2nd Engagement... how to pick a ring

[Little Monster]

Long story short, my BF & I are starting to look at rings as we've been talking about getting engaged. I keep finding myself drawn towards my favorite type of ring... 3 stone ring with sapphire sides.

Only problem is... I was engaged to someone else 5 years ago & had a 3-stone, sapphire engagemnt ring... it didn't work out. Trust me, this is not some strange lingering interest in the ex. Long gone, happily almost forgotten.

I keep wanting to fall in love with another type of ring, but honestly nothing else is really drawing me. I've seen lots of beautiful rings, but nothing I'm getting excited over. I don't want to push myself to pick something else only to regret it later.

So my taste hasn't changed. Unfortunately what I really liked then is what I really like now.

Do you think it's a bad idea to go with something similar or even the same for a future engagement ring? My BF knows what my ring looked like & doesn't care. He just wants me to love my new ring...

So... what to do?

And clearly I can't create polls... please pick the 1st Yes if you're picking yes... AAHHH

 

[iheartscience]

I voted no. If you love the style, you love the style! It''s a new guy and a new ring so I don''t see the problem.

 

[mayachel]

There are lots of ways to make a 3 stone ring uniquely yours while using the same basic components. What about different shaped stones? Different ratios between the side stones and the center? Engraving of some sort on the band?

If not, hey so you found the right ring before the right guy.

Congratulations on finding the right guy!

 

[Lilac]

I think as long as it doesn't bother you or your BF then you should just go with what you love!

 

[susimoo]

Date: 3/15/2010 12:36:01 PM
Author: mayachel
There are lots of ways to make a 3 stone ring uniquely yours while using the same basic components. What about different shaped stones? Different ratios between the side stones and the center? Engraving of some sort on the band?


If not, hey so you found the right ring before the right guy.


Congratulations on finding the right guy!

Mayachel nailed it!! THIS!

 

[movie zombie]

its what you like, you''re over the ex- the new BF isn''t threatened, so why not?

mz

 

[Little Monster]

Thanks everyone for your replies -- I appreciate it!

Mayachel... we''re definitely looking at different size/shape combos... and having found PS, it will inevitably be a higher quality ring!

Still curious if anyone has been engaged twice, and if their 2 rings were more similar or different... intentionally or not...

 

[MichelleCarmen]

So many people end up redoing their rings due to dissatisfaction. If you know what you love, stick with that!!! Otherwise you may regret it later.

 

[Sizzle]

I think the men standard is a round diamond, plain band so there have got to be ALOT of people who''ve had the SAME type of ring more than once!

 

[vc10um]

Date: 3/15/2010 1:08:27 PM
Author: MC
So many people end up redoing their rings due to dissatisfaction. If you know what you love, stick with that!!! Otherwise you may regret it later.

THIS!

There are so many options and ways to make this ring different. A three-stone with diamond center and sapphire sidestones is my second favorite ring of all time. I personally love one from James Allen that has a RB center and Trillion cut sapphires. It''s a lovely shape combination if you want something a little different!

 

[missy]

Date: 3/15/2010 1:25:15 PM
Author: vc10um

Date: 3/15/2010 1:08:27 PM

Author: MC

So many people end up redoing their rings due to dissatisfaction. If you know what you love, stick with that!!! Otherwise you may regret it later.

THIS!


There are so many options and ways to make this ring different. A three-stone with diamond center and sapphire sidestones is my second favorite ring of all time. I personally love one from James Allen that has a RB center and Trillion cut sapphires. It''s a lovely shape combination if you want something a little different!

I totally agree! If you know what you love and love it so many years later you are ahead of the (ring) game! And now it''s even better because you found the right guy to share your life with which is the whole point of the engagement ring anyway! Congratuations and best wishes!!

 

[Kay]

A friend of mine is engaged to a woman who had a ruby engagement/wedding ring from her first marriage. She still wears it often as a RHR. It is an unusual antique style ring that looks nothing like a traditional wedding ring. My friend does not care that she continues to wear the ring -- she chose the ring, it''s totally her style and she loves it and decided to keep wearing it after she jettisoned the deadbeat.

When they started talking about getting engaged, my friend asked his GF what kind of ring she would like. She wanted either a sapphire or ruby ring; diamonds are not her thing. He ended up choosing another antique style ruby ring (different style).

If you know what you like, don''t force yourself to get something else just to make the ring more different from your first one. Just getting a higher quality ring is enough difference IMHO.

There are so many different styles of 3-stone e-rings, that it will not be the same type of ring just because it has the same color side stones. If you want, you could get a sapphire center with diamond sides this time. My personal favorite is round center with pear sides in a trellis setting, with either the center or sides as sapphire.

What style was your first ring?

Congrats on finding the right guy. Since he is not insecure about this issue, get what you want. If your taste in jewelry was already good, that does not need to change just because your taste in men improved.

 

[zoebartlett]

I voted that if you like the same thing as before, then go for it. Would you be interested in getting it set in another type of metal of altering it somewhat, or would yu get the exact same thing you''ve had? Either way, I think it''s fine -- I''m just curious.

