Mandarine
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At one of my friends....
Anyway, I just wanted to vent a bit here since I don't want to vent to any of my other friends since it will probably just make matters worse.
Since we got engaged I have always been clear that just because this is MY top priority, it is not every else's...so I have really done everything by myself. I don't rely on friends, bridesmaids, family, etc to help me out with anything...if they want to come along, then great...if not, then that was fine too. I feel I have really been laid back.
There was a point at the beginning where I know I was talking about wedding stuff maybe too much (mostly like the first two months after we got engaged). After that I have slowed it down and just talk about it if someone asks...and even then I try to keep it short.
About 5 months after I got engaged, my best friend got engaged too (yay!!!) she's awesome and I was just beyond happy for her. We have two other friends that are single and they both expressed how my friend's engagement (so soon after mine) hit them like a ton of bricks. I can completely understand that so I have made a point to not talk wedding stuff with them.
Anyway, one of them has just been making some "not pleasant" remarks about me lately. I just don't know where they came from!. They are all related to how she thinks I'm a total "bridezilla!!". Most of my other friends say I'm the anti-bride...skipping a lot of "traditions" just hoping to have a fun weekend and not really getting stressed about any of this wedding planning stuff. Anyway, the last wedding comment I remember ever making to her was "I hope my wedding dress fits!!" (and this was when I got the email from UPS saying my dress was on the way). She has since then been very distant, almost ignoring me. I just really don't know what I did!!.
I truly don't feel like a bridezilla or like someone that is completely obsessed with the wedding. While I do understand that maybe she's just a little jealous and that's why I reall make a conscious effort to not talk about any wedding related stuff at all (even as far as not mentioning my FI's name!!!)...it also upsets me that she can't just understand once in a while I will inevitably say something that relates to the wedding. That doesn't make me a bridezilla...and shouldn't she be a little happy for me and just ignore the comment eve if she thinks is a little over board?
After I got my dress she asked me if now that I know it fits I wear it everyday while I watch TV...and just silly comments like that.
Anyway...I know this is just a long and silly vent...but it just upsets me. AT the beginning (before I started planning) she kept saying how she wanted to be so involved, got me magazines and even went with me to a few potential reception places (all her ideas).
I still treat her the same and have ignored her comments...but now I feel like I have to be 150% more cautious to make sure I never-ever say anything wedding-related. I invited her to the girls weekend at Charleston and she didn't even respond to say she couldn't make it. However, her birthday was a few days ago and she seemed so happy when I called her to wish her a happy birthday. So as long as it is about her then she's cool, otherwise then I better shut up??
Ok, this is long enough and it just probably makes me sound like a total brat-bridezilla..hehe. Just needed to vent...thanks for "listening"! have a good night
M~
ETA: Just wanted to add the "girls weekend" email I sent her and he ignored is not even being planned as a bachelorette weekend because I didn't want ti to be about me...I wanted it to be about the girls...so it's just a "girls weekend" and I've made that clear. Just for the girls to get together, relax and have some fun!
Anyway, I just wanted to vent a bit here since I don't want to vent to any of my other friends since it will probably just make matters worse.
Since we got engaged I have always been clear that just because this is MY top priority, it is not every else's...so I have really done everything by myself. I don't rely on friends, bridesmaids, family, etc to help me out with anything...if they want to come along, then great...if not, then that was fine too. I feel I have really been laid back.
There was a point at the beginning where I know I was talking about wedding stuff maybe too much (mostly like the first two months after we got engaged). After that I have slowed it down and just talk about it if someone asks...and even then I try to keep it short.
About 5 months after I got engaged, my best friend got engaged too (yay!!!) she's awesome and I was just beyond happy for her. We have two other friends that are single and they both expressed how my friend's engagement (so soon after mine) hit them like a ton of bricks. I can completely understand that so I have made a point to not talk wedding stuff with them.
Anyway, one of them has just been making some "not pleasant" remarks about me lately. I just don't know where they came from!. They are all related to how she thinks I'm a total "bridezilla!!". Most of my other friends say I'm the anti-bride...skipping a lot of "traditions" just hoping to have a fun weekend and not really getting stressed about any of this wedding planning stuff. Anyway, the last wedding comment I remember ever making to her was "I hope my wedding dress fits!!" (and this was when I got the email from UPS saying my dress was on the way). She has since then been very distant, almost ignoring me. I just really don't know what I did!!.
I truly don't feel like a bridezilla or like someone that is completely obsessed with the wedding. While I do understand that maybe she's just a little jealous and that's why I reall make a conscious effort to not talk about any wedding related stuff at all (even as far as not mentioning my FI's name!!!)...it also upsets me that she can't just understand once in a while I will inevitably say something that relates to the wedding. That doesn't make me a bridezilla...and shouldn't she be a little happy for me and just ignore the comment eve if she thinks is a little over board?
After I got my dress she asked me if now that I know it fits I wear it everyday while I watch TV...and just silly comments like that.
Anyway...I know this is just a long and silly vent...but it just upsets me. AT the beginning (before I started planning) she kept saying how she wanted to be so involved, got me magazines and even went with me to a few potential reception places (all her ideas).
I still treat her the same and have ignored her comments...but now I feel like I have to be 150% more cautious to make sure I never-ever say anything wedding-related. I invited her to the girls weekend at Charleston and she didn't even respond to say she couldn't make it. However, her birthday was a few days ago and she seemed so happy when I called her to wish her a happy birthday. So as long as it is about her then she's cool, otherwise then I better shut up??
Ok, this is long enough and it just probably makes me sound like a total brat-bridezilla..hehe. Just needed to vent...thanks for "listening"! have a good night
M~
ETA: Just wanted to add the "girls weekend" email I sent her and he ignored is not even being planned as a bachelorette weekend because I didn't want ti to be about me...I wanted it to be about the girls...so it's just a "girls weekend" and I've made that clear. Just for the girls to get together, relax and have some fun!