A little bummed

[junebug17]

Hey all! I wasn't really sure where to post this since it's diamond related but doesn't really seem to fit in any of the diamond sub-forums and is basically just a vent. I'm currently shopping for an OEC ring in the 2 carat range but the hubs is more comfortable making the purchase in Feb. for financial reasons. Unfortunately the ring I've been seriously considering just went up in price by a decent amount, taking it over budget for me. Dang it, I had a feeling this would happen. Should have gone with my instincts. Just wondering if this has ever happened to anyone else? Blah, I'm bummed. Thanks in advance for listening - I don't have anybody IRL to discuss diamond stuff with!

 

[Skippy123]

Is this a ring w/OEC already set? It might worth asking the vendor if they would honor the old price? There is a gorgeous 1.79 carat in the preloved section.

I have seen things jump but my feeling is that if you wait long enough you will find what you want. Or at least I did. Hope the same goes for you. what a bummer!

 

[luv2sparkle]

I agree with Skippy. Call the vendor asap and ask if they will honor the price for you. They often do.

 

[junebug17]

Skippy: Thanks for your reply - yes, this is a complete ring - thanks for the reminder about the stone on the pre-loved section - but unfortunately the stone plus a setting would also put me over budget! Thank you for your help!

Thanks for your reply as well luv2sparkle - contacting the vendor is worth a try.

I was checking out the ring last night at 1:30 in the morning, and by 9:00 this morning the price had changed. Oy.

 

[LaraOnline]

Swallow your pride. Make the Call. All's fair in love and war.
...but will your husband cough up?? Or will he make you wait, for the Principle of it all?!
Sure enough, the 'right' one will come...eventually...

 

[yssie]

I'm sorry! That must be disappointing. I do agree with luv that they'd likely honour the old price - but, of course, you'd have to buy *now*, and if that's not impulse then I don't know what is!

You'll find it. If it's meant to be, you'll find it (and I find that wanting it enough is sometimes all that's needed to make it Meant To Be!) The ring I'm finally ready to make my mum has a similar story: I started collecting stones a year and a half ago, didn't rush because I imagined since I was looking for old cuts I'd have all the time in the world to buy/compare/try again... then prices skyrocketed and all of a sudden everything had doubled! Early December I cringed at what I was looking at for a couple of half-caraters but worried that it'd just go up even more, but something made me hold off until the weekend and Friday night I happened on a 0.9ctw pair at a January price that turned out to be perfect!

ETA If you do decide to wait 'till Feb and they won't give it to you at the old price I'm sure we can help you find something you'll love just as much

 

[junebug17]

Swallow your pride. Make the Call. All's fair in love and war.
...but will your husband cough up?? Or will he make you wait, for the Principle of it all?!

Sure enough, the 'right' one will come...eventually...

Unfortunately, I just texted my husband and he wants to wait. Texting him might seem like the wrong move, but I knew he was busy today and he can't always take a call but can always text. I'm disappointed because, after looking for several months, this seemed like the best value I could find and I really love the ring. No guarantee the vendor would have honored the old price anyway, though. It was a decent price difference.

I'm feeling a bit out of sorts about the whole thing, to the point I think I'm just going to give up on making this purchase entirely. Eh, I just feel a little down right now. Sorry for the pity party!

Thanks everyone!

 

[LaraOnline]

hah! you may think you'll go cold turkey, but I guarantee you'll be back off the wagon and in the marketplace before you can steady yourself.
Call me psychic!

 

[junebug17]

I'm sorry! That must be disappointing. I do agree with luv that they'd likely honour the old price - but, of course, you'd have to buy *now*, and if that's not impulse then I don't know what is!

You'll find it. If it's meant to be, you'll find it (and I find that wanting it enough is sometimes all that's needed to make it Meant To Be!) The ring I'm finally ready to make my mum has a similar story: I started collecting stones a year and a half ago, didn't rush because I imagined since I was looking for old cuts I'd have all the time in the world to buy/compare/try again... then prices skyrocketed and all of a sudden everything had doubled! Early December I cringed at what I was looking at for a couple of half-caraters but worried that it'd just go up even more, but something made me hold off until the weekend and Friday night I happened on a 0.9ctw pair at a January price that turned out to be perfect!

