring I''ve seen on PS can be seen here.

LOL, I should be in Ring Lusters Annonymous, huh?

Seriously though, I just wanted to see how common it is to exchange them.

I saw that ring a while back and nearly fell on the floor!

 

[TravelingGal]

I think it''s more common amongst "younger" women. I have never known anyone personally to get a promise ring.

 

[gwendolyn]

Heh, yeah, I have a promise ring (although I just call it the ''warm-up'' since the actual promise comes later on), but I don''t think I''ll post a pic of it since it''s tiny and completely unimpressive compared to that giant one TG just posted. Oi! That''s twice as big as my engagement ring will ever be...

Anyway, it''s white gold (10k), has 5 little diamonds on it, and it was my idea, although it was born out of the situation where I was getting hit on while at work at my coffeeshop, as the guys there weren''t believing the "No, really, I DO have a boyfriend in England!" explanation. Originally it was going to be matching puzzle rings (don''t know if you''ve heard of them, but there''s a cool story associated with them), but he was iffy about wearing it (although he says he''ll wear a wedding band with no problem), so then I ended up getting my ring for my birthday this past March.

 

[emilina22]

i have a promise ring from my guy, we both knew that we were way to young to get engaged when we gave it to me but we wanted to have a sign/symbol of our commitment and all that lovey stuff, but anyway i got mine when i was16 before my junior year of highschool.

it started as a 10k solitaire with a .10 rb in it, not super wow like the 2 ct promise ring but i loved it then he later upgraded my stone to a .25 rb, and then again to a .50 rb and for our 3 year anniversary and my 18th birthday he presented me with my last upgrade, a whole new setting with my .50 so now its a .50 rb with 2 .15 pears on each side,the band is 18 k white gold, three stones for 3 years...

he also has a ring his started as a plain comfort fit 14 k white gold band and i got him an upgraded one that was 18 k white gold with a brushed finished center..hard to describe but when the guys saw it it became such a hit that all our married guys now have a very similar if not identical wedding bands...what a trendsetter eh? lol

and now 3 years after that i am waiting patiently for my engagement ring...

 

[musey]

FI gave me a claddagh ring a couple of years ago, but it wasn't intended as a promise ring. He joked that it was a "claiming" ring since wearing it a certain way signifies that you're "taken."

I knew some girls in high school that had promise rings. I never really got it, unless it was simply to fill a jonesing for jewelry. Especially since all of them broke up by the time graduation rolled around

If you're "promising" to get married some day, isn't that what engagement is? So wouldn't that make it an engagement ring? If it's just because they want a ring, why not just get a ring. It doesn't have to have meaning attached to it!

 

[Hoping&Waiting]

haha, yes I have a promise ring...but that 2 ct takes the cake!

It was sort of a join decision, I am a server working my way through school and often dealt with annoying men hitting on me, so he became increasingly uncomfortable with that situation and decided it was time to "show our love and committment" haha.

It is tiny but i love it....

i have a friend who has received TWO promise rings in their 6 year relationship both were a couple cts. REDICULOUS...just get the real thing haha!

wishing for the real thing!

 

[sred2]

I have a promise ring! My boyfriend bought it for me for Christmas last year. It has a really thin white gold band with a tiny pearl and then 3 teeny tiny little diamonds on each side. Its perfect and its the only piece of jewelry that I wear every day

My boyfriend and I have talked about getting married since we first started dating but we both know that it wont happen right away because we're saving to buy a condo in 2008!!

 

[Pandora II]

I have one that we got after we were officially engaged as my e-ring was going to take quite a long time to be made.

It''s an antique white and yellow gold eternity band with 11 princess cut blue sapphires and 11 rb diamonds.

I will probably wear it as an alternative e-ring if I''m in places I''d rather not wear the real thing.

I did have another ''promise ring'' when I was 9, my then boyfriend made it for me in clay - it was painted yellow with a big red blobby bit on top. I still have it somewhere.

I remember we''d picked our children''s names and everything - we had a long discussion about how to have babies which we were both totally horrified about (he lived on a farm so we knew

). In the end we decided we''d only have to do it twice and we''d just have to turn the lights out!

