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Ideal_Rock
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I guess this is really just a rant... I''d love some insight on the situation though!
At Christmas, I mentioned that it would be a great idea to do a gift exchange next year since there are so many people in DH''s family. Everyone agreed it sounded like a great idea. DH''s sister "B" also mentioned it a couple of days later (we were no longer there) and again, everyone thought it sounded like a great idea. Fast forward like 1 week and one of DH''s other sisters ("A") decides to take on the gift exchange by herself even though it wasn''t her idea at all. I expressed interest in wanting to maybe put it together (and see if "B" wanted to help) but hadn''t done anything yet since we have the WHOLE YEAR to plan it. Well, the sister sent an email out saying she was going to be in charge and yada yada yada. DH sent her an email saying that I had expressed interest in wanting to plan it and thought it was a good opportunity to talk with everyone and get to know them a little better. Well, she ignored his email.
Meanwhile, another one of DH''s sisters has a boyfriend of about 4 or 5 years. They''ve lived together for about a year... everyone loves him and we consider him part of the family. The dad and step-mom gave them a joint "couple''s" gift this past Christmas as well. Everyone knows there is talk of him proposing soon. Well, the sister who decided to take over the gift exchange left the boyfriend out of the email and off of the participant''s list!
So like half of the family is upset that she took over the gift exchange and also decided who was and wasn''t part of the family.
She''s said some *really* horrible things about the boyfriend lately that are totally uncalled for and undeserved. Its no secret that she doesn''t like him.
Today, she sent out another email with a gift exchange website she put together. Again, she left the boyfriend off the email and participant''s list
. She also made it where everyone chooses actual names of people they would like to give a gift to... instead of making it random like most (if not everyone) had wanted.
I''m so tired of her drama so I emailed her and asked why boyfriend wasn''t on the list since he had been an unofficial part of the family for the past several years. You can''t go from the parents giving them a joint gift one Christmas to not including him at all the next Christmas! I also told her that it seemed like a better idea and more in the Christmas spirit to draw names randomly instead of letting people just pick their buddies. She never responded.
A few minutes ago I looked at the website again and she has added a poll asking whether we want to pick names or do it randomly. Clearly she got my email but she didn''t do or say anything about the boyfriend... again!
He recently went to their dad and asked to marry the sister... the dad welcomed him into the family happily and they have already put a deposit down on a ring. No doubt the will probably be engaged before next Christmas.
How can she still ignore the fact that he is part of the family? And why does she refuse to even let me HELP with the gift exchange? Are we (the disgruntled siblings/spouses) wrong here?
At Christmas, I mentioned that it would be a great idea to do a gift exchange next year since there are so many people in DH''s family. Everyone agreed it sounded like a great idea. DH''s sister "B" also mentioned it a couple of days later (we were no longer there) and again, everyone thought it sounded like a great idea. Fast forward like 1 week and one of DH''s other sisters ("A") decides to take on the gift exchange by herself even though it wasn''t her idea at all. I expressed interest in wanting to maybe put it together (and see if "B" wanted to help) but hadn''t done anything yet since we have the WHOLE YEAR to plan it. Well, the sister sent an email out saying she was going to be in charge and yada yada yada. DH sent her an email saying that I had expressed interest in wanting to plan it and thought it was a good opportunity to talk with everyone and get to know them a little better. Well, she ignored his email.
Meanwhile, another one of DH''s sisters has a boyfriend of about 4 or 5 years. They''ve lived together for about a year... everyone loves him and we consider him part of the family. The dad and step-mom gave them a joint "couple''s" gift this past Christmas as well. Everyone knows there is talk of him proposing soon. Well, the sister who decided to take over the gift exchange left the boyfriend out of the email and off of the participant''s list!
So like half of the family is upset that she took over the gift exchange and also decided who was and wasn''t part of the family.
She''s said some *really* horrible things about the boyfriend lately that are totally uncalled for and undeserved. Its no secret that she doesn''t like him.
Today, she sent out another email with a gift exchange website she put together. Again, she left the boyfriend off the email and participant''s list

I''m so tired of her drama so I emailed her and asked why boyfriend wasn''t on the list since he had been an unofficial part of the family for the past several years. You can''t go from the parents giving them a joint gift one Christmas to not including him at all the next Christmas! I also told her that it seemed like a better idea and more in the Christmas spirit to draw names randomly instead of letting people just pick their buddies. She never responded.
A few minutes ago I looked at the website again and she has added a poll asking whether we want to pick names or do it randomly. Clearly she got my email but she didn''t do or say anything about the boyfriend... again!
He recently went to their dad and asked to marry the sister... the dad welcomed him into the family happily and they have already put a deposit down on a ring. No doubt the will probably be engaged before next Christmas.
How can she still ignore the fact that he is part of the family? And why does she refuse to even let me HELP with the gift exchange? Are we (the disgruntled siblings/spouses) wrong here?