sweetpea&babycorn
Brilliant_Rock
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hi everyone! i need help!!! here''s what''s going on:
FI and i are getting married in a year. we''re getting married in virginia beach, so it''s a semi-DW wedding, but it''s not so expensive to travel there and a lot of our guests would have to travel and stay in a hotel regardless of where it is. so we''re figuring out our guest list and here''s what happened:
because our guest list is long and we couldn''t figure out where to cut guests, my FI and i developed 2 lists. our first list is our family and closest and mutual friends (List A). our second list are guests who we would love to attend but may not be able to accomodate due to the size of our venue space which is capped at 130 (List B).
we don''t plan on helping guests pay for travel or hotel, is that bad? we are paying for our parents, siblings, and grandparents travel expenses. and if our wedding party needs help, we will chip in as much as we can as well. we totally understand if people can''t come for whatever reason. we really feel like the smaller the better, but we have to invite many family members out of politeness and respect.
we wanted to send save-the-dates so people could arrange travel and vacation days. however, since we now have two sets of guests to send invitations to, what should we do about the save-the-dates? we could send them to our List A guests only, or forget about them altogether. we will block out rooms at two different hotels and also offer a list of other accomodations in case they have reward points they want to use, or would rather book a hotel through hotwire or priceline to get better prices. but all this would have to come in the invitation if we don''t send out save-the-dates.
we were going to send out invitations to List A at the end of February (3.5months before the wedding) and give them 1 month to RSVP. Based on their responses, we were going to send out invitations to List B at the end of March (2.5 months before the wedding) and give them 1 month to RSVP. is this enough time for people to figure out travel arrangements?
what do you think i should do? what''s the best course of action in your opinion?? sorry if this is a long
any advice is appreciated!
FI and i are getting married in a year. we''re getting married in virginia beach, so it''s a semi-DW wedding, but it''s not so expensive to travel there and a lot of our guests would have to travel and stay in a hotel regardless of where it is. so we''re figuring out our guest list and here''s what happened:
because our guest list is long and we couldn''t figure out where to cut guests, my FI and i developed 2 lists. our first list is our family and closest and mutual friends (List A). our second list are guests who we would love to attend but may not be able to accomodate due to the size of our venue space which is capped at 130 (List B).
we don''t plan on helping guests pay for travel or hotel, is that bad? we are paying for our parents, siblings, and grandparents travel expenses. and if our wedding party needs help, we will chip in as much as we can as well. we totally understand if people can''t come for whatever reason. we really feel like the smaller the better, but we have to invite many family members out of politeness and respect.
we wanted to send save-the-dates so people could arrange travel and vacation days. however, since we now have two sets of guests to send invitations to, what should we do about the save-the-dates? we could send them to our List A guests only, or forget about them altogether. we will block out rooms at two different hotels and also offer a list of other accomodations in case they have reward points they want to use, or would rather book a hotel through hotwire or priceline to get better prices. but all this would have to come in the invitation if we don''t send out save-the-dates.
we were going to send out invitations to List A at the end of February (3.5months before the wedding) and give them 1 month to RSVP. Based on their responses, we were going to send out invitations to List B at the end of March (2.5 months before the wedding) and give them 1 month to RSVP. is this enough time for people to figure out travel arrangements?
what do you think i should do? what''s the best course of action in your opinion?? sorry if this is a long