 

[nebe]

Date: 9/5/2007 5:20:46 PM
Author: Pandora II

I did have another ''promise ring'' when I was 9, my then boyfriend made it for me in clay - it was painted yellow with a big red blobby bit on top. I still have it somewhere.

I remember we''d picked our children''s names and everything - we had a long discussion about how to have babies which we were both totally horrified about (he lived on a farm so we knew

). In the end we decided we''d only have to do it twice and we''d just have to turn the lights out!

That is the cutest thing I have EVER heard!

 

[DMBsGirl]

No, never had one. Although I definitely wanted one when I was in college.

 

[SeeShell]

I do not, but my sister does. It's a silver Tiffany ring shaped like a heart.
Link here


I'm not really much of a jewelry person, so I don't really want the promise ring until the real promise is made!


SeeShell

 

[FarFarAway]

It''s funny because I wear my grandmother''s wedding ring on a necklace (she passed away a bit ago). Everyone I meet always ALWAYS look at it and go "Ohhhhhhh, so....who''s THAT from??!?!?! *wink wink* Promises promises!" and I never got it because I''ve never heard of a promise ring. Then one day my best friend alerted me.

hehehe

 

[lsyama]

Date: 9/5/2007 8:14:14 PM
Author: SeeShell
I''m not really much of a jewelry person, so I don''t really want the promise ring until the real promise is made!


SeeShell

Same here - I usually don''t wear any jewelry at all.
I think it''s laziness.... so we''ll see how I cope with an e-ring!
Though I do love to look and wish I had more

 

[snogirl17]

yup, i have two of them in fact. The first one i dropped and the diamonds popped out, the jewler did not think he could get it back in so my sweetie bought be another one, and low and behold it was able to be fixed....

long ago i took this picture with my cute little ring with the all mighty flower shot... you have to look closely to see it

 

[snogirl17]

guess you dont have to look to closely as the picture is HUGE!!!!!!!!!! Sorry!

 

[bee*]

Nope, I don''t have one. I don''t know anyone that has one over here.

 

[anchor31]

It''s very popular around here, but I never wanted one. They''re usually given around the first anniversary and doesn''t really symbolize anything, it''s just a bit of jewellery (usually not so good quality) that the girls wear on their left ring finger. Most girls I know who''ve had or still have a promise ring have either broken up or don''t even know if they want to marry their BFs.

I never liked the idea, so once I told my then-BF to not waste his money on one, and to wait until he was ready to propose to give me a nice ring.

 

[poshpepper]

Date: 9/5/2007 4:56:40 PM
Author: musey
If you''re ''promising'' to get married some day, isn''t that what engagement is? So wouldn''t that make it an engagement ring? If it''s just because they want a ring, why not just get a ring. It doesn''t have to have meaning attached to it!

I agree with this statement 100%. I never had a "promise ring"... If my FI bought me a ring (before the ering) it was never called a promise ring... it was just a nice present

It seems to me an ering is a promise ring (like you said Musey). Seems silly to get a ring that says "I promise to propose to you one day". Then couldn''t you get a ring that was "I promise to promise to propose"... and so forth? Or maybe I am just delirious from lack of breakfast... LOL!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

Date: 9/6/2007 1:32:12 PM
Author: poshpepper

I never had a ''promise ring''... If my FI bought me a ring (before the ering) it was never called a promise ring... it was just a nice present

Agree! I recently had an aquantience recieve a "promise ring" and was more than perplexed by it''s meaning. When it was explained to me I looked over my shoulder at my house and said "ah well, this must be my promise house then!"

SO had a ring made for me for Valentine''s Day last year. I love it and occasionally will wear it on my left hand because it matches a watch I have but I wouldn''t call it a promise ring.

 

[musey]

Date: 9/6/2007 1:32:12 PM
Author: poshpepper

Seems silly to get a ring that says ''I promise to propose to you one day''. Then couldn''t you get a ring that was ''I promise to promise to propose''... and so forth? Or maybe I am just delirious from lack of breakfast... LOL!

