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My daughter works with a girl named M. M is about 24 and she is half owner of the salon my daughter works at. A couple months ago my daughter comes to me and wants to invite M to our house for Christmas. M's dad and step mom left her with her older sister when she was 16. She doesn't have a lot of contact with them, her step mom is pretty rude and mean to her. So DD says to me that she wants me to take whatever I would spend on her for Christmas and split it and buy M gifts so she can have a 'family' christmas. Of course, I couldn't do that, so I just bought gifts for M totaling what I spent on my own kids.
During all this time, M is telling my DD how excited she is and that she is shopping for everyone in our family and having a ball doing it.
I told DD to tell her she didn't have to do that at all, but she says she really wants to. DD even is with her when she buys gift cards for a couple of the boys.
So, I make sure that my boys buy gifts for M. with their own money. They were happy to do so, to make this a really fun christmas for her.The plan is set and DD and M and my other son, are going to come over at 9:30 to open gifts. At the last minute she says she is going to church and will see us after. Okay, fine, no biggie. I plan a big dinner and she comes at 3ish. She comes with no gifts at all and never says a thing about it. My daughter gives her a wine glass with her initial on it, and she says that she got DD the same thing, but doesn't say where it is. Strange. She acts like she really doesn't even like the gifts. I would say they were pretty great gifts. All of us sit around and watch her open her gifts. No one says anything about it.
So after dinner, she packs up three huge bags with all the gifts and goes home, and barely says goodbye. Too weird.
Do you think this is strange? We all felt a little bit used I guess. If she would have said something ahead of time we would have been fine
with it. She could have easily told DD if it was too much financially for her, or even declined to come if she felt uncomfortable. But to
come accept the gifts and not even seem like she liked them or was appreciative and then not say a word was weird.
We all just said 'whatever'. The cost or financial outlay is not the issue at all. Just a very weird day.
During all this time, M is telling my DD how excited she is and that she is shopping for everyone in our family and having a ball doing it.
I told DD to tell her she didn't have to do that at all, but she says she really wants to. DD even is with her when she buys gift cards for a couple of the boys.
So, I make sure that my boys buy gifts for M. with their own money. They were happy to do so, to make this a really fun christmas for her.The plan is set and DD and M and my other son, are going to come over at 9:30 to open gifts. At the last minute she says she is going to church and will see us after. Okay, fine, no biggie. I plan a big dinner and she comes at 3ish. She comes with no gifts at all and never says a thing about it. My daughter gives her a wine glass with her initial on it, and she says that she got DD the same thing, but doesn't say where it is. Strange. She acts like she really doesn't even like the gifts. I would say they were pretty great gifts. All of us sit around and watch her open her gifts. No one says anything about it.
So after dinner, she packs up three huge bags with all the gifts and goes home, and barely says goodbye. Too weird.
Do you think this is strange? We all felt a little bit used I guess. If she would have said something ahead of time we would have been fine
with it. She could have easily told DD if it was too much financially for her, or even declined to come if she felt uncomfortable. But to
come accept the gifts and not even seem like she liked them or was appreciative and then not say a word was weird.
We all just said 'whatever'. The cost or financial outlay is not the issue at all. Just a very weird day.