Am I nuts to want to reset again?

[Maisie]

I wonder if you could look at it from a different angle. Any new ring you get is never going to be your engagement ring. Your engagement ring is the one he proposed to you with.

If you were to buy yourself a new ring which is totally separate from your engagement ring you could get something that will make you really happy while not competing with the ring your husband bought for you. You could wear the new ring as often or as little as you like. As long as you still wear the ring he bought you. Hopefully he would be happy with this and so would you

 

[partgypsy]

You guys all have good points. I didn't mention that my wedding band is YG, so any reset would have to be YG.

Missstepcut, you're actually pretty close. I want finger coverage, and it's difficult to do that with a half carat diamond. That said, I tried on a setting about a month ago which gave me adequate finger coverage in the form of pave and fine platinum filigree. It was already set with a 0.5 center diamond by Sebastien Barier, and I loved everything about it except the price (the setting was ~$4500). If it had been $2000, I probably would have considered pursuing it in YG...except I don't think Sebastien Barier does YG.

Sig47, I'm not sure. I've never tried on anything I love in YG. Key problem.

Dancingfire, Tristan and Laila: I have to practical because we're not in a place where we can waste money. We have a kid who takes up a lot of money.

Allycat, I thought of that, but my DH wanted to keep this as a center stone. He also doesn't understand jewelry at all. I originally asked for a platinum filigree and got a YG setting that we don't speak of any further. Even he cringes when it comes up. If there were some way to put a thick white gold plating on the original I would, and just set a colored stone in it as an occasional RHR. Rhodium would require too much maintenance.

Lots of things to think about. I've come to the conclusion though, based on your comments, that I need to try on _a lot_ of YG settings and probably just look until I find "the one."

I am leaning heavily towards a cushion shaped platinum, bezeled halo with a YG shank. My spinel and diamond ring can be my blingly ring, and this one can be everyday ring. (I work in an environment where I wouldn't want to wear a lot of bling.)

I don't understand your reasoning. You say that the ring has alot of sentimental value, but you have already changed the setting once and as you said it caused such problems you don't talk about it and it makes your husband cringe. You also said in response to Ally Cat mentioning getting bigger stone or using that stone as a side stone in a 3 stone setting that you thought of that but your DH wanted to keep that stone as the center stone. Is it you or your husband who is sentimental about the ring?
I also got the sense a reset (particularly in YG) is not going the solve the problem. As you said yourself, "I have never tried on anything I love in YG." You were saying maybe if you get another yellow gold setting you will like it if you burnish it, but you already tried that. A different finish will not change the color. Basically you are restricting the reset to options you know you already won't make you happy, so I vote against the reset (though I do give the current setting a BIG thumbs up!). What would I do? I would keep the stone, since that has sentimental value to you. Then I would get a completely different reset (in a white metal, both diamond ring AND wedding band) for a big anniversary.

 

[rainydaze]

part gypsy said everything i was thinking, and more eloquently than i could have said it.

i have one idea i'd like to throw out there. you seem attached to the idea that your wedding band is your wedding band and it cannot be changed, therefore anything you do with your ering has to revolve around that (which seems to be the sticking point for you and it's getting in the way of what you *truly* want). so, what about wearing your wedding band on your right hand (love this look for the middle finger, but ring finger works too!) and then as party gypsy suggested, getting a whole new *white metal* set for your left hand to mark an anniversary? if it's tied to an anniversary, it still has wedded significance, and you are not forsaking your wedding band, you're just.... redecorating.

 

[pregcurious]

I don't understand your reasoning. You say that the ring has alot of sentimental value, but you have already changed the setting once and as you said it caused such problems you don't talk about it and it makes your husband cringe. You also said in response to Ally Cat mentioning getting bigger stone or using that stone as a side stone in a 3 stone setting that you thought of that but your DH wanted to keep that stone as the center stone. Is it you or your husband who is sentimental about the ring?

Tristan, your post makes much more sense. I appreciate your apology. I thought you were angry at my doing a reset. My husband at the end just wants me to have an ering I wear everyday instead of one that sits in a box.

Partgypsy, my husband does not cringe about the reset. He cringes about the original setting because it's ugly--things look one way under bright shiny lights when a salesperson is pushing him to buy something. Please reread all the posts if you want more detail--we are both sentimental about the stone, and I chose to keep it after I was offered an upgrade. A 3 stone is not completely out, but I already found a setting I like with just a center stone, so I don't think I have to do that. My husband feels more strongly about keeping it as a center stone...it is not as important to me, but if I can do that and find a setting, then that's great. If I got to him and say I haven't found anything, he'll be fine with it. (I am also making a 3-stone for anniversary ring, which I didn't mention in this thread, so now that I think of it, it really doesn't make sense.)

