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I have. I personally would never have one. I don't like the idea of throwing a party and asking your guest to pay. I am the midst of planning my second wedding and it will be an open, full bar.
I have. I personally would never have one. I don't like the idea of throwing a party and asking your guest to pay. I am the midst of planning my second wedding and it will be an open, full bar.
...maybe my mother had Jewish ancestry!Haha same for Jewish gatherings. I swear my mom cooks enough for a small army even if it is just the 12 of us. No one leaves hungry and no one leaves empty handed. Leftovers are yummy so I don't mind her cooking up a storm.
It would be a sin (according to my family) if one didn't have enough food and drink for their guests ergo one must have way more than enough just in case...
...maybe my mother had Jewish ancestry!
I have. I personally would never have one. I don't like the idea of throwing a party and asking your guest to pay. I am the midst of planning my second wedding and it will be an open, full bar.
I was appalled to see people suggesting ways to do a wedding for 100 on a small budget. That was fine and it can be done in the budget they want if they are careful. The ideas suggested were seriously awful though! I couldn't keep reading at the point they had gotten to using a local park, making it potluck, and skipping a cake in favor of a cookie table (also provided by the guests). The other leading suggestion was to ask guests to provide services or pay for services, cash bar, donations for honeymoon, and meal provided by guests.
the firehall wedding sounds wounderful and tradional and it sounds loads of funA lot of this is regional. I grew up in rural NW Pennsylvania. It was actually really common that people would have a "fire hall wedding." You would rent out the local firehall, and it was usually potluck or food cooked by the bride's family. I can remember my aunt's wedding when I was a kid. It was potluck plus my grandma and mom making meatballs, vegetable trays, crock pot beef for sandwiches, etc.
People also used the VFW or the American Legion and did the same thing. Very regional and a lot of people probably find it really odd, but it wasn't there- and I think probably is still pretty normal considering the options in those rural areas.
When my mom got married the second time when I was 12 or 13, she had it a hotel in a small town in the Pennsylvania/NY border. Her side of the family thought a wedding with a buffet at a hotel with a semi open bar was weird. To the rest of the country, maybe not, but it wasn't the norm there.
I think there is nothing wrong with a cash bar, we had very nice champagne & wine (& soft drink of course) served with our wedding reception - if you wanted endless beer or fancy cocktails you had to purchase it yourself. Lordy, can you imagine how much a room full of twenty-somethings would have run up on an open-bar-tab?
your wedding sounds awsome !A cash bar would be the norm here (Scotland). Typically you would get a drink on arrival at the reception to fill the time when photos are taken. There would probably be two bottles of wine on the table, one red, one white followed by a drink of your choice for the toast/speaches. Any other drinks you'd have to pay for yourself. Of course there are variations but mostly people would expect to pay for their drinks.
That said, we were married in my mum's living room where all drinks were provided followed by a BBQ in the back garden. It was a humanist wedding (legal here) and although it was conducted at home the celebrant was very strict about alcohol during the service - all drinks had to be removed from said living room (and she was being deadly serious).
(We also specifically told people no presents and defo no cash. But people don't like turning up empty handed so there ended up being lots of homebaking)
[QUOTEyour wedding sounds awsome !]