eaglesfem
Rough_Rock
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- Apr 12, 2008
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Hi, i havent posted here for a while, i need a bit of advice if people would be willing to give it.
my partner and i have just passed 6 years together. we were talking about getting married a lot over the last year or so, but with money problems since i lost my job they have been put on hold.
i have a problem i am trying to deal with right now.
he started a new job a year ago.
After his first day he told me about the people he works with and it turned out there is only one woman in the entire place.
He seemed to talk about her a lot, as in, everytime he spoke to me about work her name was mentioned in some way,even when the conversation had nothing to do with her in any way. i just picked up on it when it happened more and more.
he has always said from when we met " i dont like to socialise with people from work, i like to go to work, come home and keep the two seperate" he has always said that,from day one, in fact i have never known him to go to his xmas party or anything.
Anyway, last year he got a facebook and showed no interest in it at all, people would message him and he would get back months later as he never signed in, yesterday he comes home and says "ive added A FEW people from work" i say "cool, who?" and he says her name, and only her name, so much for the few..
i saw her profile and it turns out she only made her account 2 days ago..
a few weeks ago we were online and he goes into facebook, for the first time in at least 8 months and tells me he wants to learn how to use it, so i showed him how its all done, he just announced he was getting into it more, this was before he adds her..
now hes on facebook most of the day at work, and when he comes home.
as i said, people were lucky to get a reply from him at all, but already hes on her profile liking stuff shes said, sharing apps together, making little comments to each other that must be a "work thing" because i have no clue what they are talking about, he tells her things like "to follow her dreams" etc.
am i just paranoid or is this how work affairs start?
im going to talk to him, maybe tonight, a friend said to not say anything and just keep my eyes open for anything innapropriate, then confront him.
sorry if i sound like a manic girlfriend, this is the first time in 6 years i have felt any kind of threat from another woman and i dont know how to handle it or if its all in my head.
thanks.
my partner and i have just passed 6 years together. we were talking about getting married a lot over the last year or so, but with money problems since i lost my job they have been put on hold.
i have a problem i am trying to deal with right now.
he started a new job a year ago.
After his first day he told me about the people he works with and it turned out there is only one woman in the entire place.
He seemed to talk about her a lot, as in, everytime he spoke to me about work her name was mentioned in some way,even when the conversation had nothing to do with her in any way. i just picked up on it when it happened more and more.
he has always said from when we met " i dont like to socialise with people from work, i like to go to work, come home and keep the two seperate" he has always said that,from day one, in fact i have never known him to go to his xmas party or anything.
Anyway, last year he got a facebook and showed no interest in it at all, people would message him and he would get back months later as he never signed in, yesterday he comes home and says "ive added A FEW people from work" i say "cool, who?" and he says her name, and only her name, so much for the few..
i saw her profile and it turns out she only made her account 2 days ago..
a few weeks ago we were online and he goes into facebook, for the first time in at least 8 months and tells me he wants to learn how to use it, so i showed him how its all done, he just announced he was getting into it more, this was before he adds her..
now hes on facebook most of the day at work, and when he comes home.
as i said, people were lucky to get a reply from him at all, but already hes on her profile liking stuff shes said, sharing apps together, making little comments to each other that must be a "work thing" because i have no clue what they are talking about, he tells her things like "to follow her dreams" etc.
am i just paranoid or is this how work affairs start?
im going to talk to him, maybe tonight, a friend said to not say anything and just keep my eyes open for anything innapropriate, then confront him.
sorry if i sound like a manic girlfriend, this is the first time in 6 years i have felt any kind of threat from another woman and i dont know how to handle it or if its all in my head.
thanks.