2 engagement rings??

[nobody]

I dont know if its proper or if its okay to do so, but I was pondering on getting my "future to be" 2 engagement rings. Frist one, would be the main ring, at approx. 1.25CT and the second one at approx. .30CT-.50CT.

Reason for this, mainly for safety and peace of mind. We live in a big metropolitan city which isnt to bad on crime. But her being small in stature and taking public transportation (subway) to and from work everyday, I wouldnt feel safe for her wearing a 1.25CT stone which she would likely do everyday. Wearing such a big (for her size) sparkly ring, is just asking for trouble. Its not that she would fight and not give up the ring, after all a ring could be replaced, but to save her from grief and emotional/physical stress.

She could wear the 1.25 on special occasions and the .30-.50 everyday, and on very special occasions she could wear the big one on the left hand and the small one on the right hand. What do you all think?

 

[oobiecoo]

I think it sounds like a great idea! Would you propose with both of them? I think a good idea would be to propose with the larger one and then you could shop for the smaller one together and she could find the size and style she feels comfortable commuting, etc with. I did something similar... I purchased 2 wedding bands, one engraved, and one engraved with diamonds. This way I can wear the 2 bands together if I feel uncomfortable wearing my engagement ring at any time. Wedding isn''t until May though and I wish I could have my bands to wear now!

 

[Maisie]

I agree, its a great idea!

 

[spike13]

Great idea! Not just for safety either, but also for wear and tear. In everyday life you take off rings a lot - to wash your hands, wash dishes, etc. It would hurt a lot less to drop a .5 ct down the drain than a 1.25 ct.

Good Luck!

 

[february2003bride]

I think that''s a lovely idea!!

 

[kellyfish]

What about an eternity-type band for the smaller one? I have a gf who does this--wears the e band at work & the other socially....

 

[tberube]

Wow, that's very thoughtful of you! Though I'm not sure it's necessary.

Why don't you just split the difference and get her a 1ct diamond, or get her the 1.25ct and spend the rest on a great insurance policy. Or at least consider the fact that in NYC the size of diamonds are inflated more than most places, and 1.25ct, while a great size, isn't larger than average. And if she feels unsafe she can always turn the diamond in toward her palm so it's not visible. That's what I do when I'm there for work.

 

[asscherisme]

Instead of a second engagement ring, I like the idea of a nice 5 stone ring that will look nice with the engagment ring.

So when she is on the subway etc, she can wear the 5 stone ring which is much less flashy than a big stone.

I would not do an eternity band because she may want the ability to turn her ring around so no diamond show if she is in an uncomfortable situation.

And when she dressed up or wears her engagement ring, the 5 stone will look great with the engagement ring, or even on her right hand. I am not crazy about the idea of 2 engagment rings and I think it might look funny wearing 2 enagagment rings a the same time.

 

[iheartscience]

Date: 12/18/2007 3:20:58 AM
Author:nobody
I dont know if its proper or if its okay to do so, but I was pondering on getting my ''future to be'' 2 engagement rings. Frist one, would be the main ring, at approx. 1.25CT and the second one at approx. .30CT-.50CT.

Reason for this, mainly for safety and peace of mind. We live in a big metropolitan city which isnt to bad on crime. But her being small in stature and taking public transportation (subway) to and from work everyday, I wouldnt feel safe for her wearing a 1.25CT stone which she would likely do everyday. Wearing such a big (for her size) sparkly ring, is just asking for trouble. Its not that she would fight and not give up the ring, after all a ring could be replaced, but to save her from grief and emotional/physical stress.

She could wear the 1.25 on special occasions and the .30-.50 everyday, and on very special occasions she could wear the big one on the left hand and the small one on the right hand. What do you all think?

