Wedding Worst engagement photos ever!

[buttercup80]

First off, sorry if the title was misleading, but there are no pics here - too embarassing! Sorry I''ve been MIA, but my grandmother has been really ill and my wedding (which I thought I was almost done planning) sort of fell apart AND I started my summer job - which turns out to be completely horrible.

So the pictures. . . I don''t even know what to say - they are so bad! We took them last Wednesday evening and even before we saw the results, I knew I wanted to switch photographers - we booked with a studio so there''s more than just the one guy. I already spoked to our videographer (who we had booked with) and he''s going to call me this week with some options. He even offered a new set of engagement pics - which is nice because even thought I don''t really need engagement pics it would be a good way to see if we like the photographer. I am going to ask if we can go outside for this set because I think part of the reason I don''t like these is the cheesy blue streaked background (a la bad school pictures). I''m not going to say that FI and I are completely photogenic (I am definitely NOT), but I have looked WAY better than this. Of 60 shots, 12 are of the back of my head! How do you take engagement pics without the bride''s face?

There are also several shots where the angle he had us tilt our necks is off - we look like bobble-head dolls. . . Most of them though, I look possessed and FI looks stoned or something. . . NOT good.

Also, our officiants dropped us

and then we went through 3 who turned us down - we are not *really* interfaith, but FI wasn''t raised Jewish and now we are down to our last option before just getting a judge - I''m going to meet him at services tonight so I hope it works out. A judge wouldn''t be terrible, but I wanted a Jewish ceremony. . . Sigh.

Sorry for the long post - thanks for letting me rant. . .

 

[AmberGretchen]

I''m so sorry to hear about your dreadful experience. That does sound like a nightmare - its great though that they are willing to work with you to try out a different photographer. I agree you should definitely try them out to make sure you are comfortable with them and their skills.

I''m sorry to hear about your other troubles as well. HUGS. I really hope things start to look up for you on the wedding planning front soon.

 

[Independent Gal]

Oh, man.

I hope things look up soon!

Can you complain about the engagement photos to the studio? Demand they be re-shot by another photographer? I mean, if the product quality is cr@p, maybe they can do something about it.

 

[buttercup80]

Thanks Amber and Indy - I will be talking to the video guy on Monday or Tuesday to talk about our options - but we''re definitely going to go in again. . . not really for the pictures, but more to see if we get along any better with a different photographer. I didn''t dislike the other one or anything, he just didn''t work well with us and we didn''t really feel comfortable - and it completely showed in the pics.

I''m off for the weekend to visit my grandmother in hospice. . .

 

[nclrgirl]

Good luck! It is hard to find a photographer who makes you feel comfortable AND can find the best angles for you and your FI.

 

[choro72]

I''m sorry about your photographer...Definitely do NOT settle for someone who doesn''t make you feel comfortable. 20% of the pictures were that of the back of your head?? That''s ridiculous.

I thought that even if your FI is not raised Jewish, if he is technically Jewish they will marry you?

I hope you have a good time with your Grandmother

 

[Independent Gal]

Hey Buttercup, a friend of mine recently researched this extensively, because she and her now husband didn't want a Rabbi. As it turns out, Jews don't need a Rabbi to have a kosher Jewish ceremony. The actual Jewish part of the ceremony is only between the bride and groom. He says something, gives her a ring. They're married. Then there are lots of traditions surrounding it, but it's only that formula being recited that makes them married in the eyes of God. Nothing that a rabbi would do makes it count.

In other words, the only thing you 'need' a rabbi for is to make it legal in the eyes of the state. And that means you can still have the Jewish ceremony, and just have the Judge get up and pronounce you husband and wife so that The Law is happy.

Seriously, look it up! Ask a rabbi! All is well!