 

[Diamond*Dana]

Get what you love and what you will be happy with

 

[Little Monster]

Zoe,

I had a white gold setting with a round diamond center with pear blue sapphire sides... I would like to go with platinum now because the white gold yellowed very quickly (not sure if it was my skin or the quality of the ring?)

I''ve been looking at round side stones instead of pear, or possibly a different center stone shape... I haven''t figured it all out yet. I think I want to stick with blue sapphires, not pink... but I''m still thinking about it!

The setting would surely be different... I''ve been looking at lots of rings here to get some ideas... so thank you to everyone who has posted theirs -- they''re great inspiration!

To Everyone: Thanks for all the answers... I appreciate them all!

 

[Amber St. Clare]

Get what you love--you don''t owe anyone any explanation!

 

[PumpkinPie]

I voted no as well - I think you should get what you love

 

[elrohwen]

Date: 3/15/2010 12:36:01 PM
Author: mayachel
There are lots of ways to make a 3 stone ring uniquely yours while using the same basic components. What about different shaped stones? Different ratios between the side stones and the center? Engraving of some sort on the band?

If not, hey so you found the right ring before the right guy.

Congratulations on finding the right guy!

This.

It shouldn't be too hard to stick within the framework of a sapphire three stone ring and still have it look significantly different from your first one. You still love the style and that's all that matters!

 

[vespergirl]

Just get the ring you like, even if it''s similar to your old one.

One of my friends had her favorite ring, an RB 6-prong solitiare, for her first marriage, but that only lasted a couple of years. For her second marriage, she chose a princess solitaire, which is gorgeous, but she told me that she really prefers RBs, and just felt like she should get something different. She is not totally in love with her ring, though, which is sad. She should have just gotten what she loved, but she didn''t, and now she''s been regretting it all the years she''s been with her husband.

 

[Luckyeshe]

Go for what you love!

 

[joelly]

Date: 3/15/2010 12:36:01 PM
Author: mayachel
There are lots of ways to make a 3 stone ring uniquely yours while using the same basic components. What about different shaped stones? Different ratios between the side stones and the center? Engraving of some sort on the band?

If not, hey so you found the right ring before the right guy.

Congratulations on finding the right guy!

I agree with mayachel, seems you''ve found the right ring and the right guy right now, so go for it!!!!

Why don''t you tell us more about your first e-ring and lots of ladies here will be happy to assist you to pick an alternative 3-stone e-ring style!!! So, good luck and don''t feel bad for wanting the same e-ring style.

 

[marcy]

I voted - no - get what you want.

 

[reader]

My first marriage was a tiny .10 rb, but I got a .30 marquise on the birth of our daughter a year later. (Both in yellow gold)

My second marriage has yielded an oval cut ruby in rose gold and a 1.76 marquise in platinum.

Get what you love...

 

[princessplease]

Get what you want, but make the setting/stone shape different. You should love your ering, and if that''s what you like, then that''s what you like!

 

[Natylad]

Ditto Mayachel !!! You''re absolutely right!!

I was married before and i had a diamond solitaire engagement ring, set on an 18ct white gold, six prong illusion setting, which i gave back to the ex husband after the divorce. When i got engaged last summer, my fiance asked me to choose my ring the way i liked it. So i got a four prong, white gold illusion setting with a better, whiter, clearer diamond. The diamond is bigger than the one of the previous ring and there are some very slight differences on the side of the setting, but in general the new ring looks very similar to the old one. I really don''t have any problem with that...My current ring only reminds me of my wonderful fiance and it seems to me so much better than the previous one even if it resembles to it...Choose what you really like and what makes you happy every time you look at it...nothing else matters...

 

[MustangGal]

You could try cushion shapes this time, or even a different shape of blue on the sapphires. I say go with what you know you like, or you''ll probably just regret it down the road.

I had a co-worker at my last job that was on her second marriage. She wore the ring from her first marriage as her e-ring. She had designed it, had it custom made, and loved it. It didn''t bother either of them.

 

[oddoneout]

If both of you are fine with it I say stick with what you love. Like others have suggested you can always make it a bit different than your first.

 

[wolftress]

Hi Little Monster,

I love the picture in your avatar.

I have been engaged three times, but I still love my first engagement ring. It was about .5 to .75ct in a fishtail illusion setting. The proportions were perfect on my finger, and I got compliments every where I went. Thankfully the engagement fell through, but I did miss that lovely ring.

My third engagement ring was a simple round solitaire but I still hankered after the fishtail illusion setting. Now I have three ''engagement'' rings (my original from DH and two purchased after DH and I got married) that I swap around as I feel like it. A classic rb in six-prong setting (my original), an OEC in a custom fishtail illusion setting, and a transitional in a halo.

I felt it was important to make my new fishtail ring different. The stone is bigger at just under a carat, but I also designed my husband''s and my initials in the basket to make it personal to us and to leave behind any similarities with my first engagement ring.

Maybe you can do something similar with your new ring, if you really love the style. There are a lot of good custom jewellery designers that Pricescopers can recommend. I commissioned Sally from Heart of Water Jewels to make my fishtail ring and she did a superb job.