In a large metropolitan city, I doubt a 1.25 carat ring is "asking for trouble." It''s a good size, but I doubt it will stand out as noticeable or large. How does your future fiancee feel about this idea? Does she see other women wearing engagement rings on the subway? If she feels comfortable wearing a 1.25 carat ring, then I don''t see the point of a smaller one. She can always just turn the diamond around to her palm if she feels uncomfortable. I''d save the money you were going to put towards the second e-ring and get a nice eternity or anniversary band.

 

[Angel7]

Date: 12/18/2007 10:38:24 AM
Author: thing2of2

In a large metropolitan city, I doubt a 1.25 carat ring is ''asking for trouble.'' It''s a good size, but I doubt it will stand out as noticeable or large. How does your future fiancee feel about this idea? Does she see other women wearing engagement rings on the subway? If she feels comfortable wearing a 1.25 carat ring, then I don''t see the point of a smaller one. She can always just turn the diamond around to her palm if she feels uncomfortable. I''d save the money you were going to put towards the second e-ring and get a nice eternity or anniversary band.

Great advice! I also live in what you would call a large metropolitan city and I ofen times see woman turn it towards their palms. I don''t think two is neccessary.

 

[NeverEndingUpgrade]

Maybe she could just turn her 1.25 ct. ring toward her palm when she is in the subway. That is what my friends in NY do. Then you could put the money you would have spent on another diamond into a nice wedding ring that she could wear with her e-ring or by itself if she wants to.

 

[mirre]

This is a great thread. Once I finally get an ering I was going to ask the opinion of having a "replica" created maybe in silver and a GASP

sythetic stone or sapphire just in the event we travel and I would be worried about loosing it or something.

But I like the idea of just getting a different smaller ring to wear on those occasions instead, like the 5-stone someone suggested. The problem with that is that if I love my ering I may want to wear it all the time, which is my thoughts behind having a "fake replica". Any thoughts?

I''m sorry if I hi-jacked the thread.

 

[lyra]

I don''t see it as necessary either. You could ask her if she wants that option though, so you''d know what SHE would prefer. On the subway, she can also wear gloves.

Or if you''re going to go for the smaller stone, a further option would be to get a Signed Pieces small previously owned Tiffany e-ring or band(I know I''d love that!).

 

[fleur-de-lis]

Interesting idea, but it''s unnecessary. Put the money you would have spent on the second ring towards getting her a nicer big stone and insure it.

BTW, the hypothetical thief who would mug a woman for her 1.25 carat (or 2 carat, or 1 carat) would also mug someone for a 1/2 carat. It isn''t the size that encourages crime, but criminal intent on the part of the hypothetical mugger. Either size will get someone a fix (or a flat screen TV for their apartment, lol); the best way to protect your fiance is to (1) encourage smart behavior, and (2) insure the ring.

 

[vespergirl]

If it were me, I wouldn''t like the idea of the 2nd smaller ring and would never wear it - when I don''t want to flash the bigger ring (international travel to poorer countires, for example) I just wear my wedding band.

I used to live in NY and Boston when I had a 1 ct ring, and I live in DC now with a 2 ct ring. In a large metro area on the East Cost, these are average size stones - I don''t think you''re asking for trouble - it''s not like flashing a 10 carat monster.

I would just use the $ you were going to spend on the second ring and get her a nice 1.25 - 1.5 carat stone, one ring. She can always wear a CZ in dangerous situations, or turn the stone into her palm, which lots of people do.

Also, definitely insure your stone - that way, in case something does happen, you''re covered. There are some nightmare posts on here of people who didn''t insure stones losing diamonds and then you''re totally out of luck. I wear my ring all the time knowing that it''s insured.

 

[dani13]

Date: 12/18/2007 4:27:03 PM
Author: vespergirl
If it were me, I wouldn''t like the idea of the 2nd smaller ring and would never wear it - when I don''t want to flash the bigger ring (international travel to poorer countires, for example) I just wear my wedding band.


I used to live in NY and Boston when I had a 1 ct ring, and I live in DC now with a 2 ct ring. In a large metro area on the East Cost, these are average size stones - I don''t think you''re asking for trouble - it''s not like flashing a 10 carat monster.


