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Dancing Fire

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if i said something to you that you didn't like? are you the type of person that wouldn't speak to me again?
 
Of course! Don't believe me just ask Holly. ;))
 
Man, the chances of me even remembering either 1. what you said or 2. that it was you who said it? Nil. I've got way too bad of a memory to hold grudges.
 
It all depends on what you said. :bigsmile:
 
Nope. Life is too short. ;)) You have a way about you. One I adore, the other I want to put into a time out. :naughty:



Gosh it's been almost 7 years of back and forth... I could never hold a grudge against you, because I "know" the person that you are.. You are a good man.. ::)
 
Depends on what you said, but, probably not. I don't generally hold grudges.
 
I have been known to carry a grudge - it is a sorry part of my character - I have carried three grudges in my life - two of them lasted a couple years each and have been laid to rest; the third is still alive. But I don't carry grudges for words - I find carrying a grudge creates negative energy - it takes significant and intentional cruel action before my grudge-bearing genes are primed - and my form of grudge basically means the other person has disappeared from my reality.
 
As long as you didn't threaten my kids, I'd be totally fine.

I've forgiven a lot worse than words in my 31 years!

Grudges just don't suit me. I'm too happy and optimistic.
 
I try really hard not to hold grudges, no matter how much I want to!
 
Nope, I'm generally not a grudge holder, although there is one girl from college that I don't care for and never will. Haven't seen her in 20 years, so no biggie anyway.

On PS/Internet, I have never had a grudge because I have a very bad memory. I wouldn't know who said what to me.
 
DF - I'd never hold a grudge against you...

Generally, though in RL, I do hold grudges, but there has to be something substantial said/done for me to hold one but yeah, once a person has crossed a line, I just can't get past what happened.
 
I forgive easily, but I rarely forget. :Up_to_something:
 
Depends on what is said. Generally I am not a grudge holder, but it depends on whether or not I speak my mind. If I feel free to speak my mind (and I DO speak my mind) I generally don't hold a grudge. If I bite my tongue you should be more worried. I cannot get rid of bad feelings until I unload them. But some things will never fully unload and I'll just cut you from my life.
 
On a serious note...it depends. I'm not even sure you could call what I do a grudge. If you've wronged me, I can write you out of my life in a big way. I eventually did this with my father. I didn't hate him, I just didn't have any use for him. Is that a grudge? Not sure.
On the other hand, I can deeply forgive things that were extremely hurtful, like certain parts of my 30+ year on-off relationship with my now-husband. So I don't know if I'm forgiving or hold grudges. Back to the initial sentence, I guess it depends.
 
In life away from PS, I can hold a grudge. Here on PS, I don't have a good enough memory as to who says what much of the time. So no, I don't think I'd hold a grudge against you, DF.
 
Granny would never hold a grudge against you!!!!!!! :wavey: :wavey: :wavey: :wavey: :naughty: :naughty:
 
I don't hold grudges here on PS or IRL.

I used to have a terrible habit of writing people completely out of my life if I felt wronged or extremely hurt by them. I understand that this is a good thing to do in certain situations, but I walked away from four different relationships (two friendships, one family member, one romantic LTR) and can now look back and say that was too drastic a measure in each situation. I wasn't holding a grudge, per say, I just walked away, no questions asked, and refused to ever speak to them again. (Well, my best friend and I didn't speak for over a year, but we ultimately repaired our friendship, thank goodness.)

This is something I worked very hard to change about myself, and I've changed and no longer do this. It wasn't easy, and I think I did what I did because I didn't feel like investing the emotional energy into actually confronting the situation, but I'm grateful that I recognized this about myself and changed.

So, no grudges here. If someone does something that upsets me, I confront them, and then move on.
 
I actually get over things very quickly. If I ever hold a grudge it's either because of something serious or because of a long-running pattern of bad behavior.

ETA and actually, in the case of the long-term bad behavior, I usually just stop spending a lot of time with that person. I don't exactly cut them out of my life, but I have no problem taking a serious step back from someone when necessary.
 
Linda W|1302479290|2892848 said:
Granny would never hold a grudge against you!!!!!!! :wavey: :wavey: :wavey: :wavey: :naughty: :naughty:
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Hey!! Where the heck have you been? I've missed you! Are we just frequenting different threads? Anyway, I'm glad to 'see' you!
 
ksinger|1302386345|2892183 said:
Of course! Don't believe me just ask Holly. ;))
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Gosh. And here I thought we'd become buds. (I need an emotie for a lower lip pout.)

:bigsmile:
 
Dancing Fire|1302384992|2892169 said:
if i said something to you that you didn't like? are you the type of person that wouldn't speak to me again?
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I keep coming back for more abuse. You know that. I'm hard to get rid of. Though some have tried. :naughty:

I'm tenacious! :lol:
 
Hi Holly, :wavey: :wavey: :wavey: :wavey:

I have missed you too. I have been around, but had a really bad year last year. My mom passed away, right before Christmas. We are in the process now of selling my parents house. It is really hard to do.

I will be posting more now. So happy to see you here. xoxoxoxox
 
Good to see you, Linda! So sorry to hear about your mother, though. Mine had a stroke last Nov., so I am going through some of the same things.

DF...no grudges here. Grudges hurt the person who holds them the most!
 
Linda W|1302569917|2893698 said:
Hi Holly, :wavey: :wavey: :wavey: :wavey:

I have missed you too. I have been around, but had a really bad year last year. My mom passed away, right before Christmas. We are in the process now of selling my parents house. It is really hard to do.

I will be posting more now. So happy to see you here. xoxoxoxox
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sorry to hear this news Granny.. :(sad
 
What is the difference between holding a grudge and just not liking someone for what you feel are legitimate reasons?

There is only one single person on PS I do not like for reasons I have elaborated on many times, yet I suspect some here think I hold a grudge.

I wonder if a grudge, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder.
 
LGK|1302386974|2892188 said:
Man, the chances of me even remembering either 1. what you said or 2. that it was you who said it? Nil. I've got way too bad of a memory to hold grudges.
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This is also me. :bigsmile:

You have to be pretty freakin' mean to me for it even to register, and then it has to be deliberate and overt for me to remember it.

For me to hold a grudge, you have to be completely, unbelievably, intentionally horrible to me. The kind of horrible, that when I tell the whole story, the listener gasps and goes wide-eyed. That horrible.

And then I'll still, eventually (a couple of weeks), forgive you if you are important in my life.

What does it say about certain people in my life, that I am holding a serious grudge against them right now?
 
Linda W|1302569917|2893698 said:
Hi Holly, :wavey: :wavey: :wavey: :wavey:

I have missed you too. I have been around, but had a really bad year last year. My mom passed away, right before Christmas. We are in the process now of selling my parents house. It is really hard to do.

I will be posting more now. So happy to see you here. xoxoxoxox
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I understand; my dad died in August last year. The probate is done, but I still have to clean out the house and put it on the market. Good gosh, I wish my parents had downsized in their golden years. It will be a hassle for sure.
 
You better believe I will. For as long as I live. I may even track you down. I'm horrible... :bigsmile:
 
Linda, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I can't imagine how hard it must be to lose a parent, I'm thinking about you and hoping that time will help to heal.

HollyS, my condolences on the loss of your father. I hope you are getting through the house clearing and sale with as little distress as possible under the circumstances.
 
Nah. I can't remember.

I vaguely remember someone doubting my profession, which was hilarious, but can't remember who it was.

Memory sucks :cheeky:
 
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