robbie3982
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I have an 18-year-old sister who is both mentally and physically handicapped. This is her senior year in high school (special needs school) and my mom frequently takes her to dances specifically for disabled kids her age. There is no real supervision at these dances. The parents generally stay and hang out, but usually in a separate room, meaning the DJ is sometimes the only responsible (how responsible I don''t know) adult there.
There''s a cover charge to get in, but apparently there''s no age limit as an "older" (described that way by my 61 year old mother, she guessed 50) mentally handicapped man frequents these dances. And apparently he has a thing for my 18-year-old sister, frequently asking her to slow dance.
My mom was aware that my sister dances with this man and it made her uncomfortable, but she didn''t know what to do/say since there''s really nothing wrong with dancing. Well, a grandmother of one of the other kids recently approached my mom to tell her that she has twice had to go and say something to this guy when my mom wasn''t there because he''s been dancing inappropriately with my sister. My mom asked my sister about it and she knew that the grandmother had talked to him (she was there when it happened after all), but she didn''t seem to have any understanding as to why what he was doing was wrong.
My mom told me all of this this morning and asked me what she should do. She feels like she can''t tell my dad since he''d go BSC (bat @#$%^ crazy for those of you unsure) on this guy and she''s right, he would. She said she doesn''t think this guy is a child molester or anything like that, but she does think that, like my sister, he just doesn''t understand that this is NOT appropriate behavior. She doesn''t want to make my sister stop going since she really enjoys socializing and it helps her to feel like a "normal" teen. I told her she needs to find out who''s in charge of the dance and make them enforce an age limit, but she''s adamant that no one is actually in charge and they just kind of run themselves.
I''m at a loss. Any suggestions?
There''s a cover charge to get in, but apparently there''s no age limit as an "older" (described that way by my 61 year old mother, she guessed 50) mentally handicapped man frequents these dances. And apparently he has a thing for my 18-year-old sister, frequently asking her to slow dance.
My mom was aware that my sister dances with this man and it made her uncomfortable, but she didn''t know what to do/say since there''s really nothing wrong with dancing. Well, a grandmother of one of the other kids recently approached my mom to tell her that she has twice had to go and say something to this guy when my mom wasn''t there because he''s been dancing inappropriately with my sister. My mom asked my sister about it and she knew that the grandmother had talked to him (she was there when it happened after all), but she didn''t seem to have any understanding as to why what he was doing was wrong.
My mom told me all of this this morning and asked me what she should do. She feels like she can''t tell my dad since he''d go BSC (bat @#$%^ crazy for those of you unsure) on this guy and she''s right, he would. She said she doesn''t think this guy is a child molester or anything like that, but she does think that, like my sister, he just doesn''t understand that this is NOT appropriate behavior. She doesn''t want to make my sister stop going since she really enjoys socializing and it helps her to feel like a "normal" teen. I told her she needs to find out who''s in charge of the dance and make them enforce an age limit, but she''s adamant that no one is actually in charge and they just kind of run themselves.
I''m at a loss. Any suggestions?