I would just use the $ you were going to spend on the second ring and get her a nice 1.25 - 1.5 carat stone, one ring. She can always wear a CZ in dangerous situations, or turn the stone into her palm, which lots of people do.


Also, definitely insure your stone - that way, in case something does happen, you''re covered. There are some nightmare posts on here of people who didn''t insure stones losing diamonds and then you''re totally out of luck. I wear my ring all the time knowing that it''s insured.

What she said....

I agree completely.

 

[ang3199]

Date: 12/18/2007 4:58:54 PM
Author: Dani

Date: 12/18/2007 4:27:03 PM

Author: vespergirl

If it were me, I wouldn''t like the idea of the 2nd smaller ring and would never wear it - when I don''t want to flash the bigger ring (international travel to poorer countires, for example) I just wear my wedding band.



I used to live in NY and Boston when I had a 1 ct ring, and I live in DC now with a 2 ct ring. In a large metro area on the East Cost, these are average size stones - I don''t think you''re asking for trouble - it''s not like flashing a 10 carat monster.



I would just use the $ you were going to spend on the second ring and get her a nice 1.25 - 1.5 carat stone, one ring. She can always wear a CZ in dangerous situations, or turn the stone into her palm, which lots of people do.




Also, definitely insure your stone - that way, in case something does happen, you''re covered. There are some nightmare posts on here of people who didn''t insure stones losing diamonds and then you''re totally out of luck. I wear my ring all the time knowing that it''s insured.

What she said....

I agree completely.

Thritto! I know that I probably wouldn''t wear the smaller one if I knew the bigger one was hiding away at home in it''s box. I like the ideas about getting her a nice 5 stone too!

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 12/18/2007 5:50:20 PM
Author: ang3199

Date: 12/18/2007 4:58:54 PM
Author: Dani

Date: 12/18/2007 4:27:03 PM

Author: vespergirl

If it were me, I wouldn''t like the idea of the 2nd smaller ring and would never wear it - when I don''t want to flash the bigger ring (international travel to poorer countires, for example) I just wear my wedding band.



I used to live in NY and Boston when I had a 1 ct ring, and I live in DC now with a 2 ct ring. In a large metro area on the East Cost, these are average size stones - I don''t think you''re asking for trouble - it''s not like flashing a 10 carat monster.



I would just use the $ you were going to spend on the second ring and get her a nice 1.25 - 1.5 carat stone, one ring. She can always wear a CZ in dangerous situations, or turn the stone into her palm, which lots of people do.




Also, definitely insure your stone - that way, in case something does happen, you''re covered. There are some nightmare posts on here of people who didn''t insure stones losing diamonds and then you''re totally out of luck. I wear my ring all the time knowing that it''s insured.

What she said....

I agree completely.

Thritto! I know that I probably wouldn''t wear the smaller one if I knew the bigger one was hiding away at home in it''s box. I like the ideas about getting her a nice 5 stone too!

Ditto All.

 

[Lynn B]

I think you are sweet and thoughtful but honestly, I think it would just be lots easier to just buy her w-ring with the idea that she would wear it alone when she feels that is the best/safest idea. Then you can get one with as much or as little bling as you want.

 

[sera]

Date: 12/18/2007 5:57:28 PM
Author: Gypsy

Date: 12/18/2007 5:50:20 PM

Author: ang3199

Date: 12/18/2007 4:58:54 PM

Author: Dani

Date: 12/18/2007 4:27:03 PM


Author: vespergirl


If it were me, I wouldn''t like the idea of the 2nd smaller ring and would never wear it - when I don''t want to flash the bigger ring (international travel to poorer countires, for example) I just wear my wedding band.




I used to live in NY and Boston when I had a 1 ct ring, and I live in DC now with a 2 ct ring. In a large metro area on the East Cost, these are average size stones - I don''t think you''re asking for trouble - it''s not like flashing a 10 carat monster.




