southhorizon
Rough_Rock
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- Jul 7, 2009
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It was our anniversary on the weekend. I wasn''t expecting a proposal because I know SO wouldn''t do it on an anniversary but I had had been hoping it would be sometime soon. Anyway, the evening started off in a slightly unfortunate way when SO''s present to me was a present that has bad associations for me (in a nutshell it was the same present given to me by my ex for my 30th birthday and I thought it was pretty impersonal - part of the reason we ended up splitting up but that''s a long story). Obviously this is not SO''s fault and I graciously "oohed" and ''aahed" but I was little disappointed. Then completely unprompted by me SO starts talking about the proposal saying things like "how long have I got to propose - years, days, hours?" Because it was our anniversary I just laughed it off because I didn''t want to spoil the evening but I''m really not sure what to do anymore.
For nearly 6 months he has been making jokes about the ring, talking about when we are married and our honeymoon (which he wants in spring next year) and yet nothing seems to be happening. At first I thought he was teasing so it would be a surprise but I''m really not sure whether he is anymore. I''m worried that I pushed him down the line of needing to propose with a ring and that he is now stuck for what to choose. I have told him more than once (including again on our anniversary) that it isn''t about the ring and if he wants some help that''s fine, but he just makes a joke of it. I have also asked him to stop teasing me about it until he is ready but that also doesn''t seem to sink in. Of course with our anniversary we are also getting a lot of comments about when he is going to propose and I''m finding it hard to keep a smile on my face about it. I don''t want to overreact if he has something planned but trying to be subtle about it hasn''t helped either. I am happy for it to be a surprise but I feel like I am in limbo at the moment because so many things we need to plan/want to do depend on when we plan to get married. Any thoughts on how to approach this?