blondebunny
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So let me preface by saying how much i absolutely love my mother in law. we have an amazing relationship. BUT we just recently moved into their house, so when my DH goes out of the country (on Aug 10) for medical school, it will just be me and them. When we made the decision that my DH was going out of country, we didnt even ask if I could move in with them, they asked when i was moving in. They have completely adapted to me leaving there and have completely turned their house and life upside down to accommodate my husband and I and our 3 cats. I have no problem with my FIL as I have never had a good relationship with my real father and my father in law is awesome and we get along good. BUT my MIL LOVES to talk, like love to talk so much she will just keep talking about the same thing and repeating it multiple times just because she loves to talk. I love to talk to, but sometimes it just makes my head spin. There are also other times that dont know if she is so entranced in talking that she doesnt listen when she asks a question and then will ask the question multiple times. Yesterday was my DH's thesis defense (he passed!!) and on the car ride home, she couldnt be quiet for a minute, we are talking about a 2 hr car ride.... Also, anytime my husband would ask me a question, she answered it.?.. I finally just shut up and pretended to sleep because I couldnt handle the talking anymore. I told DH when I got home how upset I was and stuff and tried to explain the situation with him. I am scared to death of living here now. I am just really scared that one day I might have enough and go crazy or something and ruin our relationship which i dont want to do. My inlaws treat and love me more than my own family does, so you can see why i dont want to ruin anything. i just dont know how to deal with my mother in law and having her tone down the talking a little. I think maybe the situation maybe just be really tense at the moment as we have been in some situations lately (car ride and what not) that we normally wont be in so it wont be that bad. Does anyone have any good tips on how to help? Im just scared to talk to her because she is kinda sensitive and very stubborn (according to DH) and i dont want it to affect our relationship, so maybe something on my side that I can do to help...
Also, DH has to go to an airport about 2 hrs away... I know Im gonna be a mess, but after the whole car ride before, I am now rethinking having my MIL come... Would you rather just go alone than with her in this case?? I kinda think I wanna just go with DH so we can be alone ya know for the 2 hrs, I just know the car ride home is gonna suck, but... i just dunno how much talking i can handle!
Sorry if this sounds crazy, and i know others have ALOT more issues with their inlaws, I am just trying to get advice so I dont lose my amazing relationship with my mother in law! Thanks in advance!
Also, DH has to go to an airport about 2 hrs away... I know Im gonna be a mess, but after the whole car ride before, I am now rethinking having my MIL come... Would you rather just go alone than with her in this case?? I kinda think I wanna just go with DH so we can be alone ya know for the 2 hrs, I just know the car ride home is gonna suck, but... i just dunno how much talking i can handle!
Sorry if this sounds crazy, and i know others have ALOT more issues with their inlaws, I am just trying to get advice so I dont lose my amazing relationship with my mother in law! Thanks in advance!