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You are very lucky his school has been so good with his situation. My daughter works in res life and has been at 4 colleges. Only one of the four has had services like you describe. All 4 sent the “disturbed” (for lack of a better word right now) student home for at least one semester before they could return to school so the roommate should really not be there. They require intense counseling provided at home by the provider of their choice before they can return. I think parents in general would be shocked at how many suicide attempts are made at college. Most you will never hear about. At her current institution she had a student who called 7 times in 2 weeks saying they were going to do it. The school finally told her to stop calling them and just go to the hospital. Heartless. Take good care of your son and get him whatever help he needs to process what happened with his roomie. No way he should be back with him next semester.
That is disturbing that they said to go to hospital.
They did let the roommate back, but it was under strict conditions that he went to counseling with them every day and could prove compliance to meds etc (as much as they could tell me about the process, but I made it clear that this boy needed intensive help, and while I was in no position to make my opinions known about his situation, statistics show he has a high chance of re attempt in 90 days, and I didn't think it was fair to the new roommates to just dump him off on them with a possible surprise later...)
This University is known for a family atmosphere and every time we visited it was ridiculously friendly and welcoming. (like I was thinking this is either the friendiest university in the US or there is a whole stepford wife thing going on lol) The tour guides said this was where the professors know your name, etc.
It doesn't surprise me that they have handled it so well for my son. They also have walk in counselors available for any student. My son has used this service twice and twice he was able to get an appoinment right when he called. I made sure to tell the university president how thankful I was to experience this and that they handled my son's situation exactly as I wanted them to.
I'm glad to hear we lucked out, and I'm sad to know this is unusual.