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I''m going to try and shorten up a long story...
My sister came out of the closet about a year ago. She was 29 at the time...30 now.
She then became obsessed with a message board and chatting with people on the board. When I mean obsessed, I mean obsessed. Like lived on the site...and eventually it turned into chatting online and then chatting on skype.
She lived with me and my husband for some time--didn''t pay bills (and if she did pay them it was always late) and was up all night chatting online (She would be up until 4 or 5 a.m.). She never ever goes out unless I beg her to go somewhere. She just wants to chat online and drink with her online friends.
I posted about this once upon a time and I took the advice and suggestions from the previous thread. I thought that maybe she was just obsessed with the message board/chat because she finally could talk to people about being gay. And she was never a big socializer...so I thought, "Okay, she''s just happy to have friends."
Okay, new situation.
She started dating one of the girls on the message board. About two months into the relationship my sister would come to me complaining about how the girlfriend was acting weird and was being distant. She wound up driving to her state (We live on the East Coast...the girlfriend lives in the MidWest area) to see her for a week even though they were having issues. The girlfriend wound up trying to get up the nerve to break up with my sister for like 3 months. She would go nuts a few times a month and would stop talking to my sister completely....even saying she felt that she was being stifled and was getting too overwhelmed by the relationship (overwhelmed by a relationship that took place through texts and chatrooms??). Anyways, at almost 6 months into the relationship--she told my sister to get a plane ticket to come see her. So my sister did. Then the girl broke up with her--telling her she wasn''t sure if she was ready for a serious relationship (She is 19---my sister is 30). My sister found out about a week later the gf actually broke up with her because she saw her ex at a concert and wanted to hook up with her instead.
So, my sister is still going to fly to the city and hang out with this girl in the hopes of them getting back together.
I literally had to walk out on my sister yesterday---I''m so sick and tired of listening to her complain about this girl and then act like she is the greatest thing and that she wants to get back with her.
She even asked to borrow a movie that I own that she knows is the gf''s favorite movie...I told her no. Not if she was taking it to the girls house.
I received a text today from my sister asking why I couldn''t support her when she didn''t say anything when I took my husband back after some issues during our dating days.
We were dating for a year and were living together and talking engagement and all of that. She has seen this girl for 7 days total and they have been dating for less than 6 months and 3 1/2 of those months were them debating on breaking up with eachother....obviously not the same situation.
I''m just over it....wasn''t there a rule on Sex and the City where you were allowed to be honest with your friend and tell them to just get over it and stop b*tching? Something like 1 month for each year you were dating??
Oh, and the other day I asked my sister a question through text....had absolutely nothing to do with her gf or anything. She texts me back the response to my question and adds in, "I think I''m going to have to cut her out of my life." WTF? That had nothing to do with my text! So I was like, "She broke up with you because she likes someone else....she already cut you out of her life." She got p*ssed with me and wrote a whiny blog about it on myspace......
Does this make me a bad sister that I just don''t want to hear it anymore...it''s been almost a month now of listening to this (well 4 months if you count the prebreakup complaining)...and now I''m supposed to be supportive that she wants to run to the gf''s state and try and get her back??
Also, my parents are getting upset also because she lives with them and pays no rent or bills for the house...doesn''t pay for groceries...doesn''t mow the lawn or anything.....but she always has money to buy a new computer so she can chat with the gf (during their dating days) and she had money to travel twice now to see her......that''s another issue that I get accused of being insensitive to because it makes me so mad that my sister is taking advantage of them.
Sorry for this post...not sure what I''m asking for exactly...maybe I just needed to vent!!
My sister came out of the closet about a year ago. She was 29 at the time...30 now.
She then became obsessed with a message board and chatting with people on the board. When I mean obsessed, I mean obsessed. Like lived on the site...and eventually it turned into chatting online and then chatting on skype.
She lived with me and my husband for some time--didn''t pay bills (and if she did pay them it was always late) and was up all night chatting online (She would be up until 4 or 5 a.m.). She never ever goes out unless I beg her to go somewhere. She just wants to chat online and drink with her online friends.
I posted about this once upon a time and I took the advice and suggestions from the previous thread. I thought that maybe she was just obsessed with the message board/chat because she finally could talk to people about being gay. And she was never a big socializer...so I thought, "Okay, she''s just happy to have friends."
Okay, new situation.
She started dating one of the girls on the message board. About two months into the relationship my sister would come to me complaining about how the girlfriend was acting weird and was being distant. She wound up driving to her state (We live on the East Coast...the girlfriend lives in the MidWest area) to see her for a week even though they were having issues. The girlfriend wound up trying to get up the nerve to break up with my sister for like 3 months. She would go nuts a few times a month and would stop talking to my sister completely....even saying she felt that she was being stifled and was getting too overwhelmed by the relationship (overwhelmed by a relationship that took place through texts and chatrooms??). Anyways, at almost 6 months into the relationship--she told my sister to get a plane ticket to come see her. So my sister did. Then the girl broke up with her--telling her she wasn''t sure if she was ready for a serious relationship (She is 19---my sister is 30). My sister found out about a week later the gf actually broke up with her because she saw her ex at a concert and wanted to hook up with her instead.
So, my sister is still going to fly to the city and hang out with this girl in the hopes of them getting back together.
I literally had to walk out on my sister yesterday---I''m so sick and tired of listening to her complain about this girl and then act like she is the greatest thing and that she wants to get back with her.
She even asked to borrow a movie that I own that she knows is the gf''s favorite movie...I told her no. Not if she was taking it to the girls house.
I received a text today from my sister asking why I couldn''t support her when she didn''t say anything when I took my husband back after some issues during our dating days.
We were dating for a year and were living together and talking engagement and all of that. She has seen this girl for 7 days total and they have been dating for less than 6 months and 3 1/2 of those months were them debating on breaking up with eachother....obviously not the same situation.
I''m just over it....wasn''t there a rule on Sex and the City where you were allowed to be honest with your friend and tell them to just get over it and stop b*tching? Something like 1 month for each year you were dating??
Oh, and the other day I asked my sister a question through text....had absolutely nothing to do with her gf or anything. She texts me back the response to my question and adds in, "I think I''m going to have to cut her out of my life." WTF? That had nothing to do with my text! So I was like, "She broke up with you because she likes someone else....she already cut you out of her life." She got p*ssed with me and wrote a whiny blog about it on myspace......
Does this make me a bad sister that I just don''t want to hear it anymore...it''s been almost a month now of listening to this (well 4 months if you count the prebreakup complaining)...and now I''m supposed to be supportive that she wants to run to the gf''s state and try and get her back??
Also, my parents are getting upset also because she lives with them and pays no rent or bills for the house...doesn''t pay for groceries...doesn''t mow the lawn or anything.....but she always has money to buy a new computer so she can chat with the gf (during their dating days) and she had money to travel twice now to see her......that''s another issue that I get accused of being insensitive to because it makes me so mad that my sister is taking advantage of them.
Sorry for this post...not sure what I''m asking for exactly...maybe I just needed to vent!!