violet02
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I haven't posted on PS in a week... I've been in a wedding shell shock or something.
I went to LA last weekend with four girl, 2 of them bridesmaids and had a huge falling out with my 2 bridesmaids while there. Basically my friends wife who's supposed to be my solid as a rock bridesmaid and I had a differing of opinions when it came to what she planned and wanted to do and what I actually wanted to do. Friday was fun there but Saturday was a disaster... Basically it started off with them going to dinner without me because I had napped too long and wasn't ready to go out, this was after we had some ill feelings about her 'agenda' and my desire to just shop and hang out and be casual.. (I'm really shortening this here...)
It wound up with me going and staying at my aunt and uncles house saturday night. I got on the same plane as them on sunday but my 2 BM's had switched seats to sit together elsewhere. I sat with my two other friends who were nothing but sympathetic about the whole thing. I wound up leaving on Saturday in a calm (yet I was pissed!) way in order to avoid fighting with the main BM (my friends wife) who is prone to hysteria and crazed emotional fights. I did NOT want to go there with here. I went to the airport and decided to be an adult about it and apologize for my behavior and thank them for their efforts only to be shunned on the plane.
Monday BM #2 a very old friend of mine made ammends, her beef was that I left.. and that I didn't seem grateful enough to the other BM for her efforts, which is kinda crappy since I don't think I was being ungrateful... I think the issue with BM#2 is that financially she's very tight on money so when things didn't go so well she was pissed that she'd even spent the money to go in the first place... (which btw, I wound up getting stuck with the mini van rental bill and two nights hotel room charges which I didn't mind paying so I didn't have to hear about that too). She said some crappy things I didn't agree with but we agreed to disagree and put it behind us because I think both of us had our own negative moments that weekend.
BM #1 was wound tight as a drum... on Friday when we arrived late we missed our dinner reservations then she promptly got into a gigantic screaming match with the cab driver who drove us from one side of LA to the other all because she refused to accept that he might know where he was going. $90 later we made it. I negotiated with him on the price after we made her walk away from the car. He refused to even discuss the situation with her there. In fact while in the cab my other friend had to turn around and ask her to shut up because it was ridiculous. Suffice to say after the weekend she proceeded to call my man of honor and cry all over him with this elaborate story about how I 'screamed and yelled at her' I was 'mean' and did nothing but belittle her and make her feel bad. I have to say that's just outright BS. My other friend that was there said if anything I was pissed sounding but not yelling (she said um, yelling is what she did that to that poor cab driver) and then I left before she got hysterical. She went on and on about how I hurt her so deeply. All this after I had also sent her an 'olive branch' email (same as to BM#2)...
My other friend that was there was *this close* to be the replacement bridesmaid for #1 until she finally calmed the hell down and was reasonable. I'm still not happy about the situation but for the sake of the wedding and my friend/her husband and for all of our mutal friends I decided to put it behind me and try to move forward. Of course she's trying very hard to make sure we have some major heart to heart about it but I got her to at least agree to do this after the wedding because honestly I can't deal with the drama three weeks before my wedding, I mean seriously... I feel better about it now since I have since taken back the paper projects from her and taken over all the rest of the details she was trying to help with... she said she wanted to not contribute anymore anyways to my man of honor. But after I saw her to pick up the paper she still wants to retain some control which I don't think is a good idea but I'm declining most if not all help from here on out. I said she could help with one project.
On the plus side my man of honor/best friend who has always been there for me has been there more than ever! He's really come through for me, I knew he would but this just shows what a true friend he is. He's even going to the final fitting with me to learn how to bustle my dress, something the two girls were going to do but I've since declined their help with.
They are still throwing me a shower on sunday which they have both promised that we willl all enjoy. I am putting a smile on my face and trying to remain positive but part of me deep down is very dissapointed. It's been a very painful week. The guys had a great bachelor party by the way.. they were all sympathetic saying that the weekend should have been a big party for me and not some regimented agenda that my BM chose all based on what she liked to do. I wish I had never done it in the first place... Just going through the agony of having to figure out if I had to have a last minute replacement bridesmaid was the worst. On the flip side they were freaking out on Sunday thinking I was kicking them out of the wedding which I never would have done but their immature shunning of me on the plane and at the airport was a big disappointment.
I hesitated posting this but I know they don't read PS... but you never know, heh. How sad would that be... 'um, we do read PS and here comes drama round two!'.
