would you expect me to pick up the dinner tab?

[Cehrabehra]

if they don''t say "my treat" then I assume it''s dutch

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 9/22/2009 5:58:49 PM
Author: MC
Yes, if it was YOU DF, I would expect you to pick up the tab.

Always, though, when we go out with friends, each couple picks up their own tabs. Once we had friends go out to dinner with us and we knew they were broke (this was in our early 20s) and we paid for everything. Now that we''re older, I wouldn''t ask them out to eat because they''re the type to still expect us to pay because that''s how they are.

my pleasure MC,but these days i can only afford to pick up the tab at Micky D''s.

 

[zoebartlett]

I wouldn''t expect it. To me, just because you''re asking another couple to go out to eat, it doesn''t mean the meal''s on you.

We just went out last weekend with one of my husband''s coworkers and his wife. They asked us out and they ended up paying. It was very generous of them, but now we feel stuck because we know that if we go out again, it will be on us. We''re on a budget and we aren''t really in the position to be paying for all of us (we will though -- this one time).

 

[honey22]

Nup, we quite often meet couples for dinner and we always split the bill equally, unless of course I feel that FI and I have drank more, ordered way more etc, then I will throw a few more dollars in just to be fair.

 

[onvacation]

I think it depends on the invitation and the wording. Also, perhaps the type of relationship you have with that couple.

Quick question: On those occasions where you split the bill, does it bug anyone if someone else does the math and says everyone should pay X amount, equally, when someone has obviously ordered more, or something more expensive?

 

[DiamanteBlu]

If I am alone [usually after a meeting or a conference or something], I always make a move for my handbag to put in my share of the bill. I ask "how much do I owe?". If it is with a group of ladies, somebody is always available to tell me what I owe. LOL! Interestingly, if there are guys involved, I will always be told not to be ridiculous and to put away my bag.

If DH and I are together we may grab the bill and take care of the whole thing or somebody else will [it is always "you can get it next time" to those that are objecting.].

Sometimes the bill will get split - usually evenly.

If we go out after shooting on Monday nights with a whole pile of people [where one gets a coffee, another gets a beer, another gets a burger and fries, etc.] we each throw in what we think we owe. Talk about overtipping . . . the waitresses love us and fight to get our table when they see us coming because the tip is always at least 50% of the check! LOL!

 

[lyra]

Date: 9/22/2009 3:29:59 AM
Author:Dancing Fire
what''s the basic American rule?....

if i ask you and your SO to join my wife and i for dinner at a restaurant.

We would always split the bill regardless of how the invitation was worded. We are not comfortable having anyone else pay for our meal. We would however, pay for someone else''s entire meal if we invited them out. I know, it doesn''t make sense. That''s just the way we are. We would pay for wine or drinks for the table too. Oh, but we''re in Canada.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 9/22/2009 9:23:25 PM
Author: DiamanteBlu
If I am alone [usually after a meeting or a conference or something], I always make a move for my handbag to put in my share of the bill. I ask ''how much do I owe?''. If it is with a group of ladies, somebody is always available to tell me what I owe. LOL! Interestingly, if there are guys involved, I will always be told not to be ridiculous and to put away my bag.

i tell the waiter/ess be sure to place the bill in front of the lady with the BIGGEST diamond.

 

[perry]

DF:

While it depends on many variables - I figure I should be clear in your case: If I''m having dinner with you - I''ll expect you to pick up the bill.

Perry

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 9/22/2009 10:36:07 PM
Author: perry
DF:

While it depends on many variables - I figure I should be clear in your case: If I''m having dinner with you - I''ll expect you to pick up the bill.

Perry

a note to myself...be sure not to ask Perry to join us for dinner.

 

[Gailey]

Date: 9/22/2009 9:53:32 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 9/22/2009 9:23:25 PM
Author: DiamanteBlu
If I am alone [usually after a meeting or a conference or something], I always make a move for my handbag to put in my share of the bill. I ask ''how much do I owe?''. If it is with a group of ladies, somebody is always available to tell me what I owe. LOL! Interestingly, if there are guys involved, I will always be told not to be ridiculous and to put away my bag.

i tell the waiter/ess be sure to place the bill in front of the lady with the BIGGEST diamond.

I must remember that one!

 

[Gailey]

Date: 9/23/2009 12:30:04 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 9/22/2009 10:36:07 PM
Author: perry
DF:

While it depends on many variables - I figure I should be clear in your case: If I''m having dinner with you - I''ll expect you to pick up the bill.

Perry

a note to myself...be sure not to ask Perry to join us for dinner.

Any man with an arrowana can afford to buy my supper!

 

[Burberrygirl]

I''d pay for my half, unless you absolutely insisted. I kinda feel uncomfortable letting other people pay for me..

 

[Stone Hunter]

Date: 9/22/2009 9:53:32 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 9/22/2009 9:23:25 PM
Author: DiamanteBlu
If I am alone [usually after a meeting or a conference or something], I always make a move for my handbag to put in my share of the bill. I ask ''how much do I owe?''. If it is with a group of ladies, somebody is always available to tell me what I owe. LOL! Interestingly, if there are guys involved, I will always be told not to be ridiculous and to put away my bag.

i tell the waiter/ess be sure to place the bill in front of the lady with the BIGGEST diamond.

LOL That''s one way to handle it!!

We always get individual checks. That way we only pay for what we eat/drink and they only pay for what they eat/drink.

Now if we each had similar tastes and the same number of people in our family we might just split the bill. But that doesn''t happen often.