I would just use the $ you were going to spend on the second ring and get her a nice 1.25 - 1.5 carat stone, one ring. She can always wear a CZ in dangerous situations, or turn the stone into her palm, which lots of people do.





Also, definitely insure your stone - that way, in case something does happen, you''re covered. There are some nightmare posts on here of people who didn''t insure stones losing diamonds and then you''re totally out of luck. I wear my ring all the time knowing that it''s insured.

What she said....

I agree completely.

Thritto! I know that I probably wouldn''t wear the smaller one if I knew the bigger one was hiding away at home in it''s box. I like the ideas about getting her a nice 5 stone too!

Ditto All.

Add my opinion to this group as well. I would totally prefer to wear a band than a 2nd, smaller ering. There will be situations that I will only wear a band and leave the ring at home.

 

[snuggles1]

Date: 12/18/2007 1:01:05 PM
Author: fleur-de-lis
BTW, the hypothetical thief who would mug a woman for her 1.25 carat (or 2 carat, or 1 carat) would also mug someone for a 1/2 carat. It isn''t the size that encourages crime, but criminal intent on the part of the hypothetical mugger. Either size will get someone a fix (or a flat screen TV for their apartment, lol); the best way to protect your fiance is to (1) encourage smart behavior, and (2) insure the ring.

I think that a purse would be the first to get stolen when mugged. So if you''re worried about the 1.25ct, I''d be more worried about a Louis Vuitton bag or Chanel bag. I''m sure the street value of that is much better and easier to unload quickly. My point is that I think that a the ring is ok as stuff like wallets and purses get stolen more often imo. And most just turn their stones toward the palm. And the advice here is good...just wear the band in situations where she''ll be on the subway and stuff.

 

[Kissmark]

Date: 12/18/2007 6:04:51 PM
Author: sera

Date: 12/18/2007 5:57:28 PM
Author: Gypsy

Date: 12/18/2007 5:50:20 PM

Author: ang3199

Date: 12/18/2007 4:58:54 PM

Author: Dani

Date: 12/18/2007 4:27:03 PM


Author: vespergirl


If it were me, I wouldn''t like the idea of the 2nd smaller ring and would never wear it - when I don''t want to flash the bigger ring (international travel to poorer countires, for example) I just wear my wedding band.




I used to live in NY and Boston when I had a 1 ct ring, and I live in DC now with a 2 ct ring. In a large metro area on the East Cost, these are average size stones - I don''t think you''re asking for trouble - it''s not like flashing a 10 carat monster.




I would just use the $ you were going to spend on the second ring and get her a nice 1.25 - 1.5 carat stone, one ring. She can always wear a CZ in dangerous situations, or turn the stone into her palm, which lots of people do.





Also, definitely insure your stone - that way, in case something does happen, you''re covered. There are some nightmare posts on here of people who didn''t insure stones losing diamonds and then you''re totally out of luck. I wear my ring all the time knowing that it''s insured.

What she said....

I agree completely.

Thritto! I know that I probably wouldn''t wear the smaller one if I knew the bigger one was hiding away at home in it''s box. I like the ideas about getting her a nice 5 stone too!

Ditto All.

Add my opinion to this group as well. I would totally prefer to wear a band than a 2nd, smaller ering. There will be situations that I will only wear a band and leave the ring at home.

I agree as well. If it were me, I''d want my fiance to spend all the money we can afford on ONE nicest ring possible. If i really feel unsecure for safety reasons I''ll just get a CZ ring

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I agree I would NOT get (or want) two solitares. If you really think she needs a smaller ring get her a beautiful band (that she can stack with the 1.25 when she does wear it). I am also a small woman (5''1") and wear a 1.72. I feel completely safe as we have insurance but a few times I have turned the diamond towards my palm (so it looked like a plain band). If my DH would have bought me a smaller version I don''t think I would wear the smaller one

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Date: 12/18/2007 10:48:11 AM
Author: Angel7

Date: 12/18/2007 10:38:24 AM
Author: thing2of2

In a large metropolitan city, I doubt a 1.25 carat ring is ''asking for trouble.'' It''s a good size, but I doubt it will stand out as noticeable or large. How does your future fiancee feel about this idea? Does she see other women wearing engagement rings on the subway? If she feels comfortable wearing a 1.25 carat ring, then I don''t see the point of a smaller one. She can always just turn the diamond around to her palm if she feels uncomfortable. I''d save the money you were going to put towards the second e-ring and get a nice eternity or anniversary band.

