A Problem... Need Opinions....

[Mashira]

So FF and I are looking for a church for the ceremony. We've decided to start early because where we live there is a REAL shortage of small chapels. (We live in Texas and most churches are mega-churches). I am a religious person and so is FF. We picked a date that has ended up being a Sunday. I was fine with this, until we started looking for a church. Most churches will not allow weddings on Sundays because of services. Now we are faced with either:

a .changing the date (and we've already booked the caterer for the Sunday)
b. not doing the ceremony in a church

I would not be completely heartbroken if it were not in a church, but I've always imagined it that way from the time I was a little girl. I think I could very much appreciate a nice outdoor wedding, but there is a lack of facilities to do that here, and with the Texas heat, it could very well kill everyone! There is another option. The place we are looking at for the reception also does weddings. I'm not in love with the space but they have an AMAZING spiral staircase I would use as my 'aisle'. The problem is.... it's hard for me to get excited about the thought of that. I feel like my dream dress belongs in a church, and I would probably not get the dress I wanted because it wouldn't suit the ceremony. *sigh* I don't know. I just don't know... opinions?

 

[PrincessNatalie]

This would probably be a better question for the girls at Bride World Wide.

But I dont think the caterer would have an issue with you changing the day.

 

[yssie]

I would change the date.


You have such strong feelings about getting married in a church, it's worth a few extra hundred to make that a reality - weddings are so expensive anyway, you might as well get what you've dreamed of

 

[Mashira]

Thanks Yssie, and I agree, I think I'll post this in BWW! I kind of wanted the opinions of you ladies though, as I've come to know and really value the opinions yall have!

 

[shihtzulover]

I have to agree with what the other have said - it seems like you really want a church wedding. Since this is what you've always dreamed of, you should get it. Changing the date with the caterer hopefully won't be too difficult.

Good luck!

 

[Anonymous]

For me, it's more important to have the wedding in a church than to save on the caterer's (probably small, if any) fee to change the date. Good luck!

 

[Mashira]

There would be no fee, and no increase in cost because the wedding would move to Friday not Saturday. The problem with this is more days off work (we would have to take Thursday and Friday off) which would cut down on Honeymoon time. I think I may seriously be considering an outdoor wedding now... because aside from the Sunday thing, most churches around here seem to have a 'no pictures during the ceremony' policy. That means no pictures of us exchanging the ring, or of the 'you may kiss the bride' moment... and that is just not okay with me.

Thank you for the advice!

 

[yssie]

Would having the wedding in a church yard or something, outdoors, maybe be an alternative? That way there wouldn't be the no pictures restrictions (I'd want those pics too!), and you'd still be in on church grounds...


But I would also understand if it's important to you to be in a church.


Just - for goodness sake - if you find the perfect alternative location, don't talk about it with that nosy friend of yours!

 

[Mashira]

ROFL! Yssie, I love you for that, I needed the laugh! No worries, I've learned my lesson on that front

I like the idea of a church backyard sort of thing. The church I was looking at has beautiful grounds and a gazebo-like deal that just may fit 60 people. I never would have thought of that, you're a genius!

 

[entitledpearl22]

I'm not sure what city you are in but most of the colleges have chapels that would be perfect for what I think you are looking for. If you are in the Dallas area SMU has a very well known chapel as well as DBU and UNT.

Hope that helps!

 

[Autumnovember]

I agree with the other ladies, try to change the date. It seems as though the church aspect is really important to you. Plus, the comfort of your guests being in the heat is another factor that would greatly concern me.