ETA If you do decide to wait 'till Feb and they won't give it to you at the old price I'm sure we can help you find something you'll love just as much

Thanks yssie, you are just so nice! Yes, asking them to honor the price would have meant purchasing today, which I was willing to do but unfortunately but my husband wasn't! Your story is encouraging, and I'm glad things fell into place so well for you! Yeah, this price increase did take me a bit by surprise.

 

[Circe]

June, I think I mentioned this before, but ... I know EXACTLY how you feel - went through the same cycle a few months ago. Having a fiscally careful spouse is a bonus in some ways, but it can be really frustrating in the moment, both because, well, you want what you want when you want it, and because (at least for me), it can make a gift feel like something you have to push for, which, erk. I had little moments of "Then I just won't get ANYTHING!" before I found the ring I wanted for a steal ... which, in retrospect, would have left me unsatisfied and been an excellent example of cutting off my nose to spite my face.

But if your husband's like mine - and it sounds like he is - you WILL get this wonderful generous caring present ... once it's clear that the bonus is in the bag. Which, hey, I might not like it, but I have to admit that it's sensible and practical and, yeah, we (or at least I) need that attitude in my life, even if it IS anathema to prioritize it over a really great deal when you're a little bit of a gambler.

But Yssie's right - wait long enough, and you WILL find an awesome deal. Especially with all the resources of PS at your disposal. I can't remember the poster's name, but just a month or two ago there was a 10 page thread where everybody helped her search, and she wound up with THE most gorgeous ring ....

 

[JewelFreak]

Junebug, honey, sympathies like crazy! That is a bummer, can dig why you never want to see another ring. You know what usually happens? Soon you find one you like even better. It occurs so darned often. Even happened to me with a house -- I fell in love, for tax reasons DH wanted to wait till after Jan. to make an offer, & somebody swooped in & bought it from underneath us. I cried. A few months later, of course, I found one MUCH more to our wishes & we lived there 9 very happy years, sold it for a big profit. Sometimes we have to give in to being guided, I believe. Your wonderful ring is waiting for you -- either the price will drop again on this one because the vendor went too high, or an even better one will have your name on it. Chin up!

--- Laurie

 

[Dancing Fire]

[quote="junebug17|

Thanks yssie, you are just so nice! Yes, asking them to honor the price would have meant purchasing today, which I was willing to do but unfortunately but my husband wasn't! Your story is encouraging, and I'm glad things fell into place so well for you! Yeah, this price increase did take me a bit by surprise.[/quote]
then do it behind his back ..

 

[junebug17]

!!

June, I think I mentioned this before, but ... I know EXACTLY how you feel - went through the same cycle a few months ago. Having a fiscally careful spouse is a bonus in some ways, but it can be really frustrating in the moment, both because, well, you want what you want when you want it, and because (at least for me), it can make a gift feel like something you have to push for, which, erk. I had little moments of "Then I just won't get ANYTHING!" before I found the ring I wanted for a steal ... which, in retrospect, would have left me unsatisfied and been an excellent example of cutting off my nose to spite my face.

But if your husband's like mine - and it sounds like he is - you WILL get this wonderful generous caring present ... once it's clear that the bonus is in the bag. Which, hey, I might not like it, but I have to admit that it's sensible and practical and, yeah, we (or at least I) need that attitude in my life, even if it IS anathema to prioritize it over a really great deal when you're a little bit of a gambler.

But Yssie's right - wait long enough, and you WILL find an awesome deal. Especially with all the resources of PS at your disposal. I can't remember the poster's name, but just a month or two ago there was a 10 page thread where everybody helped her search, and she wound up with THE most gorgeous ring ....

