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Wedding Would you wear your e-ring?

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I''m throwing it right out there - I work in a jail in a small town. When FH and I got engaged we picked a Scott Kay look alike that seemed pretty sturdy in case I smashed it around a little. The handles on those metal doors do a little damage, but what doesn''t? The ring is insured so if I do have an issue it''s taken care of. Eventually I''ll come across someone I know from the outside and they''ll start blabbing my name, my FH''s name, etc... so discrection isn''t really an issue. I wear my gloves big, so ripping isn''t a problem. Part of me just feels that my ring is a little big and blingy to be wearing in a correctional setting. On the other hand I miss it so badly when I leave it at home. I tried wearing it on a necklace but that could break in a fight and who knows where it''d end up. I have a "just because" ring from him that''s flatter but I still feel naked without my e-ring. It''s the emotions associated with it, no matter what happens during the day (and you wouldn''t believe a bad day here) I see that ring and it makes me feel loved and special.

What would you do: Wear it? Use the "just because?" Any other suggestions? Other LEO''s please speak up!
 
I probably wouldn''t wear it. I work in a vets and don''t wear mine either-mainly to protect it from all the stuff that would get on it. If I worked in a jail, I don''t think I''d wear mine. It sounds weird but I''d probably be a bit self conscious.
 
I wouldn't wear it for fear of something happening to it or my finger!
 
I wouldn''t wear it. In addition to worrying about what might happen to it, I''d worry that the bling might incite the inmates in some way. I really feel for you on this, I love having my ring on all day, when I''m in a boring meeting I kinda zone out and just stare at my sparkly ring.
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I wouldn''t wear it. Aside from it potentially getting damaged, I think I''d feel a little guilty, like I was flaunting what I had to folks who have not. I''d just enjoy it all the more when I was wearing it at home or out and about.
 
I feel the same way when I leave mine at home. But I do it anyway. Can you get a nice colored stone ring you love and wear that day to day? Something with a hard center stone?
 
It sounds like a nice band might work better--you''d still have a ring, but it would be safer, more secure, easier if you wear gloves often, etc. I love bands and rarely wear my e-ring.
 
I wouldn''t wear it. I work in an environment where wearing my engagement ring isn''t always possible. I just usually wear a flat band.
 
As much as I''d miss it, I wouldn''t wear it. I''d miss it a lot more if something were to happen to it while in a work setting. I agree with what others have said about wearing a band instead.
 
Oh, bettina, that''s a sucky situation. I wouldn''t wear it at work, but would use this as an excuse to get a really nice flat band
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along the lines of this: Whiteflash Bead Set Band to wear instead. Bands like this are blingy but not really ostentatious. I would definitely understand missing your ring.
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I felt sad leaving it to have it appraised, but I also love the look of a band--my mom works in a dentist''s office, and she has a band like this instead of a solitaire. I covet it.
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I would not personally wear it on my finger. However, depending on your uniform and how much "tusseling" (for a better word) you have to do with the prisoners, I would wear it on a necklace. Especially, let''s say if you have to wear a completely buttoned up shirt and you knew it would be safe because you have no physical contact with them.
 
I''m probably not a good person to get advice from on this since in the 2 months that I''ve had mine I had a stone fall out and another time banged it against a wall when the dog took off on me and two of the stones ended up crooked... but... I say leave it and wear a band. I think I''m going to do the same thing once I get it back from being fixed (once again) and though it SUCKS it''s much better than losing it or destoying it.
 
I wouldnt wear it. Then again I take off my ring alot. I dont wear it to the gym or to the cattery I visit daily. I also take it off when I sleep and shower.

It mightbe more honest to say that I only wear my ring when I am going "out out". Any place where I know I will be working with my hands I tend to leave it at home.

