agree.Date: 9/21/2009 12:39:03 PM
Author: dragonfly411
I wouldn''t return it to her. Thank her for the gesture, and put it away. If you feel comfortable wear it around her for the thought, but otherwise just leave it be. She didn''t mean anything by it and it won''t do harm just sitting in the house.
Date: 9/21/2009 12:30:51 PM
Author: neatfreak
Don''t. If it''s abstract and not intentional know that she didn''t mean it. And if you can wear it around the house when she comes over. Otherwise just call it a day and send a note.
Date: 9/21/2009 2:02:25 PM
Author: cate
Wow, this is so interesting. All my friends and my FI say I should return it to her and explain why. She's such a nice lady and did not mean anything by it. Probably didn't even realize it. I'm not offended by it, but I would feel weird wearing it. Did I mention it's very large? LOL But it's really pretty for what it is.
And yes, we are different religions. I don't want to offend her religion.
+1. Since you are a different religion than she is I think this would be a good opener to explain why you are unable to accept her gift.Date: 9/21/2009 1:17:26 PM
Author: somethingshiny
I may be in the minority, but if it actually offends you, I''d return it to her. If my MIL presented me (intentionally or not) with something that offended me, she''d want to know. Additionally, since we''re the same religion, I''d point it out to her so she was aware in case she had gotten something similar for herself.
If it''s something that doesn''t offend you, then drop a thank-you and call it a day.
Date: 9/21/2009 4:04:32 PM
Author: cate
It''s just that a Jewish girl wearing a giant cross would be uncomfortable, for lack of a better word.
Date: 9/21/2009 4:22:08 PM
Author: Novel
Date: 9/21/2009 4:04:32 PM
Author: cate
It''s just that a Jewish girl wearing a giant cross would be uncomfortable, for lack of a better word.
LOL. I''m sorry, am I living your life? Do you have a Jewish star ornament hidden away somewhere, too?
Date: 9/21/2009 4:33:14 PM
Author: cate
No, but I wish I did! That''s just weird enough to be cool! LOL
Date: 9/21/2009 4:04:32 PM
Author: cate
It doesn''t offend me at all, because I don''t believe she has a hidden agenda. I accept all religions. It''s just that a Jewish girl wearing a giant cross would be uncomfortable, for lack of a better word.
I think I need to discuss all of your great ideas with my FI to see what he thinks.
ok- having read that its quite large maybe best to let her son chat with her instead.Date: 9/21/2009 2:27:06 PM
Author: thing2of2
Date: 9/21/2009 2:02:25 PM
Author: cate
Wow, this is so interesting. All my friends and my FI say I should return it to her and explain why. She's such a nice lady and did not mean anything by it. Probably didn't even realize it. I'm not offended by it, but I would feel weird wearing it. Did I mention it's very large? LOL But it's really pretty for what it is.
And yes, we are different religions. I don't want to offend her religion.
Why doesn't your fiance let her know? That might be the best bet. I think it's less touchy when it's coming from her son than from you.
ETA the Jewish star tree ornament is kind of hilarious! I mean come on!