meresal
Ideal_Rock
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This is my first post in the BIW form... but just so that you know, I''m not engaged yet. C wants it to be a huge surpirse, but after talking about timing earlier this week, we decided that booking a venue would be a good idea. Our original date area was Spring 2010, but neither of us want to wait that long... and since I promised him it wouldn''t be during football season, we are now looking at July/August 2009. (Lots of friends, including him on a big game day... might not show up bc of college games on Saturday''s. A few of his buddies and one of my sisters are Aggies, pshh!!) LOL. One of the many reasons I love him... the football part, not the Aggie part.
Anyway, I absolutely love the idea of a very elegant evening wedding, but as I have thought about it this week, I am beginning to think that it will be too much for me. I am "Daddy''s Little Girl" and my entire family came to terms long ago (we''re talking middle school) with the fact that I will be a complete mess on my wedding day. I''m already getting anxiety about walking down the aisle and knowing that the minute I let go of my dad''s hand, I will no longer be his. (Yes, my eyes are watering...) It''s a really emotional subject, and I''m now thinking that just being engaged for the rest of our lives doesn''t sound so bad.
C and I love to travel and love the ocean... being the youngest of 3 older sisters, my family has done the church thing to a tee, and I think that a beach would be very relaxing, and I wouldn''t get that dreaded feeling of leaving my family "behind". However, there are a few catches, and mostly have to do with C''s family and friends. His GF and GM are pretty much house-stricken. Taking them to a secluded beach would not only be hard on them, but would also mean that C''s mom would have to watch them the entire time, and the whole point of destiantion is for everyone to have a great time. Second problem is some of C''s friends. Though we both are young and have been blessed with amazing jobs, some of his friends haven''t been afforded the same luxury. Getting them to spend, heck just SAVE, the money to attend would be impossible for us and them. I don''t have a problem paying for the wedding party to attend, but we''re not going to front the cash for everyone we want to be there. I think lots of our friends will end up not coming. Which I thought a great black tie affair after we came back would take care of, but then I come back to his grandparents, and I can''t imagine them not being there for the ceremony. AHHHHHHH!!!!
I know that the wedding is supposed to be about us, but what do you do when you think one thing will kill you from anxiety and tears, and the other means you can''t have the ones you love? Please give me some insight. I thought that this would be better to post in BIW, than LIW, since I''m hoping many of you have conquered this dilemma already.
If you made it all the way here, thank you!!!
Anyway, I absolutely love the idea of a very elegant evening wedding, but as I have thought about it this week, I am beginning to think that it will be too much for me. I am "Daddy''s Little Girl" and my entire family came to terms long ago (we''re talking middle school) with the fact that I will be a complete mess on my wedding day. I''m already getting anxiety about walking down the aisle and knowing that the minute I let go of my dad''s hand, I will no longer be his. (Yes, my eyes are watering...) It''s a really emotional subject, and I''m now thinking that just being engaged for the rest of our lives doesn''t sound so bad.
C and I love to travel and love the ocean... being the youngest of 3 older sisters, my family has done the church thing to a tee, and I think that a beach would be very relaxing, and I wouldn''t get that dreaded feeling of leaving my family "behind". However, there are a few catches, and mostly have to do with C''s family and friends. His GF and GM are pretty much house-stricken. Taking them to a secluded beach would not only be hard on them, but would also mean that C''s mom would have to watch them the entire time, and the whole point of destiantion is for everyone to have a great time. Second problem is some of C''s friends. Though we both are young and have been blessed with amazing jobs, some of his friends haven''t been afforded the same luxury. Getting them to spend, heck just SAVE, the money to attend would be impossible for us and them. I don''t have a problem paying for the wedding party to attend, but we''re not going to front the cash for everyone we want to be there. I think lots of our friends will end up not coming. Which I thought a great black tie affair after we came back would take care of, but then I come back to his grandparents, and I can''t imagine them not being there for the ceremony. AHHHHHHH!!!!
I know that the wedding is supposed to be about us, but what do you do when you think one thing will kill you from anxiety and tears, and the other means you can''t have the ones you love? Please give me some insight. I thought that this would be better to post in BIW, than LIW, since I''m hoping many of you have conquered this dilemma already.
If you made it all the way here, thank you!!!