After seeing how blown up this thread got, I am looking on the bright side of things--my DH can't pick jewelry worth a darn, but at least he's fine with doing what I want. I was just talking to him about this thread, and he had the same reaction that I did. He said, people are different.

YG ering settings are much harder to find in most jewelry stores. I don't think this story means I will never find a YG setting I like, but perhaps some of you guys are right. Time will tell. I'm definitely not doing another custom job without sketches or CADS like I did with WhiteFlash. That's completely another thread.

 

[pregcurious]

Rainydaze, Partgypsy did not get it right. I've already asked people to stop the speculation about my and my husband's feelings about the ring--I've tried to be clear about our feelings, but I think sometimes people have a hard time accepting that people feel differently than they do. Bottom line---that is not my issue. I think you guys are trying to help, but it's really getting in the way of people suggesting settings, which is what would actually help me.

Thank you for the helpful suggestion of making a white metal anniversary set. I am already doing it . My husband gifted me with an eternity ring, which I'm posted about here ([URL='https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/beverley-k-eternity-ring-from-pearlmans.164217/']https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/beverley-k-eternity-ring-from-pearlmans.164217/[/URL]), and I am working on a three stone with a red spinel as a center and 2 flanking diamonds ([URL='https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/poll-please-vote-on-settings-for-red-spinel.167947/']https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/poll-please-vote-on-settings-for-red-spinel.167947/[/URL]). However, this is not appropriate for my work place, and I never wear a lot of bling unless in social settings.

I still want to wear my ering diamond. As I wrote in my first post "it hurts me a little that I don't wear the diamond." (If you guys are going to ask next if it hurts me or my husband more, I really don't know .) I absolutely want to wear it with my wedding ring. It's just how I feel about it. My sister wears her wedding band on her right hand but that's not for me (and she lives in a European country where that is not uncommon.)

 

[D&T]

do you like stacking? you could get a narrow eternity ring in White (if that's what you want) then reset into a narrow halo or three stone keeping your current diamond(as part of a sidestone) or center. So you would have a White er-ing, Yellow gold band, and white eternity band...

Sorry disregard if you have plans on going with yellow gold... I love yellow gold and your current ring is Gorgeous. I'm sure you will find something that will make you not want to change it again. I'm sure there are plenty of people who wouldn't mind taking that gorgeous setting off your finger ...what was your ring size again

 

[Sundial]

Pregcurious have you ever considered a five-stone ring with your stone as the center? You could make the other two stones on each side the same size as your diamond or go with a graduated look as some on here have done. The shank could be yellow gold to coordinate with your wedding band, but the prongs could be done in platinum to give the ring a white metal look from the top. I think a five stone ring looks great next to a band and it is a very blingy yet understated look with a lot of finger coverage.

 

[pregcurious]

D&T, the ring is a 4.25, but it is resizable. Let me know if you're really interested in just the setting, and we can discuss through DB.

Sundial, that's a great idea. I never even considered it. Thank you!

 

[D&T]

You should list it ...
ETA i also second junebug's suggestion on halos from eternitydiamonds, and you could have them send a saple halo ring you like at no cost.

 

[Circe]

D'oh - PregCurious, another apology from me. I thought MisStepCut wrote a great post with great points about resets in the abstract - I was reading it as a general "you" and I didn't realize it wasn't applicable to your situation. No fault on you for wanting to keep your original - I'm another sentimental, and I wouldn't swap my e-ring for the Krupp.

I do think the suggestion of getting an alternate set and wearing your YG wedding band on your right hand is a lovely one: alternately, Sundial's idea of a graduated 5-stone band sounds lovely to me. I'd wear that in a heartbeat! Before I toss out any additional suggestions - could you maybe say more about the kinds of settings you'd like? Maybe link to a few rings on PS you particularly admire?

 

[rainydaze]

have you seen this? http://jewelsbyericagrace.smugmug.com/JbEGSignatureSettingsandSpecia/Halos/The-Mimi-Halo-Featuring-a/18967126_58xDTs#1503942246_g2JSSMc

 

[pregcurious]

Thanks, Circe. I appreciate the apology.

Raindydaze, thanks for the jbEG halo link. It's very pretty.

I'll have to see if Jeweler's Mutual is willing to insure the stone loose...I guess I could also put it back in the original ering setting if they won't. The irony.

 

[D&T]

I think you should keep your diamond still in the setting as you post perhaps feelers out there if you want to sell your setting so you know how many interests it gets. Once you have a buyer commit then I would remove the diamond only after the purchase is my thoughts or if funds permit, I'd just wait altogether until you found "THE ONE" and get it reset into that ring first, because how long would something like that take?

Oooops - I just read that you already have a three stone ring planned- Sounds Wonderful!.. I do love the graduated five stone idea too!

 

[pregcurious]

D&T, all good points. This setting is so close to what I envisioned that I'll definitely only list if I have another solution in mind. This entire thread has made me realize how much I love my stone.