Cehrabehra
Super_Ideal_Rock
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You all know I live overseas and the selection of people to befriend is limited. I have a friend here who lives on my street and her two sons and my two sons are same ages and good friends. Two in particular are best buds but it's a dysfunctional relationship I would normally just discourage but because of the situation I have tried to guide him through. I could go on about that but it's off the point. The mother and I are what I would consider buddies. She lacks a depth I prefer in my friends. Anyway there was a feral cat in the neighborhood and she was super friendly, desperate to find a home to the point of pestiness. She would wait by front doors and try to enter houses. She was super sweet but confused and lonely and somewhat pitiful. Her kittens all died from the cold and she was probably getting ready to have more at some point. Remember this is china so there just aren't American resources here. Some people were feeding her and would let her in sometimes.
So the friend gets a little tiny shihtzu puppy and let's it out in her front yard, unfenced but with her there. The cat walks up to the dog and smacks the puppy on the nose. Twice. But rather than monitor their dog and shoo the cat away they take the cat downtown (we live in the country) near a restaurant so it can get fed. More like it will get hit by a car. Chinese drivers deserve every bit of their crazy driver reputation and have no value on animals at all. This cat will die.
It's done and nothing to be dine about it. But I find myself repulsed by their selfish actions with complete disregard for that cat who has lived here longer than any if us. I think this screams dealbreaker for me back in America and in a few months when they leave I don't have to think about it. But in the meantime we hang out as couples every weekend, we are thrust up in each others face and I can't just turn a cold shoulder without causing drama in our neighborhood which is a harmonious group of about 20 families, all mutual friends. I know I have to suck it up but I have absolutely NO desire to be around her family at all mow and I'm having a really hard time reconcilling it.
I know this is long... Any help is greatly appreciated.
ETA- sorry for all the typos lol I typed this whole thing with 1 finger on my iPhone in a car on a bumpy road lol
So the friend gets a little tiny shihtzu puppy and let's it out in her front yard, unfenced but with her there. The cat walks up to the dog and smacks the puppy on the nose. Twice. But rather than monitor their dog and shoo the cat away they take the cat downtown (we live in the country) near a restaurant so it can get fed. More like it will get hit by a car. Chinese drivers deserve every bit of their crazy driver reputation and have no value on animals at all. This cat will die.
It's done and nothing to be dine about it. But I find myself repulsed by their selfish actions with complete disregard for that cat who has lived here longer than any if us. I think this screams dealbreaker for me back in America and in a few months when they leave I don't have to think about it. But in the meantime we hang out as couples every weekend, we are thrust up in each others face and I can't just turn a cold shoulder without causing drama in our neighborhood which is a harmonious group of about 20 families, all mutual friends. I know I have to suck it up but I have absolutely NO desire to be around her family at all mow and I'm having a really hard time reconcilling it.
I know this is long... Any help is greatly appreciated.
ETA- sorry for all the typos lol I typed this whole thing with 1 finger on my iPhone in a car on a bumpy road lol