I''d love to see if any of you ladies can relate to this, or if I''m completely overreacting (which is a very real possibility since I''m a hormonal whackjob right now). The search for the ring began in earnest and became actually attainable about a month ago, when my BF started working. Everything was going really great, we found the dream setting that made me swoon, and a lot of different things started falling into place, timing-wise. My BF was always really excited about getting engaged, so everything seemed like it was going to be easy-peasy. However, with the reality of the engagement happening very, very soon, the BF started really stressing out about every little thing: what if he chooses a diamond I don''t love, what if the setting doesn''t turn out how we envision it, insurance, shipping, it has to be a complete surprise...the list goes on. Add to that work stress, and the BF has turned himself into a nervous, anxious wreck. At first I thought it was just ''fun'' nervousness, a part of the process that we would look back on fondly in the future. But it''s gotten out of control - to the point that I have instituted a moratorium on ring talk. It just makes me feel terrible to see him so unbelievably stressed out, and no matter how much I tell him that I will love whatever he picks out - which, at this point, only the diamond itself is left to him - nothing seems to help assuage his fears. I actually seriously pushed for just a plain band, just to make everything easier, but he won''t have it. I really do appreciate how much he wants everything to be perfect, and I know that this is all about how he wants things to go, but I just can''t take it anymore!! The ring is taking over everything and it really shouldn''t be like this! I''m sure it will pass and he will stop freaking out (hopefully!), but I feel like I''m about to lose it because I don''t want him to worry himself into oblivion. Am I crazy and overreacting?? Is refusing to talk about it although he''s carrying on (he has an appointment with the jeweler on Saturday that I was supposed to go to, but don''t want to anymore) just making things worse? Help please!
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