Wedding Xanax prescription will be refilled promptly!

[Izzy03]

I went dress shopping for the first time this weekend, and I can honestly say I am not looking forward to going again. I tried on a bunch of dresses that I thought I would love, including Maggie Sottero''s Coco, which I thought would be the one. I liked the dresses, but honestly felt ZERO sparks.

How the heck am I suppose to find the ONE? Then the bridal attendant tells me that I only have about one month to order a dress because they take about 4-6 months to arrive, and 1-2 months for alterations. How the heck did I not know this before?

Then I started working out a game plan on when I should quit my job to start moving towards moving in with my fiance. We decided that I should quit late November, and move back in with mom and dad until the wedding. That will give me time to plan the wedding, and find a new job where my Fiance lives (plus save some $$). This is about the time I started freaking out?

What am I doing? Quitting my job? What about not having health insurance for those months in between jobs? Is this all happening way too fast? I know I love my fiance and want to marry him sooner than later, but I guess I just kept telling myself "It''ll work out." I have realized that big decision need to made now, and things don''t just magically fall into place. Is this what people call the prewedding jitters? Maybe it was just my first BIG dose of eating, drinking, sleeping, and breathing WEDDING! Dress shopping, registering, finalizing guest lists, and moving in with my man.

Wow, I hope this all makes sense. Please tell me my fellow PSers have experienced freakouts of this sort?

 

[kittybean]

Wow--that is a lot to handle at once, Izzy. *HUGS* to you during this stressful time. I don''t have much advice on the big stuff, but I will be thinking of you.

On the dress shopping: I wouldn''t worry. A month is plenty of time to find a dress. My advice (having just gone through these exact feelings): try on more dresses, get opinions from as many people as you can, and pick something that feels like *you*. I actually tried on the Maggie Sottero Coco, and while I thought it had a nice silhouette, I didn''t love it either. I actually didn''t like most of the Maggie gowns I tried on, even though I always thought I''d be a "Maggie bride." I definitely was freaking out last week! What helped the most for me was to try a bunch of different dresses--even the ones I thought I''d hate--because each one led me toward the dress I ended up picking. I didn''t have a big "this is the dress" moment, and I think that''s fine and normal. I also took a good chunk of time to just think about what I wanted, and I think that stepping back a little and trying to make a rational decision helped a lot. The bridal industry plays so much on your emotions at every step, and I think that realizing that and trying to make decisions like you would in an everyday situation can be very helpful.

So . . . look around some more, get some opinions, mull it all over, and remember that no matter what you pick, you will look gorgeous and radiant and perfect the day you marry the man of your dreams. (So corny, I know--but it''s true!)

 

[miraclesrule]

Hey, it''s a very scary time. I understand your apprehension. It''s a lot to have happen in a short time frame.
Here''s hoping that everything will fall magically into place. It usually does, but it doesn''t happen stress free. I guess that''s the part nobody broadcasts enough.

Congrats on your upcoming wedding.

 

[trinity911]

hey Izzy, a hug from me too, it sounds as if you''re being pressurised needlessly by the bridal shops. As kittybean said, something about the word wedding makes vendors go into some weird (time or money) frenzy.

So, here''s my 0.02. Look round some more stores. Don''t be forced into a decision you''re not comfortable with. If push comes to shove and you find one you like most even a few months down the line, you can always try to buy the sample from the store. Quite a few people on this site have done this and one poster even tracked down her dream dress - in a different continent - only 6 weeks before her wedding. Good luck, let us know how you get on. And, finally, quite a few brides find themselves loving the dress they were least sure about in the shop so try on as many as possible.

 

[doodle]

yes, definitely try on a little of everything. a good sales associate in a bridal shop can look at your body and know what will flatter it, so humor them, too, to a certain extent. try on things you think you''ll hate, too--sometimes, you''ll be surprised! just don''t panic and don''t let anyone else determine how YOU feel in the dress--that''s what really matters.

as for everything else, it''s a lot to adjust to, and your being concerned shows you have a good head on your shoulders. getting married is stressful, but bridal magazines wouldn''t sell so well if they depicted stressed out brides sitting on pricescope at 3 am researching ideas for pretty wedding invitations, varying veil lengths, and how much liquor to order for 200 people, yet that''s exactly why we''re all here!

now, for the real question...where are pictures of these dresses you''ve tried on? YOU''RE WITHHOLDING!

 

[marchswallowbird]

I have found that it''s just as important to shop for the right bridal STORE as it is for the right bridal gown! The best bridal shops will really work with you to try to find you the right type of gown for your body shape. They will bring you dresses according to your preferences, but if they are really paying attention, they will also go find some other dresses that you would never in a million years have picked to try on. That''s what happened to me, and one of those was THE dress.

So make sure you shop around at a whole slew of different bridal shops also!

 

[iwannaprettyone]

I think the bridal salon you go to has a big influence on this. The place I went pulled everything and anything, I bought something I totally didn''t think I would love. lol

Treat it as a fun dress up time, the right one will come along...I promise.

 

[Izzy03]

Thanks guys! I guess I just assumed that dress shopping would be SO much fun and zero stress. Especially because I love to shop! Oh well.

I went dress shopping again with my mom tonight and found a dress I like above the rest. I won''t even bother posting the other dresses, I am still a little depressed about them! I just started a new thread that has pictures of the dress I found tonight.

Thanks for all the hugs! I needed them!

 

[Harleigh]

I already commented on your other thread, but I just love the title of this one...I seriously could''ve used some Xanax before my wedding...ha ha ha! I hope the dress you found leads you down the right path...it''s lovely on you!