Sigh. I'm really stressed out and am trying my best to recover from this but ugh.
I went to LA last weekend with four girl, 2 of them bridesmaids and had a huge falling out with my 2 bridesmaids while there. Basically my friends wife who's supposed to be my solid as a rock bridesmaid and I had a differing of opinions when it came to what she planned and wanted to do and what I actually wanted to do. Friday was fun there but Saturday was a disaster... Basically it started off with them going to dinner without me because I had napped too long and wasn't ready to go out, this was after we had some ill feelings about her 'agenda' and my desire to just shop and hang out and be casual.. (I'm really shortening this here...)
It wound up with me going and staying at my aunt and uncles house saturday night. I got on the same plane as them on sunday but my 2 BM's had switched seats to sit together elsewhere. I sat with my two other friends who were nothing but sympathetic about the whole thing. I wound up leaving on Saturday in a calm (yet I was pissed!) way in order to avoid fighting with the main BM (my friends wife) who is prone to hysteria and crazed emotional fights. I did NOT want to go there with here. I went to the airport and decided to be an adult about it and apologize for my behavior and thank them for their efforts only to be shunned on the plane.
Monday BM #2 a very old friend of mine made ammends, her beef was that I left.. and that I didn't seem grateful enough to the other BM for her efforts, which is kinda crappy since I don't think I was being ungrateful... I think the issue with BM#2 is that financially she's very tight on money so when things didn't go so well she was pissed that she'd even spent the money to go in the first place... (which btw, I wound up getting stuck with the mini van rental bill and two nights hotel room charges which I didn't mind paying so I didn't have to hear about that too). She said some crappy things I didn't agree with but we agreed to disagree and put it behind us because I think both of us had our own negative moments that weekend.
BM #1 was wound tight as a drum... on Friday when we arrived late we missed our dinner reservations then she promptly got into a gigantic screaming match with the cab driver who drove us from one side of LA to the other all because she refused to accept that he might know where he was going. $90 later we made it. I negotiated with him on the price after we made her walk away from the car. He refused to even discuss the situation with her there. In fact while in the cab my other friend had to turn around and ask her to shut up because it was ridiculous. Suffice to say after the weekend she proceeded to call my man of honor and cry all over him with this elaborate story about how I 'screamed and yelled at her' I was 'mean' and did nothing but belittle her and make her feel bad. I have to say that's just outright BS. My other friend that was there said if anything I was pissed sounding but not yelling (she said um, yelling is what she did that to that poor cab driver) and then I left before she got hysterical. She went on and on about how I hurt her so deeply. All this after I had also sent her an 'olive branch' email (same as to BM#2)...
My other friend that was there was *this close* to be the replacement bridesmaid for #1 until she finally calmed the hell down and was reasonable. I'm still not happy about the situation but for the sake of the wedding and my friend/her husband and for all of our mutal friends I decided to put it behind me and try to move forward. Of course she's trying very hard to make sure we have some major heart to heart about it but I got her to at least agree to do this after the wedding because honestly I can't deal with the drama three weeks before my wedding, I mean seriously... I feel better about it now since I have since taken back the paper projects from her and taken over all the rest of the details she was trying to help with... she said she wanted to not contribute anymore anyways to my man of honor. But after I saw her to pick up the paper she still wants to retain some control which I don't think is a good idea but I'm declining most if not all help from here on out. I said she could help with one project.
On the plus side my man of honor/best friend who has always been there for me has been there more than ever! He's really come through for me, I knew he would but this just shows what a true friend he is. He's even going to the final fitting with me to learn how to bustle my dress, something the two girls were going to do but I've since declined their help with.
They are still throwing me a shower on sunday which they have both promised that we willl all enjoy. I am putting a smile on my face and trying to remain positive but part of me deep down is very dissapointed. It's been a very painful week. The guys had a great bachelor party by the way.. they were all sympathetic saying that the weekend should have been a big party for me and not some regimented agenda that my BM chose all based on what she liked to do. I wish I had never done it in the first place... Just going through the agony of having to figure out if I had to have a last minute replacement bridesmaid was the worst. On the flip side they were freaking out on Sunday thinking I was kicking them out of the wedding which I never would have done but their immature shunning of me on the plane and at the airport was a big disappointment.
I hesitated posting this but I know they don't read PS... but you never know, heh. How sad would that be... 'um, we do read PS and here comes drama round two!'.
Sigh. I'm really stressed out and am trying my best to recover from this but ugh.
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