Circe, the bolded part sums up my feelings very well! That's pretty much EXACTLY how I'm feeling - in addition to a bit of foot-stamping on my part, throw in a healthy dose of feeling uncomfortable and nervous about such a large purchase to begin with, and you have a very emotionally mixed up junebug lol. There's definitely some "oh, just forget the whole thing" going on right now. Thanks for the empathy, and for the reality check - it makes sense to wait. I guess the thing that's bothering me is that I've been looking online for several months now, and I honestly hadn't come across a better deal than the old price of this ring. I'll admit being a bit frustrated right now with the hubs for letting a *good deal* get away. But I'll get over it - eventually!

 

[junebug17]

Junebug, honey, sympathies like crazy! That is a bummer, can dig why you never want to see another ring. You know what usually happens? Soon you find one you like even better. It occurs so darned often. Even happened to me with a house -- I fell in love, for tax reasons DH wanted to wait till after Jan. to make an offer, & somebody swooped in & bought it from underneath us. I cried. A few months later, of course, I found one MUCH more to our wishes & we lived there 9 very happy years, sold it for a big profit. Sometimes we have to give in to being guided, I believe. Your wonderful ring is waiting for you -- either the price will drop again on this one because the vendor went too high, or an even better one will have your name on it. Chin up!

--- Laurie

Laurie, thanks so much! Your post made me feel better, as did Circe's. Thanks for understanding, and for not thinking I'm way too invested in a piece of jewelry (which, I probably am ) Yeah, right now I'm sort of burnt out on the whole ring thing - from what I can see, it's kind of slim pickin's right now for the size of OEC I would like to have for the price I'm comfortable paying. This particular ring seemed to fit everything I wanted, including the price. Up until today, that is.

You know, it's funny but I must have been sensing that something was up with this ring - the wording in the listing changed a few days ago, which made me keep checking back - and then the price changed. The ring is in the process of getting an EGL cert - maybe that affected the price? I guess the bottom line is the vendor felt the price was too low.

 

[Enerchi]

not to sound too 'hokey' here, but sometimes, what happens, happens for a reason. Maybe this really wasn't the ring for you (GASP! Where does this nonsense come from, you're thinking!) and there really is a better one down the road. I know for me, when I get my heart set on something and think I'm all ready to pull the trigger--- then for some unexplained reason, I don't --- it often turns out there was a reason unknown to me at the time.

Yeah, weird karmic things happen that are out of our control and our knowledge (ok, I have totally crossed to the "hokey" side now!! ) but there has to be 'something' going on to have stopped you when you had the chance to purchase. Some niggling doubt held you back...

There will be the right one soon. (and that does NOT make it feel better now -I'm sorry. )

 

[junebug17]

not to sound too 'hokey' here, but sometimes, what happens, happens for a reason. Maybe this really wasn't the ring for you (GASP! Where does this nonsense come from, you're thinking!) and there really is a better one down the road. I know for me, when I get my heart set on something and think I'm all ready to pull the trigger--- then for some unexplained reason, I don't --- it often turns out there was a reason unknown to me at the time.

Yeah, weird karmic things happen that are out of our control and our knowledge (ok, I have totally crossed to the "hokey" side now!! ) but there has to be 'something' going on to have stopped you when you had the chance to purchase. Some niggling doubt held you back...

There will be the right one soon. (and that does NOT make it feel better now -I'm sorry. )

Thanks Enerchi! Yes, I guess things happen for a reason...I can recall other times in my life where I've been disappointed, but things ended up working out in the end...and in addition to feeling a bit down, I also feel rather silly for letting a piece of jewelry throw me for such a loop -Thanks for understanding!

 

[Enerchi]

Oh Junebug! If only I could say a piece of jewelry has been the simplest thing to get me upset!! Sadly, I must hang my head in shame and admit to freaking out when my last piece of birthday cake (which in MY MIND... was MINE!! Hey - it *was* my birthday after all...) caused a bit of a scene in the household! Seriously - its JUST CAKE!

So to me, loosing out on a ring is WAY more important than cake! I totally get the bummed thing...

