This is my first post but I''ve become addicted to lurking on this site during the last month. You all seem so thoughtful and helpful so I''m hoping you can help me out with your opinions.
Some background info: Been dating bf for 1 year now but we met in college and dated for about 3 years back then. He was my first real bf and first love. In our last year of college, things got rocky, we broke up, and started dating other people. After getting back together, our relationship has been wonderful. It''s amazing what a difference a few years makes.
Now for the current issue: BF has mentioned marriage here and there and I''ve always responded playfully and positively. I''d love to marry him, sooner rather than later, but i''m hoping for a real proposal rather than playful questions. Whenever the subject comes up, he eventually mentions money - or lack of money to be more specific. He''s a lawyer now but still starting out so he makes just enough to be comfortable. I''m a phd student and my school loans are stacking up with about two more years before I graduate. BF is very practical and suggested that I move in with him so that we could save money for a wedding. Although this may sound great, I''m not comfortable with living with a guy until I''m married (yeah, i know, old fashioned). Maybe I''m not being realistic because saving an extra $900 a month is sounding like a better plan. I started thinking I''d be more comfortable with the idea if we were officially engaged but why is that? I''m sure he wants to marry me but I find myself waiting for a proposal and a ring. I feel like these things are meaningful and important..or am I being silly???
Some background info: Been dating bf for 1 year now but we met in college and dated for about 3 years back then. He was my first real bf and first love. In our last year of college, things got rocky, we broke up, and started dating other people. After getting back together, our relationship has been wonderful. It''s amazing what a difference a few years makes.
Now for the current issue: BF has mentioned marriage here and there and I''ve always responded playfully and positively. I''d love to marry him, sooner rather than later, but i''m hoping for a real proposal rather than playful questions. Whenever the subject comes up, he eventually mentions money - or lack of money to be more specific. He''s a lawyer now but still starting out so he makes just enough to be comfortable. I''m a phd student and my school loans are stacking up with about two more years before I graduate. BF is very practical and suggested that I move in with him so that we could save money for a wedding. Although this may sound great, I''m not comfortable with living with a guy until I''m married (yeah, i know, old fashioned). Maybe I''m not being realistic because saving an extra $900 a month is sounding like a better plan. I started thinking I''d be more comfortable with the idea if we were officially engaged but why is that? I''m sure he wants to marry me but I find myself waiting for a proposal and a ring. I feel like these things are meaningful and important..or am I being silly???