Women eat salads when men are around

[MonkeyPie]

Date: 12/11/2009 12:40:56 AM
Author: kenny
This place is like 99% women.

Is there any truth to what this study indicates?

Not in my case. It''s stupid to just eat a salad because you want a guy to think you eat like a bird or something. I want a dang hamburger

 

[kenny]

Kal, you didn't offend me. No problem.

I also hope I didn't offend anyone with the thread.
I just thought it was hogwash that women ate differently around men than women, and wanted to ask women if they thought there's anything to it.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 12/11/2009 7:55:14 AM
Author: TheBigT


And let''s not forget that a salad with ample full-fat dressing (and cheese, meat, croutons, etc) often has far more calories than a simple, plain burger.

yep, people are just fooling themselfs.

 

[MagsyMay]

Date: 12/11/2009 3:39:31 AM
Author: doodle
Hmm...for me, I''m more likely to scale back what I eat if I''m with a group of particularly fit, light-eating females than I am if I''m with a group of guys, but maybe that''s because I''ve always had predominantly male friends, have brothers, etc. For me, I actually tend to eat more if I''m hangin'' out with the boys. I''ve also noticed that my choice of beverage is different depending on my company--I usually prefer a cocktail, but I''ll drink a pint of beer if I''m with all guys just so I''m not the only one being a priss, haha!

Ditto to that! I eat more and drink more beer when I''m with boys. I also tend to hang out with more male friends, grew up with brothers, etc. too. Maybe the girls in the article were less used to being around males?

 

[lilyfoot]

Date: 12/11/2009 11:24:00 AM
Author: MonkeyPie

Date: 12/11/2009 12:40:56 AM
Author: kenny
This place is like 99% women.

Is there any truth to what this study indicates?

Not in my case. It''s stupid to just eat a salad because you want a guy to think you eat like a bird or something. I want a dang hamburger

Amen!

I have never changed what I eat around a man. My theory is that I look good, so it shouldn''t matter what I eat

I definitely ate a hamburger on our first date!

 

[tlh]

I''d agree... when I go out with my girlfriends, I''d order food. We typically go out for a sit down dinner - and relax and eat... and chit chat... and often talking makes one forget if you are hungry or not- and possibly mindless munching (ie chips and salsa at a mex rest.) But it is a social event - and typically food is around thsoe...

When I would go out with my guy friends we rarely go out for a meal. We go out to watch a game. I''ll order an app usually a salad- and we''ll get a couple pitchers of beer. A salad is easier to eat, and doesn''t take up a whole lot of space - but helps me from getting all my calories from a liquid.

Now when I''m with my husband, I''ll eat the most - because when we go out to eat - it is for food. We spend lots of time together - and so it isn''t necessarily a "catching up" thing... it is I''m ordering this because I want XXX type of food... so we go to that type of restaurant - order our food and eat up. We usually only go out for a late lunch (our meal of choice since we get up before sunrise) after our long run (which is any run longer than 10 miles) - and since I just burned over 1,100 calories running - I am usually hungry - as is my spouse --- so we typically put away some food as our reward... and at that point I''m usually not craving a salad.

 

[Kelli]

Haha I''m the exact opposite of this. If there are a lot of men around, it''s probably because I''m out with friends, or my fiance and his friends. In either case, we''ve probably been having beers and laughing a lot, which means I''ve thrown caution to the wind and gobbled down the whole fried up appetizer sampler of bar food. I eat like a complete hog when it''s the weekend and I''m out. On weekdays, I stick to a pretty decent diet so I stay in good shape.

There are never men around to witness the salad eating side of me.

 

[Porridge]

Date: 12/11/2009 2:38:10 PM
Author: Kelli
Haha I''m the exact opposite of this. If there are a lot of men around, it''s probably because I''m out with friends, or my fiance and his friends. In either case, we''ve probably been having beers and laughing a lot, which means I''ve thrown caution to the wind and gobbled down the whole fried up appetizer sampler of bar food. I eat like a complete hog when it''s the weekend and I''m out. On weekdays, I stick to a pretty decent diet so I stay in good shape.

There are never men around to witness the salad eating side of me.

This pretty much describes me too!

 

[NakedFinger]

I could definitely see this being true. I feel like people both men and women, try to be "on their best behavior" or whatnot when on dates, especially first dates. Maybe they wont drink too much, or make sure to use good manners, or a woman will order a salad. While I could see not wanting to order something with a ton of onions, or ordering ribs and needed a wet nap to clean yourself off at the table....i dont see the point of order a salad to insinuate you dont pig out. Its like false advertising. I can eat my SO under the table, and damn proud of it. If I didnt order a 20oz t-bone on our first date, which should be an opportunity to "get to know each other", he would have missed out on a very important part of who I am. Italian...and a big eater!

