advice needed

[dragonfly411]

I''m not going into many details in case anyone sees this. Basically SO had something bad happen this weekend, and he could end up in trouble over it. At this point we are forced to wait in limbo to find out what is going to happen, and he is absolutely terrified and completely stressing out. He''s having trouble eating and sleeping, and at this point is relying on me to be the strong one and help him, which I am doing and am happy to do and want to do, it''s part of our commitment together. My problem right now is this is taking almost a week to figure out, and the stress is starting to wear me out completely and make me rather depressed. SO tried to do right by the situation, so he really has no reason to be learning a lesson, or feeling guilt, or carrying this himself, as he tried really really hard to do the right thing and to make everything right, and it came back and bit him still. My question is how do I remain strong for him, and how do I keep myself from slipping into a depressed state, and keep up strength through this? I''m so stressed, and worried for him, and I want to cry but I can''t allow myself because I need to be strong for SO.

 

[joflier]

Date: 10/9/2008 3:15:05 PM
Author:dragonfly411
I''m not going into many details in case anyone sees this. Basically SO had something bad happen this weekend, and he could end up in trouble over it. At this point we are forced to wait in limbo to find out what is going to happen, and he is absolutely terrified and completely stressing out. He''s having trouble eating and sleeping, and at this point is relying on me to be the strong one and help him, which I am doing and am happy to do and want to do, it''s part of our commitment together. My problem right now is this is taking almost a week to figure out, and the stress is starting to wear me out completely and make me rather depressed. SO tried to do right by the situation, so he really has no reason to be learning a lesson, or feeling guilt, or carrying this himself, as he tried really really hard to do the right thing and to make everything right, and it came back and bit him still. My question is how do I remain strong for him, and how do I keep myself from slipping into a depressed state, and keep up strength through this? I''m so stressed, and worried for him, and I want to cry but I can''t allow myself because I need to be strong for SO.

I think if you have yourself I nice little tearfest in private, that wouldn''t be letting anyone down whatsoever. It might help you get a little of your inner frustrations out, and help you keep coping and giving that moral support the your SO needs. Sending good wishes your way!

 

[Octavia]

If it has anything to do with legal trouble, I''d suggest you start checking into attorneys, and possibly talk to one, in advance. If it turns out that everything is fine, at least you''ll have more knowledge than you did before, and if it turns out that you need one, best to have it all in hand before any craziness ensues.

If it''s not any sort of legal trouble, then there''s probably not much you can do other than to takes a few deep breaths and wait it out with him. He''s lucky to have you by his side, even if neither of you are feeling particularly lucky right now. I hope it all works out for the best.

 

[dragonfly411]

Octavia - we had considered doing so, but really can''t afford the fees unless they are absolutely necessary right now