 

[Amys Bling]

when it's time, you will find the perfect ring. I too get emotionally attached to purchases and when things dont work out it definitely affects my mood and my opinion on making a purchase. Happened with our house- love a house, put in a bid, lost it to another bidder- and then i definitely stomped around for a while pouting. Low and behold, 6 months later we got a bigger better house for a better price.

 

[junebug17]

when it's time, you will find the perfect ring. I too get emotionally attached to purchases and when things dont work out it definitely affects my mood and my opinion on making a purchase. Happened with our house- love a house, put in a bid, lost it to another bidder- and then i definitely stomped around for a while pouting. Low and behold, 6 months later we got a bigger better house for a better price.

It's pretty amazing how emotionally invested we can get with purchases, isn't it? Particularly houses and jewelry lol. When either a house or a piece of jewelry *speaks* to us and just seems so perfect, it's hard to accept it when things don't work out. Thanks for the nice words Amy!

 

[junebug17]

hah! you may think you'll go cold turkey, but I guarantee you'll be back off the wagon and in the marketplace before you can steady yourself.
Call me psychic!

Haha!! You might be right Lara - but right now I'm feeling kinda about the whole thing - oh, it gets better too: turns out my husband was having a particularly bad day at work, and here I am texting him about buying an expensive ring - THAT DAY!! Gee, I have great timing, don't I? Now I feel really great about everything In my defense I didn't know things were crazy for him!

I think my first mistake was looking for a ring too soon - but what can I say, I got excited! I'm going to back away and re-think the whole thing for a bit. I'm going to stop looking for now and just re-visit this in February.

 

[Imdanny]

Re: !!

- in addition to a bit of foot-stamping on my part, throw in a healthy dose of feeling uncomfortable and nervous about such a large purchase to begin with, and you have a very emotionally mixed up junebug lol.

You are very charming! Hang in there. It will happen.

Hugs!

 

[TristanC]

Hang on to that desire, you'll come across something that makes sense soon. I'm sure of it. And then hindsight will be wonderful.

 

[Lottie]

Junebug I've been watching this thread hoping that you would post that dh had given the green flag on the ring you found. My husband and I have had scenarios similar to this - he is very much a wait and see'er and I am most definately not, it has taken the shine off of purchases on one or two occasions because I have felt that he has 'made' me wait and he has felt that I have rushed into a big ticket item before he was comfortable.

I'm crossing my fingers and toes that this delay is meant to be and when its a green light for both of you, you'll stumble upon something amazing.

I like your profile picture by the way - very uplifting for a cold winters day.

 

[junebug17]

Re: !!

- in addition to a bit of foot-stamping on my part, throw in a healthy dose of feeling uncomfortable and nervous about such a large purchase to begin with, and you have a very emotionally mixed up junebug lol.

You are very charming! Hang in there. It will happen.

Hugs!

Aw Danny, thanks!! You made my day a little brighter!

 

[junebug17]

Hang on to that desire, you'll come across something that makes sense soon. I'm sure of it. And then hindsight will be wonderful.

Thanks for the supportive words Tristan!! I'm getting over my disappointment, and feeling hopeful right now that things will fall into place eventually. It was nice of you to take the time to respond to my tale of woe!

 

[junebug17]

Junebug I've been watching this thread hoping that you would post that dh had given the green flag on the ring you found. My husband and I have had scenarios similar to this - he is very much a wait and see'er and I am most definately not, it has taken the shine off of purchases on one or two occasions because I have felt that he has 'made' me wait and he has felt that I have rushed into a big ticket item before he was comfortable.

I'm crossing my fingers and toes that this delay is meant to be and when its a green light for both of you, you'll stumble upon something amazing.

I like your profile picture by the way - very uplifting for a cold winters day.

Thanks so much Lottie, you're so very nice! And you've hit the nail on the head - I think my dh felt he was being rushed into a big purchase after we had already discussed it and I agreed to wait until the end of February (and I guess he has a point ). And yes, I guess I was feeling a tad resentful at having to wait, when it's just a matter of a month or two. I haven't even brought it up again, and won't until next month. I'm sure he's still on board, but I'd rather just wait until he's comfortable about the purchase, because it's just no fun if he's not excited about it too. To be honest, I'm re-thinking things a little - the size OEC I have in mind is just so expensive. Maybe in a few weeks I'll start looking for less expensive options. Hopefully, when the time is right, I can start a thread with different options for my PS friends to weigh in on!