He loves that I dont try to put on a front that I am a health nut, and diet, etc. He likes that I can put it away with him! lol

I'll never forget I went out on a date with a guy....and ordered a salad because I genuinely and truly felt like one. And he goes "I am so glad you ordered a salad". And I'm like "Why is that?" and he has the audacity to say "I hate when girls pig out and eat alot. Its such a turn off". I got up and left...

 

[LGK]

I know I do this, but it''s more a question of whether or not I''m comfortable around someone. My best friends are girls, so I''m more comfortable around them, so I''m more likely to eat something sinful. I don''t have close guy friends, and I would be a lot more likely to order something light, or not each much, if I''m uncomfortable around a certain group of people. I suppose I have a some minor "food issues"- mostly I tend to be a meal-skipper if I''m stressed out. In HS I would go literally days without eating sometimes, not so much on purpose but because I wasn''t at home and had no money anyway, so I definitely got some bad food habits from that time period. So for me nervous=not likely to eat much. I don''t really think it''s that I''m trying to impress anyone with how girly I''m being but more just feeling awkward and thus not wanting food.

 

[TooPatient]

I eat healthier in a group of women. Especially if they are the skinny athletic type.

With men? Who really cares. If he can sit down with a 12 oz. steak, side of onion rings & fries, & dessert then why shouldn''t I enjoy a nice meal too?


I do love salads though. I make them all the time. I will NOT eat them out though. Just too many raw veggies to trust a bunch of restaurant employees to have cleaned them thoroughly. (I used to work in a deli -- I am VERY careful what I eat out now)

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

I just eat tic-tacs.

cheers--Sharon

 

[Kaleigh]

Date: 12/11/2009 6:04:28 PM
Author: canuk-gal
HI:

I just eat tic-tacs.

cheers--Sharon

Hehe!!!

 

[Mara]

I love salad sometimes. But it usually involves blue cheese, creamy dressing and bacon!

On dates I would eat whatever I wanted.

Sometimes I would eat more than they would.

 

[musey]

This is not news. This is an idea that's been joked about for years and years and years. And of course, most of what is joked about holds at least a grain of truth.

I've been self-conscious about what I order on early dates in the past, but not for caloric value. I was usually conscious of ordering something that wasn't too messy, or wouldn't get stuck in my teeth.

I've never been a salad person, and have been even less so after learning just how many calories are in the average salad vs., say, grilled chicken & veggies. Or even vs. a pasta dish. Restaurant salads are pretty bad...

 

[lucyandroger]

It''s the opposite for me. I''m much more likely to eat salad around a bunch of women. I really wouldn''t want to date a guy that was super concerned about what I eat. I''m healthy and that''s all he should be concerned about.

 

[choro72]

Well, here's my comparison. On my first night out with FI, I demanded that we stop by an ice cream place, and that he gets his own. FI was delighted that I even ordered it in a waffle bowl.

I once went out for a bridal shower with a bunch of size -18 girls. Every single one of them ordered tiny garden salads, and left half of it. When we were splitting the bill, the girls were sighing "Oooh, I have to jog double my usual time tomorrow to make up for this!".
I am ashamed to say that I caved in to the pressure and got a bowl of rabbit food myself.

ETA, well, this may not be a fair comparison because I didn't know these women. What I'm trying to say is that I'm more self conscience around women than men.

 

[yssie]

Date: 12/11/2009 9:44:00 PM
Author: musey
This is not news. This is an idea that's been joked about for years and years and years. And of course, most of what is joked about holds at least a grain of truth.

I've been self-conscious about what I order on early dates in the past, but not for caloric value. I was usually conscious of ordering something that wasn't too messy, or wouldn't get stuck in my teeth.

I've never been a salad person, and have been even less so after learning just how many calories are in the average salad vs., say, grilled chicken & veggies. Or even vs. a pasta dish. Restaurant salads are pretty bad...

Ditto.

I won't eat salad from just anywhere - I'm paranoid, and worry that the veggies aren't washed well, but I screen for messiness when I eat in company - no cooked spinach or french onion soup, and definitely a glass of water if there's red wine

 

[KatyWI]

Yeah.... restaurant salads are terrible for you.

Most of them have more than 1000 calories between the dressing, fried tortilla strips, cheese, etc.

If I do eat a salad in a restaurant, I make sure that there are ONLY veggies/protein source on my plate, and that the dressing is on the side for a dip/drizzle. I''ve never liked my salads drowning in dressing, a light vinaigrette is about all I can usually handle. I like the way the greens/veggies taste!!