Then again, its been a year so maybe I have less separation anxiety. Also, I never wore jewelry before my e-ring so being without it doesnt make me feel weird/naked =)
 
I probably wouldn''t wear it - I''d feel more terrible if something happened to it than just not having it on and knowing it''s at home safe. Then I''d wear it EVERYWHERE else.
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As much as it would ''kill'' me, I would probably leave it at home. But I would miss it so much!
 
I keep going back and forth on this....

I am an Elementary School Art teacher and I take my ring off a lot to use paint and clay. I wear it on a necklace...I get nervous when I leave mine at home because then I can''t see it, I dont know if its safe. I feel safer with it around my neck. But, I always tuck the necklace under my shirt so it isn''t just hanging there loose.

Do you wear your gloves that you were talking about all the time?

I think, since you have insurance theft, breakage and loss is not a problem... If you miss it, then wear it! or wear it on a necklace tucked safely in your shirt!
 
Crap! I really do have to leave it at home now, don''t I? Thanks for all the imput, ladies! I guess I''ll just wear the more sensible ring I have and put it on a necklace. It just hurts to not be able to wear it somewhere I spend half my life. Maybe I''ll try for that band
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I wouldn''t wear it. I actually have a plain ring I wear instead just in case...
 
I wouldn''t wear it either. Being a cook is hard on the hands, and I don''t have a ering yet to worry about, but FF gave me a Peretti stacking band (with one tiny stone in it) and I always take that off to cook because I don''t want it getting gunky, and I don''t want to smash it or something else.

This is why my ering will be blingy and my wedding band will be plain.
 
i wouldnt wear it.
 
You should wear your ring! Don''t worry about feeling bad about the inmates - each and every one of those inmates (ok, apart from the ones that are truly innocent, and I don''t mean every inmate that SAYS they are) made a decision and that decision put them wear they are today.

My fiance works in a max security prison and he will wear his band, and his collegues wear their rings.

I don''t mean to be rude, but I think you are overthinking it. I think PS can do that to you and make you overthink a lot of things when it comes to jewllery and weddings. I do it too. When it comes down to it, it''s just a ring to everyone else. Not a weapon to incite a prison riot or anything. There are lots of things prisoners can''t have when in prison, sorry but they just need to accept that.

Enjoy your ring!!!
 
You know what your workplace is like and I don't, but my gut reaction is no, I wouldn't wear anything that could be considered ostentatious if I worked in a jail day in and day out. How about a band with a nice flush-set diamond (don't know the right terminology) or two or three? I know the experts here could help you find stones that look small but carry a nice sparkly wallop....

something along these lines: http://www.etienneperret.com/colored-diamond-jewelry/4mm-18kt-yellow-gold-starlight-band
 
I''m going to be a neurologist, and I personally don''t feel that wearing my engagement ring in a clinical setting like that would be tasteful or appropriate. It just doesn''t seem right to wear a blingy diamond around people who could potentially be visiting me for a very grim diagnosis. I don''t know why I feel this way, either; I remember getting blood drawn by a nurse who had this knocker of a rock and thinking, what an inappropriate place to be wearing that.

I certainly understand how you feel about leaving it behind, but it is likely for the best. A prison simply doesn''t seem like an appropriate place for it, especially if you have to be concerned about damage.
 
I would just wear a plain gold band and be done. Save the ring for when you are not working, it seems more prudent.
 
I wouldnt wear it. I would go for a flatter ring now, and once your married, just wear a plain wedding band. Im a pharmacist and sometimes I don''t even like to wear my e-ring to work b/c I bang it around a lot. When I did my clinical rotations, all of the ICU doctors just wore their wedding bands (a lot of hand washing, glove wearing, etc).
 
To echo what everyone else has said, I don''t think a correctional setting is the place for a blingy ring. You don''t want to have to worry about your ring, call attention to yourself or cause damage to your ring. It will be much safer at home and you will have peace of mind that it''s safe. Wear a plain band to signify that you''re taken, and wear your "real" ring whenever you''re not at work.
 
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