LOL! This is my thought process as well. I feel as though for younger women/girls (HS or under) it''s fine, but anyone "of age"? Cop out!

Seriously, to each his own... but for me, I never wanted one. Sure, I wanted jewelry... rings, necklaces, etc. etc. Never wanted *A* promise unless it was *THE* promise!

 

[poshpepper]

Date: 9/6/2007 2:33:26 PM
Author: musey

Date: 9/6/2007 1:32:12 PM
Author: poshpepper

Seems silly to get a ring that says ''I promise to propose to you one day''. Then couldn''t you get a ring that was ''I promise to promise to propose''... and so forth? Or maybe I am just delirious from lack of breakfast... LOL!

LOL! This is my thought process as well. I feel as though for younger women/girls (HS or under) it''s fine, but anyone ''of age''? Cop out!

Seriously, to each his own... but for me, I never wanted one. Sure, I wanted jewelry... rings, necklaces, etc. etc. Never wanted *A* promise unless it was *THE* promise!

Amen!

 

[Mannequin]

I have never had one and I do not want one. My ex FI had talked about getting me one years ago and I told him I''d prefer that he put that money towards the real deal and not a promise ring. I love it when a guy wants to buy jewelry, of course, but no rings until the engagement. I''ve told this to my current BF and he said he has had other long term relationships in which the girls have asked for them. I just don''t believe in them - if they are to be a "placeholder" because the guy or the girl is not quite ready to be engaged, then don''t buy them!

I''ve heard them called "shut-up rings" too, something bought to buy the guy time while keeping the girl happy.

I DEFINITELY don''t want one of those!

 

[poshpepper]

Date: 9/6/2007 4:18:05 PM
Author: equestrienne
I''ve heard them called ''shut-up rings'' too, something bought to buy the guy time while keeping the girl happy.

I DEFINITELY don''t want one of those!

OMG, too funny! I have never heard of them referred to as that, but the name makes sense...

 

[mimzy]

i''ll go ahead and say that i don''t think there is anything wrong with them. for a lot of couples, especially those still in school, getting engaged isn''t really an option, sometimes for several years. If those couples want to make their commitment known to others via jewelery (which is pretty much the exact same thing as an engagement ring) , then i see nothing wrong or ridiculous about that. there are lots of great couples that have valid reasons for not getting engaged for awhile (who probably would be criticized if they did at the time) and i think it is still nice to be able to have a symbol of that mutual commitment. that was sort of redundant. anyways..

of course there are the exceptions in which cases they are given and/or received without much thought, especially pre-college. but i think that a ring that symbolizes a promise between a couple that does truly know/believe that they will eventually be engaged can be very sweet.

with that said, i haven''t wanted one since high school.

 

[gwendolyn]

Here''s my little ring. If we weren''t so horribly long-distance, I probably would''ve tried for a diamond necklace or earrings instead, but having it be a ring (which I personally see all the time) really helps.

 

[bubbly1126]

I have a promise ring. My boyfriend of almost 5 years bought it for me on our 6 month anniversary. I had brought the idea up first and he said that he had actually been thinking about getting me one.

Honestly, I LOVE my ring and when he decides to propose I have made it known to him that he doesn''t have to get me another ring b/c I just love the one I have so much. (of course, if he really wants to then he can certainly get me another one. what woman would turn a diamond down? haha)

BUT, looking back, I don''t think it''s wise to really get a promise ring because I sometimes feel like my boyfriend puts off legitimately asking me for my hand in marriage because he feels like I have my promise ring and why should I need something more right now. Of course, that''s just my guessing. I don''t truly know if that''s how he really thinks but like someone else stated, if "promise rings" are a promise to get married then what''s the point of it? You might as well just get engaged.

Otherwise, you might end up like me and still waiting at 5 years! Hehe.

I''ll try posting the picture of my ring another time, this thing keeps giving me an error...

 

[bubbly1126]

Finally got it to work!

Here is my Promise Ring....

 

[gwendolyn]

Ooooh, bubbly, that is beautiful!! Very very pretty, congrats!