 

[radiantquest]

I eat a lot and I eat it fast. DH laughs at me and says that I have it down to a science. While I am swallowing the bite the next bite is on its way in.

I can tell you that if I werent married and I went on a date with a man I would order whatever sounded good and I would eat it up. If he is afraid, then he is not the man for me.

Eating salad on a date or something is a little misleading. I mean if a guy takes you on a date and you eat salad and then this continues then eventually you would be tired of the ruffage and he finally sees you tear into a steak or double cheeseburger or something he will be shocked.

I say order the 8oz NY Strip with baked potatoe and veggies. Be sure to ask for extra sour cream and butter. Then eat it all. That way he will know what he is getting into.

 

[AdiS]

Most of my friends are guys. And I''m married. If I were to eat only salads in males'' company I''d be starving.

I love pizza, cheeseburgers and fries. I love beer. I love football. And I love cursing the referee. And I''m not ashamed of it!

 

[KimberlyH]

When I was in that age group I absolutely ordered salads on first dates and in groups of men. As I got older and more comfortable in my own skin that changed a bit. I knew my husband for a few months before we started dating in the traditional sense and one of the first things he said when we went to our first sit down dinner together was "Do not order the least expensive thing on the menu" and he was absolutely correct that I would have had he not said that, I felt challenged and had to change my mind.

In general I used to eat like those I was surrounded by, now that I''ve gained and subsequently lost a significant amount of weight I eat what seems reasonable and don''t pay much attention to what others are having.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 12/12/2009 10:54:37 AM
Author: radiantquest
I eat a lot and I eat it fast. DH laughs at me and says that I have it down to a science. While I am swallowing the bite the next bite is on its way in.

I can tell you that if I werent married and I went on a date with a man I would order whatever sounded good and I would eat it up. If he is afraid, then he is not the man for me.

Eating salad on a date or something is a little misleading. I mean if a guy takes you on a date and you eat salad and then this continues then eventually you would be tired of the ruffage and he finally sees you tear into a steak or double cheeseburger or something he will be shocked.

I say order the 8oz NY Strip with baked potatoe and veggies. Be sure to ask for extra sour cream and butter. Then eat it all. That way he will know what he is getting into.

or order a 16 oz steak like my wife did and then clean up the rest of my food.

 

[Rachel9]

Not me, love salads but I still order what I want.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I don't go out to eat very often so when I do, I go for the good stuff. I love meat and I love beer. Protein and carb taken care of!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 12/11/2009 9:44:00 PM
Author: musey
. Restaurant salads are pretty bad...

Re: resturant salads. A pottery instructor of mine years back was married to a chef and she had said that the lettuce was washed in sugar water so that it would taste better.

 

[chemgirl]

I was lurking around and noticed this post about my school! Although I do notice myself eating differently than I normally would when I''m with a guy I''m trying to impress (ie try something adventurous), I have some doubts about this study. Did the article mention which cafeteries they used? I didn''t see it. Most of the cafeterias on campus are set up as two large rooms. The first room is full of food court style restaurants. Its only AFTER purchasing the food that you enter the seating area. In many cases you can''t even see the seating area from the area where you purchase food. Also, in some cases, the seating area is made up of very large tables and you don''t know many of the people sitting near you.

Students don''t often go to the cafeteria in groups. You are not required to eat in the seating area and the welcome group used to give out tuperware to new students so they could take their meals to their rooms without creating litter. Classes run from 8:30 am to 10:00 pm, so friends rarely have free time in common. I usually eat with one or two friends, or go to the cafeteria solo and hope I recognize somebody once I get to the seating area.

So really, on most occasions, I either eat at a large table with strangers, eat with one or two good friends (who I wouldn''t change my eating habbits for), or eat with somebody I recognize after I have already chosen my meal.

I really think I''m the norm and I don''t see how my eating habbits could possibly be infuenced in the way described in the article.

Basically I think they have some issues they need to address before I totally buy in to their theory.

I also hope they didn''t take any results from the vegetarian restaurant (called a restaurant, but still cafeteria style)!

P.S. I just realized some could argue that larger groups may plan to eat together to celebrate something etc. Most of the school meal plans include "flex dollars" with participating restaurants outside of the University. When I was on a meal plan, I used to plan social events at these restaurants for a change of scenery. It seems to be a common practice.

 

[bee*]

Date: 12/11/2009 12:36:52 AM
Author: Dancing Fire
not my wife...she eats like a pig in front of me.

lol!! You''re hilarious df.

I definitely think there''s an element of truth in the study. I''ve seen friends that always order burger and chips when out with the girls have a tiny meal when a new guy is present or they are trying to impress someone. I met D when I was 17 and we went for a huge dinner on our third date. I wouldn''t even have thought to order salad although it is something I adore now.