Thanks about my profile pic - It's a beach in South Carolina - my husband took it and says the chairs are for me and him! Hopefully we'll be able to retire there someday and those chairs really will be for us!

 

[armywife13]

I am sorry, junebug I can completely understand your frustration with it all. In light of my situation, I can say-at least he is being upfront instead of giving you the go ahead and then going bonkers. Ha ha. I hope you at least got a giggle out of that. In all honesty though-it will happen when it is meant to be, and you WILL get an amazing diamond and ring. When I was looking, I used to want to jump at every pretty ring that met my criteria, but if I had I never would have found my dream diamond.

 

[junebug17]

I am sorry, junebug I can completely understand your frustration with it all. In light of my situation, I can say-at least he is being upfront instead of giving you the go ahead and then going bonkers. Ha ha. I hope you at least got a giggle out of that. In all honesty though-it will happen when it is meant to be, and you WILL get an amazing diamond and ring. When I was looking, I used to want to jump at every pretty ring that met my criteria, but if I had I never would have found my dream diamond.

Thanks armywife13! Give my dh some time - he'll probably go bonkers at some point - Thank God when I bugged him at work it was through a text - I don't want to think what his response would have been if I had actually spoken to him!!!

 

[LaraOnline]

Junebug, honey, sympathies like crazy! That is a bummer, can dig why you never want to see another ring. You know what usually happens? Soon you find one you like even better. It occurs so darned often. Even happened to me with a house -- I fell in love, for tax reasons DH wanted to wait till after Jan. to make an offer, & somebody swooped in & bought it from underneath us. I cried. A few months later, of course, I found one MUCH more to our wishes & we lived there 9 very happy years, sold it for a big profit. Sometimes we have to give in to being guided, I believe. Your wonderful ring is waiting for you -- either the price will drop again on this one because the vendor went too high, or an even better one will have your name on it. Chin up!

--- Laurie

I think LAurie and Enerchi (And Amy) had the right idea... this part of your journey all adds up to an appreciated and lovely ring further down the track! ups and downs etc etc. I'm sorry if you experienced my post as being a little dismissive, initially , Junebug!
I hope you're feeling more positive now.

 

[junebug17]

Junebug, honey, sympathies like crazy! That is a bummer, can dig why you never want to see another ring. You know what usually happens? Soon you find one you like even better. It occurs so darned often. Even happened to me with a house -- I fell in love, for tax reasons DH wanted to wait till after Jan. to make an offer, & somebody swooped in & bought it from underneath us. I cried. A few months later, of course, I found one MUCH more to our wishes & we lived there 9 very happy years, sold it for a big profit. Sometimes we have to give in to being guided, I believe. Your wonderful ring is waiting for you -- either the price will drop again on this one because the vendor went too high, or an even better one will have your name on it. Chin up!

--- Laurie

I think LAurie and Enerchi (And Amy) had the right idea... this part of your journey all adds up to an appreciated and lovely ring further down the track! ups and downs etc etc. I'm sorry if you experienced my post as being a little dismissive, initially , Junebug!
I hope you're feeling more positive now.

Lara, I didn't think your initial posts were dismissive at all! In fact, I thought it was nice you responded so quickly.

To be honest, I've had a rough day in terms of dealing with my disappointment over this - my husband and I talked this morning, and without going into the gory details the conversation left me feeling upset and disappointed and yes, a little pissed. I just can't get past that feeling of "the one that got away". This particular stone met all my criteria and was within budget. I just don't feel confident I'll be able to find another, not with the way diamond prices seem to be inching up.

Ok, you all must be tired of hearing me whine about this - thank you all for your encouragement and good thoughts, it's very much appreciated! I'm sure I'll be able to put this all in perspective in a few days.