- Mar 20, 2003
Remember my concern about not using a friend who is still technically a realtor but not doing any business and working 9 to 5 at another job? Well, DH kept putting off telling his friend, her husband, and so we put off telling people about the house. But then we just couldn''t wait anymore, so we told people but told them not to tell.
Knowing how upset our friend was about the brother of a friend not using her, we figured it would be better for her husband to break it to her in private. So that meant we needed to tell him without her, which DH did today.
And our friend said he is not going to tell his wife! Apparently she was trying to help some other friends of his who eventually decided to go with someone else and is really upset, and he didn''t want to add to that. I just have to disagree. It is much worse to find out when some third party mentions casually that people you''re close friends with are moving without your knowledge. What a dufus.
He didn''t say he would tell her in a week after the other disappointment sinks in . . . he just said he wasn''t going to tell her and would let her find out when she finds out!
So now I don''t know what to do. It''s really our husbands who are friends (go back to high school, were in each other''s weddings, etc.) -- she and I don''t call each other or anything. So I feel like it would be weird for me to call her up just to drop a bomb her wussy husband was afraid to drop on her. The only other thing I can think of is to post a bulletin on MySpace, which would show up when she logs in since we are friends on there. That way she would find out from a computer and could let it sink in without having to get upset in front of whoever lets it slip. What do you think? Yes, that''s tacky, but I really think the key is for her to be able to get upset without being in front of people.