Great advice! I also live in what you would call a large metropolitan city and I ofen times see woman turn it towards their palms. I don''t think two is neccessary.

Ditto! If I had a 1.25 stone, I would want to wear it! I think stones larger than this are pretty common in large cities, so I don''t think it would stand out all that much. I also agree with the idea of spending the extra money on a nice diamond wedding band! I would not get a second smaller e-ring.

 

[nebe]

I think I should marry you

NO ONE SANE would turn down two sparklies instead of one. If only my FH felt the same

I do agree with a 5 stone or nice band instead of a second solitaire though.

 

[nobody]

To those suggesting that I should get a nicer, bigger diamond...I already purchased a nice diamond already, its the reason I was thinking of the second ring, because this first one is so "bling-bling" that it may cause some unwanted attention to it.

To those suggesting that I get a nice diamond(s) wedding band,

that was already in the works. It would of been three rings. 2 engagement rings and a wedding ring.

Oh, just to be clear, Its not losing the ring with insurance/no insurance that Im to worried about, its her safety and emotional/physical stress that may be caused that got me thinking of the second ring. Plus, isnt the ring/diamond suppose to be a symbol of love/union which can not be replaced by insurance. I personally see little value in a diamond, sure its sparkly and pretty to look at, so is my car and tv, which I value more. (But this is not about me, but about her.) Im a person who doesnt own/wear any jewelry or watches and believes that diamonds are plentiful and kept artificially high by the industry, but also believes that if its what she wants, its what she will get. I will try to get the best that I can afford. She deserves it.

Thanks everybody.

 

[QOTDR]

Just my 2 cents. She knows her commute and what kind of riff raff are or are not around. Let her make the decision. If she is secure, no problem. She can also palm it, which is probably better than wearing a smaller stone. That way, they just see a plain band. I''ve palmed my ring on several occassions. It'' s very easy, and not noticed. If her commute is that dangerous she should get a license to carry mace and go to a class in how best to use it.

 

[Octavia]

My vote would be for a 1/2 eternity band or small 5-stone band, too. She could stack the rings if she wants, or wear just the band, or wear the band and turn it so only the plain part shows. I''ve thought about this issue a lot -- I''m petite, live in a large city, and my school''s campus isn''t in the nicest area. I don''t wear any jewelry there, unless it can be hidden under my coat or it doesn''t have any precious stones in it. I have been mugged before, not for jewelry because I wasn''t wearing any, but it was scary and awful just the same, so I know exactly what you''re worried about. Definitely talk to her and find out her comfort level.

 

[Diamond*Dana]

I have to agree that I think that it is not necessary. Honestly, if it were me, I would not want 2 engagement rings and I would want to wear the one that was intended to be "the one" all the time. It is a nice size diamond, but there are probably much larger stones walking around the city that people are used to seeing.

 

[musey]

I''m in the "present her with one ring, let her choose another if she wishes" camp. I personally would feel that having more than one ring would cheapen both of them, and the idea of an engagement ring in general, but that''s me. I would not have been as happy (as sweet as it is) having been presented with two separate rings. Your girlfriend may be TOTALLY different in that regard--but if it were me, I''d leave it up to her to make that decision.

I also agree with those who said 1.25ct won''t draw that much attention in a metropolitan area. Don''t worry about it too much. She can turn it to her palm or wear a plain band if she''s worried about her safety.